Fifteen years ago.. I was an utterly different person. Doing drugs, fighting, sleepin around, and stealing ****... was just my way. Now I am sedentary, monogomous, law abiding and if one doesnt cross me or mine, no more of the ultra violence... Anyhow, when I comme across folks I have somehow wronged from those daze gone bye, I at least try to apologize. In my mind I owe them a debt of gratitude as if you changed one thing, removed one person or incident, I would be a totally different person. And to put it simply, I kinda dig me,
However, I have noticed sometimes the reactions of these wronged folks is... well not very happy... So, am I doing further damage with my apologies? Should I just let it be?
2007-12-14 13:03:03 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Ehhh... Like I said... I do it as I feel I owe them, I mean everyone and everything I have ever come into contact with is partly responsible in shaping me... I like me therefore, I am indebted... that makes sense?
2007-12-14 13:08:52 · update #1
No... no tis why I am apologizing... I already pushed on thems noses... really hard.
(((Hugs back)))
2nd hug I have ever given ...
2007-12-14 13:13:32 · update #2
Like I said... not really looking for forgiveness, they owe me nothing, I just... dont want to cause any furrther pain or damage.
2007-12-14 13:14:52 · update #3
They don't have to forgive you, you know. They don't even have to accept your apology. Their honest reactions are simply another consequence of your actions -- just one more thing for which you must accept responsibility. You sound mature enough to understand that.
2007-12-14 13:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well-being has been taken away from people in every age, especially this one; yet it can be rediscovered through enduring antipathy and even injury from other people, through patience in the face of disaster, making light of death, fleeing from whatever is reprehensible and being content with a minimum of material possessions. If you are not like that, then you must go into retreat. If you cannot do that then be silent, although silence is not the same as retreat. If you cannot be silent, then speak what will help you and not harm you; but that is not the same thing as silence. If you cannot find any way to do that, then move about by journeying from land to land, casting your self (nafs) into the uncharted territories with a pure intention, humble heart, and steadfast body.
2007-12-15 01:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable that they wouldn't be very happy, but if you've given them a sincere apology, which is the right thing to do, that's better than no apology at all. Maybe it doesn't stick at the moment you are apologizing, but at least it gives them the chance to think about it later, and maybe come to some kind of peace about it. Apologizing can never cause damage.
2007-12-14 21:11:22 · answer #3 · answered by Petrushka's Ghost 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As an example which may be instructive consider Zacchaeus who was commended for his repentance in Luke 19:9 saying,
"Look, Lord! Here and now I give half of my possessions to the poor, and if I have cheated anybody out of anything, I will pay back four times the amount." Jesus said to him, "Today salvation has come to this house"
2007-12-14 22:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by Steve Amato 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You owe them an apology. Their reactions are your past karma catching up with you. If you don't apologize when given the chance, your karma will be worse. That's the way the universe works, and you need to balance the scales of your life.
2007-12-14 21:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely keep making amends dude. It might seem like it doesn't make a difference now but if you truly changed your ways, the people you wronged will see it and come to know you as the person you've become and not the person you use to be.
2007-12-14 21:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by Zac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say making amends for sure. However, I would also say that it is important to take into consideration that sometimes making amends is done within yourself and not with the acutal person you offended. (Case in point, being someone who is not willing to make amends with you or accept you trying to do so, it might be better to just forgive and forget, rather than stir more stuff up trying to forgive)
2007-12-14 21:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue what your doing frankly i am amazed because no pearson that i know of will apoligise for their mistakes done in the past.I have respect for you and if peole dont accept your apolygie its the grudge they learned to aquire.. i thik you are doing the right thing..keep it
YOu sound like an amazing person..who really had enough power to transform itself
2007-12-14 21:08:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you think about it enough, you start to realize that often, those whom you think you victimized were really accomplices; not victims. If you think you'll do more harm by bringing it up, skip it. And often, an apology is not what's called for but paying back, or making right.
2007-12-14 21:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by Bob H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the opportunity presents itself, you can apologize. You won't change their minds or get forgiveness from them but you can seek comfort in the fact you did apologize.
2007-12-14 21:08:29 · answer #10 · answered by Corvus 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋