Im 25 n av jus been told to stay out of the girl i loves life! I sent her a txt telling her i was unhappy that she told me she didnt want a boyf n she sent me a txt back saying im bitter n twisted n2 leave her alone 4ever. I av been friends wiv her for 18 months, shes beautiful. We'd cuddle, hold hands, kiss on the lips(just pecs). I realised i loved her after a year n a bit she has lots of attention from guys n she split her boyf7 months ago, he was a jerk. I had2tell her i loved her.. more than friends. I was scared as ive never had a girlfriend n when i told girls in the past i like them, they dont reject me. Im overweight but have personality. I plucked up courage to tell her and she returned my feelings, i was soo happy. We kissed ncuddled all night, when i touched her she told me 'no' so i stopped, i was happy to wait aslong as she's happy. We were2 meet the next day but she didnt turn up, didnt answer my calls, 3wks later she has a new guy ntxt me just friends. What did i do??
2007-12-14 22:59:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hat you did was ignore all the good answers you got the last time you answered this question.
She may appear to be a witch but you appear to be bitter for asking this over and over instead of just moving on with your life.
2007-12-15 11:28:37 · answer #1 · answered by Yes that's me! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He man know how you feel. I'm half way to beign fat. She probbaly just didn't know how else to break it of with you. And only thinks of you as a friend. Or she dosen't want to lose what she has with you(as a friend). Worst thing is she probbaly doesn't find you attractive. Now she knows you have feeling but she thinks this will be easier to pretened that never happend. I hope she didn't just say she loved becasue she didn't want to break you heart. Well you'll never really know the truth till you ask.
Let me give you some advise
Beign overweight shouldn't matter to if someone loves you. Let's make that clear, unless it's a hazrd to your health or hers. And Girls come and go; the ones that stay are worth while. Now I'm not just saying that, in my experience it's true but it's also torture, damn it!
Anways If your friends first you should devote at least 6 months to get to know her and her friends.(her frineds are very important they make or break you) Then if you must tell her, please, don't ever tell her if she just broke up with someone or if she is always talkin about someone (who isn't you; oh family and female friends[straight ones] are nothing to worry about if she talks about them alot, just make sure you get along).
And finally revise what you did before you told her you loved her; Did she ever tell you how she felt all the time? Did she ever keep things from you? Did she always make time for you? Was she there for you? Was she ever extatic when she hear from you or with you? Did you truly matter to her? Somtimes it's the little things that tell you the truth when she dosen't. Someone she does trully loves you will make no obsticles that stand in their way to you.
I trully hope things turn out well for you.
2007-12-14 23:53:02 · answer #2 · answered by hox15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you know if she was comfortable cuddling and kissing you? If she can do that then i don't think she has a problem with your weight... maybe it is your ways... What if she wasn't ready to hug and cuddle, and she just felt pressured, I don't like to hug friends, I only hug old people and babies... It is just too weird for some people... So maybe she wasn't ready for all that and you just drove her away with all the contact... maybe not because your weight. If you still think it is your weight then hit the gym turn all your fat into muscles, then she won't be able to resist you.
2016-05-24 01:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she left you because of peer pressure or she was too worried about what her friends thought. She is not worth worrying about if she dumped you because of your weight. If she really loves you then she will return to you.
In the meantime do some exercise for your own benefit and amybe you will find the girl that goes for what's on the inside rather than the outside.
2007-12-14 23:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by Fifi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't u ever try to be someone else just to win their heart. coz if they can't see it in you at start they will lose it down the line. keep in mind that this good looking friend of urs aint the only person who is beautiful on the planet. i can understand the attachment but if i were in ur place id wear my shades n hide my tears n try to walk on. i was crazy behind this one girl, but she kept turning me down, she liked to tease me, make it look like we were in love, but it took me 2 years to see that she never loved me even for a day. and it took me 6 years hence forth to find my woman who im with today. it just happened, we met by chance. so keep smiling bro and walk on, u will never know who u might bump into around the corner. take care
2007-12-14 23:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by tonal syndrome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her make her choices. Focus on meeting others and you will be successful. Show that you are happy and confident with who and what you are. Better to find a person who wants to have a relationship with you as you are.
2007-12-15 03:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of non-shallow people out there, unfortunately there's probably even more shallow ones. Maybe it's not your weight that's a problem with this particular girl, I'm sorry you're hurt but don't fuss over her, there's someone out there who will appreciate you for you.
2007-12-14 23:08:51 · answer #7 · answered by Truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what size you are I agree there are needs.And if someone really loves you it shouldn't matter what size you are.She may have broke your heart but there are other girls that would appreciate you.So don't give up.She obviously did not feel the same as you did for her.
2007-12-14 23:07:03 · answer #8 · answered by sharen d 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your needs are not her problem, if it worries you lose weight
if you want to wait untillyou find a girl who loves you for what you are you could wait a while
the world ownes no one anything, you need to compete
dieting is hard
do it and show her what a hunk she missed out on
hit the gym
2007-12-14 23:03:39 · answer #9 · answered by bdsmslavegirly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Similar is the state of minds of other sides
2007-12-14 23:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋