Hes 29yrs old,He refuses to help himself.i need Christian perspectives.
2007-12-14 13:00:40 · 12 answers · asked by Inou 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Hes my son
2007-12-14 13:08:48 · update #1
Here's an idea from the apostle Paul's letter to the Thessalonians
2Thess 3:
6 ¶ In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, we command you, brothers, to keep away from every brother who is idle and does not live according to the teaching you received from us.
7 For you yourselves know how you ought to follow our example. We were not idle when we were with you,
8 nor did we eat anyone’s food without paying for it. On the contrary, we worked night and day, laboring and toiling so that we would not be a burden to any of you.
9 We did this, not because we do not have the right to such help, but in order to make ourselves a model for you to follow.
10 For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: "If a man will not work, he shall not eat."
11 We hear that some among you are idle. They are not busy; they are busybodies.
12 Such people we command and urge in the Lord Jesus Christ to settle down and earn the bread they eat.
13 And as for you, brothers, never tire of doing what is right.
14 If anyone does not obey our instruction in this letter, take special note of him. Do not associate with him, in order that he may feel ashamed.
15 Yet do not regard him as an enemy, but warn him as a brother.
2007-12-14 14:31:40 · answer #1 · answered by Steve Amato 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you can but there comes a point where you cannot help someone who is legally permitted to do what ever they want. It becomes detrimental to your health, sanity, and your family life. Your lesson here is where to draw the line and how to put your foot down and stand up for yourself. There are state agencies who will come in if the situation becomes life threatening for him. Your local hospital should have a crisis line. They will help you deal with your feelings too. If you know who his doctor is you can write a letter to be included in his medical file about what the problems are so that they can ask the right questions at the next visit to get a diagnosis if it is a psychological problem (I've done this). Sometimes you just have to let people learn their own lessons and make their own mistakes. And you have to learn your lessons (letting go) also.
2007-12-14 21:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by wyrdrose 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello; I am not Christian but I thought my reply might help
I am some years younger to your son.I too seem to refuse to look after my self.Reasons-carefree (or in words of some careless ) nature, pampered , do things as per my own wish,self satisfied
Anyone would think that I will do much harm to myself because of this ; but I know if left to myself or in difficult situations I am worthy of handling a lot which is true.
If same thing is with your son then trust him and leave him to fend for himself for sometime..you will know
When responsibility falls on somebody's shoulders he learns to help himself naturally so just let your son be
Probably this is not as worrying as you think
edit- sorry I read your other questions and realise that your son is not the case that I stated above.I suggest you meet and spend some time trying to understand him and then act accordingly rather than depending on guidance of strangers and writing letters.Letters wont help!!
2007-12-15 08:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by Aradhana 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All you can do is pray for him. Give him into Gods hands and let Him do the work. It apparently is going to take a major change in his attitudes and lifestyle, which no one can force on another. It may be a case of him having to reach the bottom before he is willing to look upward.
2007-12-14 23:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by Country girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help to a point, but after that you are hurting them. You are taking away their divine charge to help themselves.
American has a million of whinners and so many people enable them to remain so. Yet if given their own destitution, people will rise up and do something. But they won't is you are an enabler.
2007-12-14 21:05:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And just what is your relationship to this person? No 29 year old should need "looking after" since he is old enough to do what he wants.
EDIT
I have an adult son too. He is far too old to rely on his mommy to "look after" him.
2007-12-14 21:04:05 · answer #6 · answered by atheist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cant force someone to take care of themselves. Does he have mental problems? Usually not taking care of themselves is one of the first signs
2007-12-14 21:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he's mentally and physically healthy, its time for some tough love. I suggest you teel him that its time to get his act together and you're not taking care of him anymore - and mean it!!
2007-12-14 21:12:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Soylent green.
2007-12-14 21:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put it in God's hands because it's one of those things you have no control over.
I'm so sorry for you, sweetie!
((((((((FLOWER POT))))))).
2007-12-14 21:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by Яɑɩɳɓɵw 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋