I have an opportunity to relocate to America. I am in two minds about it. What should I do?

Question

After all, I barely know the man. I have met him on Yahoo Answers. We speak on IM and he is really sweet. He now says he loves me and wants to send my visa and flight tickets over to me in Australia.

I said I have to meet him first before I can decide. I told him I am scared and he says people in the US and Los Angeles, where he is are cool.

I have only started to come into my own and become more independent. I am scared of travelling alone as I have never been overseas before and do not really know him.

I am also very close to my mum and help her out and she would miss me and be worried about me.

On the other hand, it sounds like an adventure and a new life. He is also very wealthy and I love him (as much as I can to someone I have never met)

I have until end of January to make my mind up. He wants me to have two kids and says I don't need to work. Just look after the kids and says I can send money to my family.
I have a good life here and am just starting to make it.

Answer 1

for one california has a high crime rate,i have been there and would never leave texas for a worse place.
another thing to accept is the fact that u might never ever see ur family again,my wife and i got lucky that i got stationed there a second time but she never got a chance to say bye and get a final hug from everyone there cuz we got evacuated during Mt.pinatubo in 91,she crys in her sleep for them calls there names,and wakes up crying to,but it cost over $2000 for a round trip ticket not counting expendatures,and we got 5 kids that around $18,000 for the whole family cuz my in-laws want to see the 3 kids they never meet,and they miss the 2 oldest that they got to see the second time there,and most guys in america don't allow wifes to send money cuz a man should be man enough to support his own load,i would say this guy don't get any and just wants to get his rocks off that all ,he might even marry u,and once satisfied drop u if u call the phillipines consulate in cali at 213-639-0980 they will tell u that most phillipinas r dropped and end up homeless and becoming a hostess to survive,yet many former hostess do run away from their husband to be a hostess her in america,and california is full of phillipinas,to prove it to u pls call the phillipine consulate at the ph# above or the phillipine embassy at 202-467-9300.
don't do it!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Never met the guy huh? Just a load of sweet talk and fancy love charms from someone who you don't know at all. He has more high pressured tactics than a used car salesman. If you are even considering taking him up on this dubious offer then you can kiss your independence and anything else you have "come into your own" good bye. Even toying with this idea is ludicrous and has more holes in it than the ozone layer. You better snap out of it because you sound very gullible and too naive where he has you bamboozled with fake allure and false promises. If he's so wealthy as he says, then he can well afford to make the trip himself and come and visit you. Not all the people in the U.S. and LA are "cool" and he is one of them. This guy is an on line predator who is trying to hook you into something that you will surely regret and you need to listen to your gut reaction that is telling you to be scared. It's an adventure for sure, one of futility and headed for certain disaster if you don't get your head screwed back on and return to earth. What you should do is stay right where you are and stop being pressured into making any decisions by this smooth, fast talking snake. Already he has you with kids and promising a life that is too good to be true where none of this can possibly be real. Stick with the good life that that you have now and the ambitions that are starting to pay off for you, instead of trying to chase an impossible dream that will turn into a never ending nightmare.

Answer 3

Bad idea! Someone who loves you would not put a time limit on such a big decision. Flying halfway around the world is a HUGE decision and should not be made lightly. Also, I don't know what kind of a person you are, but in my opinion, LA is a horrible place. Perhaps instead of deciding whether or not to move, you should decide whether or not you should visit. I say, tell him you want to spend a few weeks there. Then let him spend a few weeks where you live. Then take the time to decide if you're right for each other. If you are, think very carefully about where to go.

Answer 4

If he is very wealthy, he should come to see you? What if you get here and it does not work out and he says that you are on your own?

Why is there a deadline? Maybe he has someone else on the hook, or he is just trying to pressure you. He obviously knows how to sweet-talk young women.

Adventure? Your adventure may involve being forced to sell your body on the street. The web is full of predators. You do not say that he has talked to your mom. How strange, if he loves you.

Sorry for being so blunt. If he is honest and loves you, he will come to meet you and your family.

Answer 5

I would go... but you have to be VERY CAREFUL.
It is completely possible that you're talking with a lunatic. Meet him in a public place in Los Angeles first.

I've lived in Miami and New York all my life and have never been to the west coast/Los Angeles, but supposedly there are alot of crazies there, lol!

Also, this is probably far-fetched, and very unlikely in your case, but Los Angeles is the preferred city for the illegal importation of sex slaves into the U.S. (sorry for saying this, but its just something you should be aware of, the U.S. has very low incidence of this problem but it is there)

Anycase, enjoy your adventure but be skeptical/safe.

P.S.- I like your expression "I am in two minds about it". I've never heard that and it sounds cute. What is your original nationality/culture?

Answer 6

This is risky because you have know idea who this guy is and then you are going to a foreign country where you probably are not familiar with. I highly suggest you not to meet this guy yet because it's not safe to go meet this guy with nobody with you. And why would he say that he wants you to have his kids without knowing you yet? Don't fall for this sweet talk. This guy is up to no good... At least, get to know the guy long enough before you decide to make a visit.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Umm doesn't sound too good... sounds very dangerous going into another country to see a man you don't really know. Don't do it! He wants you to have two kids & he hardly knows you? weird...

Answer 9

"After all, I barely know the man." That statement there sounds like you should stay where you are.

Answer 10

its one thing to have an online friends, its one thing to meet an online friend, its another thing to actually relocate without meeting this person..