I Broke Up With My Boyfriend But Now He Hates Me...?

Question

I only did it because a lot of stuff is going on and I couldn't balance a boyfriend at the same time.
After I did it he started acting really cold then he just became a full-on jerk, this was about 3 days ago.
I've tried to talk to him and explain but he says it's a stupid reason and that he hates me.
It really hurts because he's changed so much and I want the old him back, but he's said that he's not changing back.
I don't know what to do now, he doesn't understand and he's made me cry at least 4 times since I broke up with him from being so cold... what can I do... what should I do now???

I know I hurt him but I explained that it was because I couldn't balance a boyfriend with all the stress I already have. He just doesn't understand that part...

Answer 1

The Genius of Patience
Friend, was there ever a time in your life when you felt stuck? When your life was bogged down with no way to move forward? What did you do?
Well, most of us respond with frustration and anger, whether it’s a car in the mud, a life put on hold or a relationship on the rocks. When we get frustrated, most of us reduce our options to one: force. So we jam our foot on the accelerator and lunge ahead with all our might. And succeed only in digging a deeper hole.
However, there is another way to handle the obstacles in our lives, and that is to have the patience to keep trying something different.
Friend, patience involves courage … the courage to back off, to keep looking for a more creative solution to the problem. Patience means you can, and you will, endure whatever you must to accomplish your task. Patience means you will not allow any frustration to deprive you of reaching your goal.
One day, an assistant came to Thomas Edison, discouraged at his lack of progress on a research problem.
“How often have you tried?” asked Edison.
“At least two thousand times,” the assistant explained.
“Well, don’t give up now,” said Edison. “You have already found two thousand ways in which it cannot be done.”
Comte de Buffon said, “Never think that God’s delays are God’s denials. Hold on; hold fast; hold out. Patience is genius.

~ I found this quote for you, I hope that it helps. Have patience and he will get over it. I take walks to get over my breakup with my girlfriend and it still doesn't work, she is on my mind all the time and I am sad but as long as I am going to have a heart ache I may as well get some exercise in the mean time.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

The thing is, now you know his real personality. Maybe before he was nice and sweet to you during the relationship, esp. the honeymoon stage. But all guys are sweet then. But if he can't be understanding about your life and of your situation, he's not worthy of your time. He's being mean because he wants you to feel bad, and to call him back. Right now, you're giving him the power by responding in the way he wants. Don't respond to that. He's not worth sacrificing all that you are working hard for, especially with such a jerk, non-understanding personality as that. he's just demonstrated to you how he is NOT a good boyfriend. Just end it with him, i say.

Answer 4

Even if the entire school is against you, don't let that get you down! Stick your head up and don't look down at the people who tease you or talk bad stuff about you. If your so-called friends tease you then their not really your friends, their just using you and then turn around and stab you in the back. Don't go for the friends who can make you popular (if thats what your aiming for), if you want a REAL friend, even if they are categorized as the "Loser Crowd", be friends with them! School is all about drama and when you graduate, school will be a memory to you and then there's a whole new world you haven't explored. Always remember, sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never heart me. And if they do get physical, don't retaliate and make things worse, get help from a school counselor or teacher, your parents, or even law enforcement.

Answer 5

He doesn't hate you.

What you need to understand is that in order for guys to find closure and move on there has to be a villain. Your it.

It is a guy thing.

Now what should you do.
You have already done it. Move on. Do whatever you need to do to get your life back for yourself. Vilify if you need to. Have a cleansing cry then move on.

Leave him alone to put his life back together in his own way.
Get active, volunteer, study, be good to yourself.

Answer 6

The only reason he's doing this is b/c he's upset about the break up too a little more than u might think. It seems to me he's bein a jerk b/c he's so hurt. He really didn't want things to end for u 2 and it surprised and shocked him and anger is the only way to let it all out for him. He'll *** around and if he REALLY wants things to work out for u he'll *** back and be the original guy u liked.

Answer 7

well im really sorry that things turned out this way for you.

first: that is a normal responce for a guy. he probably had his ego wounded,feelings hurt, you know what i mean. he might even have a broken heart. and he might not know any other way to deal with being around you.

he probably still has feelings for you. give him time. leave him alone and dont try to reach out to him. hopefully he will get back to normal. and if he doesnt then maybe he wasnt the guy you thought he was.

hopefully things will get better.

Answer 8

If you broke it off, then keep it boke off. you hurt him and it's the way he's dealing with the hurt. Stay away and no calls, no emails carry on with all the crap you have going where you didn't have room for him.

Answer 9

The best thing to do is to pray for him to understand your purpose for breaking up with him and for you to understand his reasons for hating you. Give him enough space and then try doing your best to please him again. If ever you've done everything and yet he never change,It's time to just move on

Answer 10

Have you heard the saying "Time will heal all wounds"? He's just hurt right now. Just give him time to cool off and then try to approach him to explain things further.