Okay, so there's this girl named Hannah. I liked her for the better part of this year. simple, right? well, 4 weeks ago, I basically was really nice to her (you know complement wise, etc), cause I was gonna ask her out the following week, and that's just how it was. Then, that weekend, she told me she was going out with some guy named John. I was mildly heartbroken, but I was okay with it. One day tho, a guy told me that she made it up, lied to everyone so I wouldn't ask her out. When I told her exactly what I had heard, she folded,said that she was sorry, that she didn't want to reject me coz she thought it might hurt me, and she might have lost me as a friend. She wants to be "just friends, beause ur a great guy and all, but I don't like you in the same way," I told her I'd talk to her later...
What should I do? Ignore her forever, as she isn't a good friend if she does something that? Forget she lied, keep acting as tho everything is normal, but move on? I'm still attached but...
2007-12-14 20:04:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also thought of something else: maybe she's just playing me for my complements, liking the attention.
2007-12-14 20:10:35 · update #1
I think she just handled it in a not terribly mature way. You don't say how old she is / you are, but really this behaviour isn't acceptable out of middle school. She should have just said (nicely) when you first asked her out that she didn't see you in that way. True, not the answer you would have wanted to hear, but it would have been honest and polite and you can't say fairer than that.
That said, either way it doesn't change the fact that unfortunately for you, she doesn't seem interested. I would move on, because many a foolish person has hung around someone they liked in a 'just friends' capacity desperately hoping they would change their mind, and it's a rare day that they do. You don't have to ignore her, she's not done anything truely awful, just keep a little distance for your own sake and find someone else who likes you just as much as you like them :) easy right? ;)
2007-12-14 20:16:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly she is not attracted to you and she has told you point blank . Its better if you just be friends with her . Try to be a good friend to her but dont expect love to fall out from the sky . Things might turn in your direction when she finds out you really care for her and you are a good friend . but as of now look her as a normal friend .
2007-12-14 20:15:02 · answer #2 · answered by ankush.hallan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you can't handle being just friends anymore and it needs to either progress or you can't be around her anymore because you are in love with her and you need to move on. The "just friends" stage needs to be eliminated because it will emotionally scar you for life if you don't get out.
2007-12-14 20:12:05 · answer #3 · answered by Older and Wiser 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough one.. now she knows you like her, so she has the advantage over you. to get your advantage back you must make her see what she is missing. you must make her see she is losing a close friend...that she loves. have you told her how you feel? dont be the jeolous guy. it will work against you.
2007-12-14 20:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by Jiggy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE LIED TO YOU BECAUSE SHE DIDNT WANT TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS.IT WASNT TO BE MEAN.IF IT STILL HURT YOU BUT WANT TO STILL BE FRIENDS W/HER THEN TELL HER WHAT UPSET YOU BUT DONT MAKE A BIG DEAL ABOUT IT BECAUSE YOU DONT WANT HER TO KNOW IT HURT GETTING REJECTED.IF SHE ASKS IF YOURE OK OR UPSET JUST LIE AND SAY "NO..I AM NOT.JUST BOTHERS ME THAT YOU LIED TO ME BUT ILL GET OVER IT"..THEN STARTTALKING TO YOUR GUY FRIENDSABOUTSOME OTHERHOT CHICKSIN FRONT OF HER SO THAT SHE REALIZES THAT YOU GETTING REJECTEDW WAS NOTHING TO YOU LOL
HOPE I HELPED
2007-12-14 20:16:59 · answer #5 · answered by cant take heat?get the f%&k out! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say it man, but she doesnt like you like that, its a friend thing to her......but........98 percent of girls just love attention so they treat their guy friends like boyfriends kinda callin them sweetie and babe and stuff. They dont realize its leading you on, but they do it to feed their need for attention, even at your expense.
2007-12-14 20:14:28 · answer #6 · answered by kaiors23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was trying to say she liked you ONLY as a friend. If you can't handle that, don't be around her. She's not dating and that's her prerogative.
2007-12-14 20:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's a *****. Cut her out of the picture.
2007-12-14 20:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-12-14 20:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes playing you
2007-12-14 20:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by The M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋