My son is getting married soon to a wonderful gal whom we love like a daughter. Her family on the other hand has a strange problem with ours. They think we are TOO TALL. They are on the short side with her father being 5'6" and her mother is 5'2". She is 5'4". My son is 6'1 as is his Dad and brother and I am 5'9". I think that this is a very strange thing to have an issue about. When ever we come together as a family to have a supper or something at my son and his girlfriend's home, they go on and on about how tall our family is. It is annoying and to us, shouldn't make any difference. What is going on here? Her father is really upset about our height.
2007-12-14 16:28:09 · 8 answers · asked by Praire Crone 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Jealousy. Sexism. A woman dares to have the effrontery to be TALLER than he himself is???? the sexist man thinks.
He needs to suck it up and get over it. You aren't going to be shrinking to his height any time soon, ie, never, and his/their constant comments are not going to change what Mother Nature decided was a good height for everyone concerned.
I'd tell them that enough is enough. Otherwise you'll have to live with it every time you see them, and it is too too juvenile. Tell them nicely, or playfully, that the fact that you are taller than they are in no way diminishes your respect and love for them, and you hope the same is true in reverse.
they might need reminding now and then, this sounds like a whole lot of insecurity to overcome. by them.
Ciao,
Lady Morgana )0(
2007-12-14 16:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Morgana 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
That is so ridiculous. With all the problems of the world WHY would this be an issue for Pete sakes?? I have short, tall, skinny and heavy friends and love the "essence" of them, not the package they're in, good night! Very shallow, indeed.... and by the way, TALL is awesome! Tall people get the jobs, attention, etc.... so, STAND TALL and PROUD!
2007-12-14 16:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by hotpepper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is their issue, not yours.
About all you can do is wear flats around them.
Perhaps you can joke about how the next crop of kids should be of a nice medium height... or how your son needed a big body to house that big heart of his... and how the nicest things come in small packages. Make light of it.
2007-12-14 17:04:38 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is a strange issue.
However, it sounds as though they are in awe of your height and aren't trying to say it as a put down.
If it bothers you, just joke with them and say if you keep making us feel bad about our height, we'll be forced to cut our legs off just to feel accepted. They'll never bring it up again.
2007-12-14 16:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sounds real strange to me. Have you came out and asked why the difference in heighth has anything to do with their life together? Point out that there are so many more "worse" things that could be the BAD thing
2007-12-14 16:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
why don't you make LITTLE comments about how SHORT they are see if they say something and then ask them how it feels if they do say something i mean how ignorant i have heard of a lot of prejudice but that is absurd
by the way my brother is 5'7" and is married to his wife who is 6'2" hello who cares as long as they are happy and are good to one another
2007-12-14 18:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, you have to admit, a 5' 9" woman IS tall--and frankly, a bit strange looking to most people. I'm Eastern Cherokee, and the women usually don't get any taller than 5'4" on average. The men, on the other hand, that's different. Men are supposed to be taller than women on average. I think you should ask them what their issue is, as it may be cultural.
But on the other hand, I'm 4' 10" and dating a 6' 4" tall guy--it doesn't matter to me one single bit.
2007-12-14 16:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by Danagasta 6 · 1⤊ 6⤋
Are these people for real?? Ask them how will they ever handle it if they should have a grandchild that's taller than them?
2007-12-14 16:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋