I've noticed that many women still choose to stay with their partners even when they are not treated equally. They usually think of ways to 'impress' their men, yet they still get treated poorly. They ask questions like, "How can I impress him?" or "Will this dress make him like me more" or "Will this hair color turn him on?" In the end, these very same women get snuffed to the side, cheated on, or both.
This is my word to the "nice girls". Instead of trying to impress them, focus all that energy on yourself! If you don't feel good about yourself while being in a relationship, then break it off. The relationship is only worth keeping if and only if it brings you happiness. Don't think "Why wouldn't he date me?" or "Why doesn't he love me?" but think this: "How do I feel about myself after being in his company?" or "What is in it for me?" The sooner you place a high value on yourself, the better you'll feel.
Feel free to comment or to answer my question.
2007-12-14 15:22:37 · 6 answers · asked by me 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have to agree with you. I have seen this play out to may times to count. In the end all it does is give the woman low self esteem and makes it a whole lot more difficult for them to get into a good, trusting, loving and healthy relationship. It is really sad! There are to many nice and good men out here who are looking for and want a real relationship that will love them and treat them good. Yet many of these women seem to think that they guy will change or he will start being good to them. Well he won't. Usually he ends up being unkind to them and cheating on them and yet they put up with it because they think they can change the guy or he will "see that he loves me". Well, that does not happen. If you date a bad boy then you had better be ready to put up with all that comes along with it and understand that he will not change they way he is. I am glad you pointed this out and I hope women will hear what your saying and listen to it. Believe me there are men who are very good to the girl they love and we are out here, you just have to be willing to give us a chance. =)
2007-12-14 15:52:14 · answer #1 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hit the nail right on the head. Women like that don't place a high value on themselves and so they don't believe they can do any better than an idiot they hooked up with. There are way too many women in the world like that. Good observation on your part. You sound like you've got your head on straight. ';-)
2007-12-14 15:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they want ATTENTION whether it's good or bad.
I think this usually has something to do with the absence of a father figure. They want male companionship, even if it comes at the cost of a really bad relationship.
Brandon
2007-12-14 15:27:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we do that cauz we have a false conception of the guy. It's like we fall, thinking he's really THAT guy. but it turns out he's totally not worth it!
2007-12-14 15:27:02 · answer #4 · answered by princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they lack confidence or they are just closed off from the real world.
2007-12-16 16:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by ben t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would never change myself for any guys. not matter how much i loved him.
2007-12-14 15:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by LOVERbby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋