It doesn't bother me at all, but she comments constantly about their size, compares them to her friends, my friends, my exes, etc. Besides surgery, which I wouldn't want (and couldn't afford anyway), how can I make her more confident? Believe me, I give them plenty of attention. I just want her to be happy.
2007-12-14 20:50:25 · 14 answers · asked by cineurope 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds as though she has Body Dysmorphic Disorder. and its a problem she has to deal with and not you. YOu can assure her you enjoy them and if she continues on with this and you feel its approrpatie and would be well reiceved you could possibly recommend seeing a therapist about the issue.
In a worst case scenario body dysmorphic disoder can lead to depression or even suicide. I am not a psychotherpist of any sort, but i've had personal experinece. if you notice it getting to that level, then you should try to help her to get help for it. a simple antidepressnat helped me.
by the way you list several signs of body dysmoprhic disorder thast why i suggested it is what she has. did you know the signs are:
obsessing over a particular body part
comparing that body part obsessively to the body part of others.
staring at it in a mirror over and over.
feeling its terrible when the reality is differnet
the person who has body dysmporphic disorder is obsesed and to them its A HUGE DEAL they feel as though thier "inadequate " body part makes them less than everyone else. it is a similar to anorexia where they stare in a mirror and they are 100 pounds but they see a fat person. same thing. she could be staring into a fun house mirror and seeing something that is not really there.
2007-12-14 20:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she's insecure about it and has probably grown up constantly being compared to others and hearing hurtful remarks. Sadly I think many women have at least one feature they feel like this about. I don't suggest surgery, just keep reassuring her that you love them and you don't like big breasts, hers are perfect, etc. Once she becomes convinced that you really feel this way her comments will probably subside and she'll feel more comfortable.
2007-12-15 05:01:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are telling her you like her the way she is then that should be good enough. Some girls just don't have the confidence. She sees her self differently then you do. She might never get over it. Or she might see big boobs get in the way and can cause back problems.
2007-12-15 04:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by snowflake311 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you love her the way she is, other than that dont say anything. She's not looking for an answer from you, just comfort. And if she says she hates the way she looks theres not much you can do about it but tell her you love all of her and wouldnt change anything. Sometimes we just need to hear that and it makes us feel better. If that doesnt work, get another job for her boob job, lol
~Cat~
2007-12-15 04:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by Cat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
point out it's one of the things you love about her and if she changed them she wouldn't be her anymore. i am bothered by the fact i have a lot of arm hair but my boyfriend told me i could get rid of it if i wanted to but i would be losing a part of me. he's right. explain to her it's what makes her special among other things and that's why you love her. she's unique and not some stereotypical girlfriend. :) just be sweet and gorgeous. mebe even buy her a cute little bra or something if you guys are at that sort of stage.
in my opinion - small boobs are awesome
2007-12-15 08:12:22 · answer #5 · answered by LouLouEm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her genuine compliments about how much you love her breasts. Dont over do it. Just like when someone tells you something as a compliment and it makes you feel good, If you do the same for her she will began to feel much better about herself.
2007-12-15 04:55:13 · answer #6 · answered by Rebecca V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be confident. you just try to solve this problem by advicing her to love the life and not the physics.
you are lucky that you have gf just tell her that 1000's have got physics but he have been blessed by the love which is the most happiest time in the world.
2007-12-15 05:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her "I love you the way you are but I can see you are unhappy with your breats and it makes me sad that you dont love yourself enough to be happy wit hwhat you were blessed with." Give her a wonder bra or a water bra and tell her its only to make her feel better so get over her breast and be happy, hope this helps.
2007-12-15 04:56:37 · answer #8 · answered by mistista07 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do absolutely nothing. She has to come to terms with her body herself, the more you try to make her feel better the more she will freak out.
2007-12-15 04:56:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should tell her in a romantic way...such as finding a song or someway of showing her instead of just telling her she is beautiful...do something special
2007-12-15 04:54:19 · answer #10 · answered by RARE GEM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋