Hi!please read the details and help a desperate person!?

Question

Hi everybody!
This is a real desperate person speaking, for goodness sake if you know my answer tell me
I’m a 18 year old girl, a newcomer in Canada
I;m thoughtful, not only always try to help others,but also belive in the power of love(any kind of it) and morality
I’m over weight(or fat), and stutter
I see anywhere girls with glamorous smiles of being loved by their lovers(or…), and myself alone facing hard moment of being lonely…
Do you know what can I do?

Answer 1

When you feel good about yourself, you find it easier to make friends. If you feel that you are overweight, you need to walk and walk and walk! Any movement will increase the calories you burn up. If the weather is bad, put on some good music and dance. Do anything but sit. Eat several small meals a day and stay away from calorie laden sweet stuff.

As for your stuttering, check out The Stuttering Foundation of America at www.stutteringhelp.org and their book "Self Therapy for the Stutterer" in the estore or at Amazon.com. That is the book that helped our family.

Answer 2

*HUG* I know exactly how you feel. I just moved to a new town last week, a long way from everyone I knew, and it can be challenging to get a foot in the door socially.

The sad answer is that there is no easy answer. But there ARE things that you can do to help yourself feel more confident and meet new people.

What hobbies or sports are you interested in? Join a whole heap of teams, clubs, whatever you like. I jus tjoned a walking group, a vegetarian cookery class, and a tree-planting project in my area. If you don't feel confident about your body, a great way to meet people who understand is to join a weight-loss group that has regular meetings, and the guys there won't judge you.

If you care about helping people, perhaps you could look into doing some kind of volunteer work- but beware, helping people is majorly depressing business!

Look in the mirror and think "I am gorgeous. I love me". We create our own reality and as you start to believe how special you are, other people will want to be around this vibrant, confident person! You ARE special and you will find someone to make you happy in this world, but in the meantime, it's okay to just have gal pals! Lovers aren't everything, in fact most of the pain I can recall in my 16 years so far has been related to different kinds of love. Be yourself, and see who you attract- then you know that they are there because they like who you are, not because you said the right things or wore a short skirt!

Much love and best wishes,
Cara

Answer 3

Dear, you have your whole life ahead of you. Before you start looking for guys, you need to work on yourself. Your self-esteem and confidence is shot. You say you believe in love, then you need to learn how to love yourself first. How else do you expect others to love you.

Stop eating bad food and get some exercise. It will build your confidence on the outside and more importantly on the inside.

Stuttering is no big deal--guys can handle that. Trust me. Put together a vision for your life. Figure out what your dreams are and build a plan to accomplish it. Men will come and go until you find the right one. If you are strong and independent, then you won't be desperate and jumping from man to man hoping to find love.

Take control of your life. Don't let life take control of you.

Answer 4

Stop focusing on the negatives. You're only as lonely as you let yourself be. Yes, there are always going to be those people that we look upon with envying eyes. So what if you are overweight. There are plenty of guys that LOVE curves. And you stutter... come on babe. Everyone is beautiful in their own unique way. Embrace the beauty of YOU and enjoy the life you are given. Remember, we only have one life to live. Why not make the best of it.

You are your worst critic. Everyone has "flaws".
Imperfection is Beauty. - Marilyn Monroe

Best of Luck

Answer 5

im a new comer at canada too but hey you have one great thing that u dont know it's value ! you do speak english very well , i can tell it's ur first language but not for me...i had a disaster at work today !!!!! but anyways...you are not looking at the right place ! start working out like i do ! go to a gym or go for a run in mornings ! start dancing...and at the same time try to communicate with more guys !!! you will be fine...
i wish english was my first language too ! you have no idea how difficult it is !!! im good at wrting thu so be happy and just wait a bit longer !!! good luck to you !

Answer 6

i became as quickly as on your place and the excellent undertaking is to easily have the controversy ASAP. I hid it additionally initially and my mum and dad found out throughout the grapevine which made all of it that plenty worse. They have been offended that i desperate to embody islam, and for mendacity to them. My advice is to take a seat with your mum and dad and only tell them each thing. Be waiting for some (consistent with possibility no longer so large comments), yet take them in stride. supply your mum and dad some room with this undertaking because of the fact they desire time to technique the entire undertaking. it relatively is going to be hard before everything, yet inshallah with time it gets extra helpful. I desire you the excellent inshalah.

Answer 7

You are unique person and you are fine the way you are, if your self conscionious then everyone you talk to will be! Feel comfortable in your own skin and Love yourself and others will follow! Just talk to guys as if they're friends and who knows?

Answer 8

Take speech therapy classes, and speak slowly, to get over the stutter. Stop worrying about your weight, and it will be easier to lose. Come to Oregon to visit me. I will teach you all you need to know.

Mentis The Magnificent: Mentalist / Magician / Mystic

Answer 9

just wait. go find some hot guys and talk to them and hope they like you back. when the time comes, they'll ask you out. GOOD LUCK!!! :D
p.s.- there's nothing wrong with being overwight. it's personality what counts.

Answer 10

watch some porn, beat it and go to bed works for me!