my boyfriend is talking to girls online......almost on the verge of being over friendly......should i confront him, if so what do i say?
2007-12-14 14:27:55 · 42 answers · asked by ♪♫viva la vida♫♪ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
none of them are local but he is talking about stuff you dont talk to strangers about.....i know i shouldnt look but i did...and i feel bad, but i cant stop now........im such a b i t c h...
2007-12-14 14:42:08 · update #1
well he's warming up to sex right now.......
2007-12-14 15:00:05 · update #2
trust him
if you cant, rethink the relationship
2007-12-14 14:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by lauren3895 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would make me wonder as well. Do the girls live in the same area as he does. Tell him there is a difference in being friends with a girl and being overly friendly with them over friendly says i want something more possibly and how do you know that all he is doing is talking to them. Does he talk to them with you around cause that would say he doesn't care enoough about you or does he only talk to them when you are not around cause that says i am hiding something.
2007-12-14 14:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by ooorha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are any of them local? If they are in another country or very far away, yes you are over reacting. If they are local, what is his reason for talking to them? How do you know he is? Did he tell you, or did you sneak on his PC and find them yourself? If he told you, then he is open and honest about talking to girls. If you felt the need to sneak behind his back and look for yourself, then you already dont trust him, and that is not a healthy relationship. Even if he tells you he isnt talking to them anymore, are you really going to believe him? Might be time to end things. And please dont say "I will after Christmas" waiting to get your presents first is not a good reason! lol But it is ultimately your decision.
If you snuck behind his back and looked, he could get very upset, especially if he has nothing to hide, because you are telling him "I dont trust you" and he could just end the relationship with you, OR if he is cheating, he will know you know/suspect, and in defence lash back with the "how dare you.........." arguments and its pretty much over anyway.
2007-12-14 14:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by Pony B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I think you should I mean what if he ends up being too friendly like you said and even hurtin ya! Just tell him how you feel, tell him how it makes you a little uneasy, talking to girls on the internet, not the talking part, but the getting to friendly part.
Something along those lines
2007-12-14 14:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has he been your b/f? Did you meet him online? Confronting him about it is no doubt going to make you seem jealous/insecure (or he will make you feel that way if he is trying to hide something) but if its something that bothers you, it needs to be addressed. Sometimes its harmless flirting. If he is secretive about it, I would worry. If he lets you see conversations, he probably feels hes not doing anything wrong. If he gets all defensive when you ask him calmly and rationally why he feels the need to flirt w/ these other girls, its probably not totally innocent.
2007-12-14 14:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by butrfly1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be one of the girls he talks to online? lol.. joke.
Uhm.. if you confront him, say.. ehh.. I got nothing.. (sorry) =P
Just study what he tells the girls by pretending to be a girl he talks to.. ^^ Just.. O.O make sure he never finds out you're doing this.. he might say "you're suppose to trust me.."
and maybe you ARE suppose to.. but Im not sure because I dont know about the whole situation..
Well, anyways, I hope this made you think more deeper about this problem.. =]
2007-12-14 14:33:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guy and your boyfriend can have girls to talk to. as long as he is not cheating on you it should be fine. it may be hard to cope with but realize his heart may be with you and not those girls he speaks to. it gives him something to do. i am sure that you have male friends that you talk to and he is not jealous of them, or at least does not tell you. if you let him know of you not liking this he may see it as a form of control and break up with you. and i know you dont want that, so maybe just say to him in a nice way it bothers you that he speaks to girls online, rather, you would love it to be you instead and see what he says. go about it that way. dont overreact, you may lose him all together. good luck.
2007-12-14 14:35:51 · answer #7 · answered by ing3r im m3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend's behavior is a disorder that needs to be addressed before it destroys your relationship. In a healthy relationship, such emotional interaction is done with one's partner.
2007-12-14 15:39:11 · answer #8 · answered by Mon-chu' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this the same boyfriend who was pressuring you for sex? You should have dumped him long ago! You are setting yourself up for disaster. Everyone is telling you to trust him, which is true, but from what I have heard, there are too many signs showing that you need to get out. Good luck.
2007-12-17 04:10:23 · answer #9 · answered by grey_high 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront him just to see why he feels the need to be over friendly to random girls.
2007-12-14 14:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by Carimel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask why he feels the need to do that,but you can talk to people online that you will never ever meet. It'sfairly harmless I tried cyber sex but i couldn't type fast enough.
2007-12-14 14:36:18 · answer #11 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋