he is thrifty or insulted he is cheap?
2007-12-14 17:04:23 · 25 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would be VERY upset. First off it wasn't his to take. Second stealing is wrong, and VERY wrong from a church! Besides part of the thing that makes a ring so amazingly special is your fiancee taking the time to pick one he loves and thinks you will too. (at least for me)
2007-12-18 14:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. How much did you like the ring before you learned its origin? If it's a beautiful ring--it's a beautiful ring. You never know. Finding the ring may have given him the final incentive to go ahead and propose; since he found it at church he could have taken it as a sign from God. I think there is a difference if he just happened upon the ring or if he actually went searching for an engagement ring in the lost and found (if it's the latter then maybe he WAS just being cheap). Either way, if you accepted the ring, don't let this spoil your engagement or forget what it's purpose is altogether. Getting a million dollars feels great whether you've earned it or you find it in a duffel bag. Why should your ring be any different? Think of what great things you can do with the money he saved.....like paying for a wedding maybe? No one has to know where he got your ring anyway; but if you do decide to share that info at least you'll have an interesting story to tell. =)
2007-12-14 17:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by prettypumkin17 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with Pretty. I don't have a problem with where the ring came from. I'm sure if someone had claimed it they would be wearing it right now. It is sad that the original bride lost it (on the other hand; what was it doing off her finger?)
I begged my husband not to spend the $$ on a ring. I felt the $$ would be better spent on a house or car. Even honeymoon. He did spend the $$ and I am thrilled with my ring but I would have been good with even a CZ. It wasn't and when I saw the appraisal after our marriage I nearly lost my breath. I was older when we married so being practical was a part of who I am. He could have told me he got it at the lost and found at church and I would have been fine. It is not stealing if no one claims it. What is suppose to happen? It sits in the box for another hundred years? My best friend has the most fabulous jewelry. Huge rings and necklaces, earrings, diamond tennis bracelets. Every piece, including her wedding set came from pawn shops. I asked her years ago if it bothered her and she said no way. This way she can afford to have as much beautiful jewelry as she wants and her husband gets the pleasure of buying it for her and they don't break the bank. I think your husband was wise. It doesn't mean he loves you any less. In fact I would think he loved you enough to use that ring with plans for your future. Enjoy the thing!
2007-12-14 17:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is just wrong someone is probably heart broken about losing there ring I would put ad in paper saying found ring at the church if your missing a ring call to describe it may be yours. This is cheap and kind of disturbing.
God Bless and Best Wishes
He basically took something that doesn't belong to him.
One of the commandments thou shalt not steal.
2007-12-15 05:03:25 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am not sure i would be thrilled with it. nice thought that he wanted to marry you and yeah you can be thrifty, but maybe better no ring than from the lost and found box, when he never lost it in the first place. i would have trouble with that, it is a little icky. maybe though if it was long ago you love each other enough to overlook this? this is really something you have to deal with and decide if it is important to you or if you can accept that it is a part of his character, the person that you fell in love with.
2007-12-14 17:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by ari 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he "purchased" it from the lost and found box that is all good. He is not being thrifty or cheap. Perhaps it's something he really liked for you.
If he "found" it, I would ask did he take it? If he did, I would definitely return it back, because of taking someone's treasure, regardless if that person claims it or not.
2007-12-14 17:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by DREENA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
omg...put yourself in that womans shoes...what if you had lost the ring and it was given to someone else...and you are in a church so whoever lost it is probably in the same congregation and will find out...if i lost my ring and someone i knew had it i would be so upset and insulted...bc it is my ring...my symbol of love between me and my husband...buy an inexpensive ring...the ring doesn't matter but what he did was despicable
2007-12-15 04:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by ima gurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty cheap - I'd be pretty insulted. He hasn't even found a ring that means anything to him, he's just found a ring that's convenient
2007-12-14 20:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by ForeverAnAngel 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't say the man is cheap but I would bet that he probably wouldn't spend a nickle to see the Statue of Liberty
pitch a baseball.
2007-12-17 01:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by P L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol.. Sounds kinda funny.. Think about it this way, if he found your ring ina lost box, how would you feel. Dont be selfish...
2007-12-17 09:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs.Drew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋