i never know how to act in this situation... i always get really uncomfortable, like if i act normally, they might think im into them.. and i dont want to be mean either... i just dont know what to do?
any advise??
2007-12-14 18:34:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you should remember is that you are not responsible for how these guys think, react, or anything. Don't worry about how whatever you say may be taken...that's the problem of the listener, not the problem of the speaker. Of course, don't deliberately lead them on but just be yourself. If some guy wants to talk about something that genuinely interests you, talk. If he wants to talk about something uninteresting, tell him you're not interested in the subject. But how he reacts to whatever you say is his problem, not yours.
2007-12-14 18:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give them a closed-lip smile (while still polite, it's much less encouraging than a "real" smile), then excuse yourself and go somewhere else. That's usually what I do.
Or if you can't just escape, be polite but not too friendly. Keep as much space between you as you can--don't allow them in your personal space. Don't touch them, and rude as it might seem, pull away if they touch you, even just a flirtatious touch on the arm. They should get the idea. I've actually had to straight out tell guys, "Please don't touch me."
It may seem a bit on the cold side, but if guys can't pick up on the subtle clues that you're not interested, you have to sometimes border on impolite, because if you don't, they'll just perceive it as you flirting back by playing hard to get. And a lot of guys interpret everyday friendliness with interest, just because that's how *their* minds work.
2007-12-15 02:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by Who's That Girl? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being nice goes a long way. Think of how you would like to be told if someone was not interested. I have always said thank you, but no. It usually is in reference to buying me a drink or joining me. If they have asked why, I either say that I am out with friends or am enjoying a night alone, sorry and thank you. However, whatever makes you comfortable in saying is always the best.....
2007-12-15 02:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by riverofserenityvalley 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just be nice but you don't have to say anything. If they do or say something that makes you uncomfortable it is okay to let them know. I think though that unless they bring it up directly somehow there isn't much you can do except try to be polite (as long as they are being polite, I mean) and not be physical with them. But don't let them detain you or make you feel guilty. No guy has the right to harass you just because he thinks his liking you means you owe him something. You don't.
2007-12-15 02:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by Meg H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could try the honest approach (this never occurs to women for some reason).
Just say "I'm far too shallow to have any interest in you". Direct and to the point.
2007-12-15 02:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by Jack O 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just don't respond or 'react' to them hitting on you, since that 's what they're hoping to achieve. if that doesn't work, then tell them simply that you would like for them to stop because it's making you feel uncomfortable around them. that's not being mean; that's demanding respect while asserting yourself.
2007-12-15 02:48:12 · answer #6 · answered by viXXXen 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I swear guys almost demand us to act like b*tches because if were nice they think we like them and the straight forward approach doesn't always work, it may sometimes though.
2007-12-15 02:46:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋