Ever felt that you were the other woman....all of the time?

Question

Ok i dont want people thinking i am a this, i am that, hear me out first...please..I have this friendship with a good friend of mine but he is odd, i know i should stop talking to him and like tell his girlfriend but i know i would be told that i am a liar which to be honest, everything i have ever done with guys i am honest about, but anyhoo, when we hang out, its not a big deal but then it gets on the subject of sex and it just goes downhill from there. I mean the last time we hung out, i put my foot down and said that i didn't want to be the other woman and that i felt sorry for his girlfriend. This isn't the first time that he has done that to a girlfriend with me. Like the girl before his recent now hates me cause of me supposedly taking him from her but yet he was constantly coming over to my apartment. I guess in the end, i am still the bad girl...would say guy, but i am not one..

in general i know i basically just answered my question but what would you all do if it was you?

Answer 1

What your doing is reaching out, its not even about him. He served a sort of purpose in your life, you sort of got a kick out of it, but now the morality, the ethics, the intensity of feelings for what he brings to your life, is sort of suckin. So you got it in your head to reach out to the world-wide-web for some help on how you should feel about all this. Well frist off, feel good, you can keep a guy distracted and in-love, SO YOUR LOVALBE, YEA! Thats good right? To bad the guy who discovered it was sort of an ****-hole. And even sadder you can't tell the difference, but your use to neglect are you not? You just screwed this guy right? Not much conversation, some sweet this and that, your cool girl, yea I like you, we should do this again sometime, and you just notting your head, OUCH. Is all I have to say, did it feel all that good? Was this guys attentions really the paridise you were hoping for? Doesn't matter, because in the end, it isn't about him, your still looking for purpose, and found yourself a distraction, all I can say, is even if your 3-legged, mutated, and over 300 hunderd pounds, you deserve better, but the person who needs to see that (you) is strangly blind to that, so you reached-out, and all I can say is "Stop kicking your own butt, and this will not happen"