Ok so me and my girlfriend have been going out for a little over a year now and in the beginning of our relationship she always was more into being sexually active...Lately though she has stopped wanting to do things as much and we ended up talking and she told me that she is more turned on and wants to have sex when I dont want to or when I act like I dont want too..
My question is... How am I suppose to make it seem like I do not want to have sex,, and hide the fact that I actually am turned on and want to have sex ?!?! Any help and suggestions would be appreactied!! Thanks
2007-12-14 21:47:55 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are both only 18 and currently do not live together, but we plan to in the near future
2007-12-14 22:15:19 · update #1
Mate - hate to tell you this, but this doesn't bode well for the future.
Sex is supposed to be a two-way thing - she needs to commit to what you need as much as you do to her.
However, if you want to give it a go. Just lie completely still on your back in bed and think of the most boring thing you can think of. You'll either get sex or fall asleep.
2007-12-14 21:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by the_lipsiot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh well. It looks like she wants to try something new. If a girl rejects sex, she is either bored with u, or she wants to spice the sex life more. Well as a guy, u should try to manipulate girls mind. She wants sex when u dont want. Hm try to switch around things.
Such as different position and environment. She is giving u an indirect message saying " HUn do something new". Make it less obvious, for example she can tease u, u tease her back. Don't let her take control.
Oh as a woman i know what we like.
Spice it up!:) good luck
2007-12-14 21:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to her about why she feels this way? When did it start? Has something happened in her life that's affecting how she feels about herself and those around her? Maybe that would help you understand her.
Is she still treating you lovingly and respectfully in other ways? If not, maybe she's just stopped being into you and is in the relationship from habit.
I hope you can work it out, but if not, maybe you should both move on.
2007-12-14 21:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by Helen M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that's the case, and you really want to give into this whole deal of her being more into it, when you seem to not be, leave her alone for a while, don't approach her or try to initiate anything, and let her approach you. it seems like you're usually eager to do it and perhaps come on too strong which is what puts too much pressure on her so it's not enjoyable, let her come to you on her own terms, and if eventually she doesn't, this may just be a ploy to not have to sleep with you, or a clue that she's losing interest altogether.
2007-12-14 21:52:04 · answer #4 · answered by S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, you are a hard person...
Very difficult to understand your wants...
1. Say that your dog died and you don't feel like it.
2. Sigh alot... Look very sad and miserable.
3. Look dazzed. No one likes to have sex with a half-concious person.
4. Rub your chin alot. Looks like you have alot on your mind.
5. Don't talk much with her. But don't look as if you are going to break up with her...
Although I do not encourage at all of having sex outside marriage, but since you asked, I answered.
2007-12-14 21:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's needing more than just sex from you...are you constantly asking or hinting for sex? Maybe she just needs some genuine affection that doesn't have anything to do with being physical. Try just spending time with her and not mentioning sex. Just hold her hand or talk. Don't push it and it will come to you...
2007-12-14 21:54:52 · answer #6 · answered by Sara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, dont show her that you want to have sex, it is not an easy thing to just start having sex for a girl. now, when you just want to have sex, she will think thats all you care about and eventually she will dump you. when you are with her and you have an erection-you're turned on, you should think about an old woman, your mother or generally someone you find ugly and you think of as a turn off.
2007-12-14 21:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easier said than done....don't SWEAT her! Just think about other things besides sex and if the sex subject comes up...treat it as "no big". If anything, and once again easier said than done...DENY it when she feels up to the mood. Then that gets her thinking and perhaps get out of that train of thought of acting that way.
2007-12-14 21:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a frank, in-depth discussion with her. If she is not interested enough to resolve the problem, then it is time to move on.
Any relationship can only prosper IF both people want it to, and are willing to work through difficulties.
2007-12-14 21:53:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she has a reason try talking to her but don't go to far, go slow, make sure she has enough breathing space so shes comfortable talking to you, give her enough time to say if she wants to have sex or not don't rush things, it will make her feel uncomfortable and she will probably feel more comfortable taking her own time.
2007-12-14 21:59:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋