ladies with child/ren?

Question

i am trying to decide when to have another child or just have an only. my daughter is 2 and is quite the handful. i am 33 and don't no if i want to try to have one before 35. so ladies if you wanted intil your 35 or older was your pregnancy like the others or did you stop at one. also am thinking if i do decide to have one more spacing 3-4 years apart. so tell me why you waited od stopped at one or if you spaced your children between those years. what were the pros and cons and yes i no the choice is mine

Answer 1

I had my 1st at 27, 2nd at 32, and 3rd at 35. The best thing about having more than one is you know they will always have eachother!!! It is such a joy to hear all the noise in the house each day from them! As far as pregnancies, it got harder with each pregnancy just because of the fact that you already have another child and so you can't just rest whenever you want, like with your 1st pregnancy! I was definitely more tired with the 2nd and 3rd. You have to decide what is best for YOUR family! I just never imagined having just one baby though and welcome as many as the Lord wants to give us!

Answer 2

I had my first child 4 months before I turned 20 and my 2nd when I was 22. They are 35 months apart. So pretty much 3 years. I feel its a good age difference and honestly if I have anymore I will either make sure my baby is potty trained or get her potty trained before the new baby is born because I think that was the biggest struggle trying to keep my 3 year old from wanting diapers again. It is true about not being able to rest as much, so in that factor, 3-4 year olds can entertain themselves a little better and not have to be as closely watched as a 1-2 year old (like putting things in their mouth etc.) Good luck let us know at the end of this question what you decide!

Answer 3

My first 2 children are 4 years apart and very close. My 2nd and 3rd are 27 months apart and have just decided to be friends,,,the 3rd is 11!, and my 3rd and 4th are 18 months apart and either fight like they hate each other or are the very best of friends.
My oldest does not interact much with the youngest 2 unless babysitting and then she bosses them! My 2nd is good with the youngest 2 and he will play with them and help them with homework.
I was respectively, 28,32,34 and 36 when my children were born. I will say I was more tired with the last one both because of my age and because I already had 3 to run after. But I was calm, sure and already aware of sibling interaction.

I always wanted 6 children, but am very glad I stopped with 4! They are glad to have each other, there is always someone to play with or ask for help if mom is busy with work or household chores. And they also have 3 cousins that live only 5 minutes away that they love,also. It is amazing to see how different they all are, yet they hold a special bond to each other that is uniquely their own.

Answer 4

Only you can decide what would be best for your family, but you needn't let age be a restriction. I just met a woman who has an 11 year old that was born when she was forty and twin girls that were born when she was 45.

She is doing great and has a nice family.

It seems that being in your forties isn't too old any more for having kids.

As far as spacing goes...its nice for the siblings not to be too far apart. 2 or 3 years is good. If there is more distance, they may not be as close but will eventually grow closer as the become adults.

Answer 5

The only bad thing about being 35 or older and having a baby is the added fear of birth defects. Drs recommended having more tests than when I had my other kids (in my 20s) Other than that I think having a child when you are 35 - 40yrs old is great. I was so much more calm and felt like I could focus on just enjoying my new bundle of joy. (It did help that my other kids were old enough to help out with the new one!)

Answer 6

Well the pro and cons start with your age. You are an older mother in her child bearing years and that does increase the risk of certain chromosomal defects. The older you are the more likely an occurrence of a defect may occur. Secondly... If you think your daughter is a handful now... than you might want to wait until she's three and then start the next one. Having babies close together means you'll being doing double duty... It might be more helpful for you if you wait until she's in preschool or head-start. If you can, get her into early head start.. (it's great for social skills, imo). But whatever you decide, I'm sure you'll be happy!!!

Answer 7

I am 34 and happily a mother to an only child who is almost 3. We have struggled with infertility and losses, and basically have accepted this as our fate. Quite frankly, I am very content with our decision to have just one child. I personally don't feel this 'baby itch' and maternal drive to have more considering the disappointment my body has put me through in the past. Our son is surrounded by his grandparents and 2 cousins in his age bracket almost daily, and leads a very enriched life. As you know, the older you get, the more challenging it may be to conceive.

But our decision to raise an only child was something we discussed as a couple. We needed to be on the same page in parenting and how many children to have, or in our case, to not have any more. What does your hubby say about it? What are his true feelings? I would discuss this with him and see how he reacts to the thought of more children. Perhaps he is content to be a small family of 3.

All the best to you on the decision you & hubby will make together!

Answer 8

I am 26 and have 3 children...4,2 and 7months. I love my kids but am veeerrrry very busy. And I must admit that I feel a bit overwhelmed a lot of the time. If I could do it over again, I would space them about 3 or 4 years apart. I think I would space it so that I had 1 at home with me at a time so that I could really devote my energy to one at time.

Answer 9

I had my first at 39, and my 2nd at 41. I got pregnant around my daughter's 2nd birthday.
We have a very small family. My husband and I are only children, and we don't even have cousins.
So we felt my daughter needed to at least have a sibling to feel like she had at least some family when she gets older.
The girls are now 1 year and 3 3/4 and they have a loving sibling relationship. It is a miracle to me to see their relationship developing, even at this young age.

Answer 10

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