ok, so this is my second attempt to have sex with my girl with no success. i would get hard but only for a short time. i get hard easily but it dies after like a minute. i told my girl that i can get hard quick if i see her naked but she only wants to do it in the dark. and that doesnt help me. Even if i see her naked i still dont think i would stay hard lol. im weird, i dont get hard lookin at her naked body but i get hard lookin when at her naked booty in sum position. she doesnt want me takin viagra either so. we are still virgins by the way. im 20 and she is 18. so ya.
2007-12-14 22:20:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let her play with you longer before getting down to business. Don't be so in an all-fired rush to make that supreme moment.
One girl I dated in high school and had a physical relationship with wouldn't let me go all the way until she was 28. I was still second for her. It didn't matter to me that I wan't first as long as I could be the last. By then I had been to college and did four years' military service, and I was up to like number 18. I then had the experience to help her awkwardness and she still trusted me.
2007-12-14 22:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first let me say I'm a girl so I don't know how much help I'll be but I know guys who said they couldn't maintain an erection the first time they had sex because they were nervous. The best advice I have is not to try too hard, just let it happen... maybe if you engaged in some foreplay, have your girl tease you for a bit before you attempt to actually have sex, and since you can't see much of her in the dark, try to visualize it.
2007-12-14 22:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by Truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe while you're watching porn, you are more relaxed b/c you don't have to focus on anyone else. While you're having sex w/your gf, you might feel pressure to perform which can affect your erection. I would ease up on porn, and find ways to become comfortable w/gf during sex. Also, are you drinking alcohol, or smoking pot? Many drugs, whether legal or illegal can affect your ability to maintain an erection. I know it can be embarrassing, but it happens to most guys (or so I've heard) during some point in their life. Good luck, I hope this helps.
2016-03-16 00:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy, but I think you are freaking yourself out. You are young and inexperienced and I think you should wait a bit. Why won't your girlfriend let you see her naked? It sounds like she has some hangups she needs to let go of. Maybe you should wait for sex until you two are a bit more comfortable with each other.
2007-12-15 01:07:54 · answer #4 · answered by A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're nervous and making a big deal out of having sex and in the end you psyche yourself out. You have to find a way to calm down, take things slow and manage the situation. Take control over things in the bedroom until you're ready to perform.
2007-12-14 22:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by Seattle_Slacker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lack of testosterone.
Or else, it is just in the 1st or 2nd time that you did not felt orgasm, always tried to have sex, and hope that you will succeed.
In having sex, the two partners should be in good mood. No sexual penetration first, it must begin in touching of any parts of the body (private parts are important), and ask each other what parts that give orgasms. Both of you should be comfortable of what you are doing. Ask each other, what you like and dislike, avoid being rush and be gentle. Then, go on...to sexual penetration.
YOU WILL NOT TRY AND USE THIS ADVICE, (TO USE TONGKAT ALI) because you are young, but you can advise it to the others - 35 year old and above, who have problem in sex.
Here in the Philippines, TONGKAT ALI is used by some men (35 year old and above) who have problem in sex. If women have menopause, andropause (male menopause) is for men.
What is Tongkat Ali?
Other Names: Eurycoma longifolia, Longjack
Tongkat Ali is a tree native to Malaysia, Thailand, and Indonesia. The part of the tree used medicinally is the root.
Why Do People Use Tongkat Ali?
Tongkat Ali was dubbed the "Asian Viagra" in a May 1999 report in the New Sunday Times.
It has been used in Malaysia for many years by men to increase sexual desire, libido, sexual performance and to treat erectile dysfunction.
Tongkat ali appears to work by increasing levels of the hormone testosterone. Testosterone is primarily responsible for the growth and development of male reproductive organs, including the penis, testicles, scrotum, prostate, and seminal vesicles. Normal testosterone levels maintain energy level, mood, fertility, and sexual desire.
Because of its testosterone-enhancing properties, tongkat ali is also used by bodybuilders to increase muscle mass and strength.
Safety
Reported side effects include insomnia, anxiety, and restlessness.
Tongkat ali should not be used by pregnant or nursing women or children.
Because tongkat ali increases testosterone levels it should not be used by men with breast cancer or prostate cancer, diabetes mellitus, heart disease, kidney disease, liver disease, or sleep apnea.
Tongkat ali should not be used by people with weakened immune systems as some evidence suggests it may further weaken immune function.
Drug Interactions
Tongkat ali should not be used by people taking immunosuppressant drugs.
It is especially important to tell your doctor or pharmacist if you are taking insulin. Tongkat ali may decrease blood sugar levels. Source(s) altmedicine.about.com/od/herbs...
2007-12-14 22:40:30 · answer #6 · answered by Meadow2009 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's psychological, you have to be turned on in your mind, then it'll all *** together.
2007-12-14 22:29:02 · answer #7 · answered by Orion Quest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is not ready 4 it give her some time or maybe she is 2 decent 4 dat now
2007-12-14 22:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by natasha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need medical help and fast,and viagra is the only remedy for it
2007-12-14 22:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋