First off, I know this question sounds a little juvenile, and for the record I don't consider myself a stud. But there are many very unattractive couples out there, and when I see them walking around the mall pushing their strollers, my mind can't help but envision the act required to conceive this child. And what I see troubles me.
I understand the "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder" answer, and the "sex is about love" answer. But sex IS undoubtably physical. You can't get around that. And for argument's sake, let's just assume that the partner is genuinely physically repulsed by his or her mate. How does the actual sex act take place without physical attraction, especially when making a baby isn't the goal?
2007-12-14 22:34:43 · 29 answers · asked by swollen_goat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Editing here:
This question applies to couples who are essentially bound to each other for whatever reason. Like a married couple whose looks have undeniably gone south or people who were unattractive from the get-go and just had to settle. And that is the way the world works, mother nature can be one cruel *****.
2007-12-14 23:02:29 · update #1
Maybe they have a strong mental connection that is more powerful than the physical -- getting to know someone's heart and mind can make you attracted to them.
Otherwise than that, maybe they're just golddiggers who don't have any morals.
2007-12-15 04:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by Awesome Writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is an interesting question for a few reasons...
1.) Doesn't physical attraction play some sort of role in anything when first liking someone especially when you are considering sex?
2.) Even if you don't think this person is beautiful, if you care about them enough to have sex...idk. When i first meet someone i don't think is very attractive, and i get to know them, their looks either improve or become no factor at all.
If you seriously think your partner is that repulsive, then i would think that either your relationship is not strong enough or that this person isn't right for you. I am sorry if i sounded rude in anything i had said. I wish you good luck!
2007-12-14 22:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by CC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, your idea of unattractive may not be the same as the other guy. Are you basing unattractive on what is on the outside or what is on the inside? Is it that this "unattractive" person is over weight? Has imperfect skin? Has off white teeth? Remember, most people pushing strollers obviously gave birth not long ago, causing the body to be heavier than normal and they also go through many other changes during pregnancy and post delivery. It's not only women who go through the weight gain process, studies show that men go through many of the same physical changes as their pregnant partner, during and after pregnancy.
2007-12-14 22:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by corinataz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Pal
That is the strangest thing, as i was recently with somebody i really liked, however i really was not physically attracted to them, and if sexual encounters are not the objective then i could have had a lasting relationship with her, and i will say i did not realise how important an individuals 'physical demena' was until i became involved with this person. Furthermore what did repulse me, was that this person just denied that which was physically apparent, and that added to what i did not like in what i saw.
2007-12-14 22:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by godsadvocate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont enjoy it , as with anything in life,don't do it !Anyway sex is not only looks but emotion and chemistry all go into making up lust.With some people power turns them on,others maybe money,and again others it might be the size of their feet for example., or breasts or muscles , there are so many variants as to why people feel sexually attracted that there would not be enough room to write them all here.Every persons likes and dislikes in food , cars, dress ,fitness etc are all different, as are our turn-ons.
2007-12-15 00:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by ernst v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My, you seem shallow. People who love each other do not have sex, they make love.
Do you think everyone that is handsome or pretty on the outside is just as sweet on the inside?
Ever bite into a fruit that looked delicious and it was bitter as hell?
Ever consider the handsome football jock or the head cheerleader types may have a bucket full of marbles?
Love is more than physical...when you understand that, maybe you'll attract more people who see you for more than what you look like on the outside.
2007-12-15 03:00:20 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've read that the more you see someone the more attractive you find them. For example, you may find people at work attractive that you didn't find when they first started there. The personality and the look grows on you. Also I think if your married you love your partner and find them attractive no matter how they look to other people. Its pretty simple, I just don't think you get it yet. Love can surpass physical attraction.
2007-12-14 22:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by Sleepyguy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just because you aren't physically attracted to someone, that doesn't mean no one else is. My partner appears convinced that I'm the most beautiful woman in the world. :)
I don't think anyone can sleep with someone they are physically repulsed by. Sex requires some level of desire.
2007-12-14 22:40:21 · answer #8 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Imagination
2007-12-14 22:39:03 · answer #9 · answered by Steve 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so true. I don't know how you would do it. If you're that repulsed by someone, not even thinking about another person could help you. I just don't know why you'd be in a relationship with someone you found repulsive anyway. It seems pointless, fair enough you might have a great connection and stuff, but so do friends.
2007-12-14 22:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋