Please, I would really appreciate answers.?

Question

Me and this guy have hooked up a few times before (hookup as in like oral sex). We havn't since the summer though because he has a new girlfriend. He's a player. Recently he's always asking me to hang out with him and stuff and I stupidly agree, however he never comes through with his plans. He always asks to hang out but then he always purposley blows me off!! Why does he do this? What is the point of making plans that you know your not actually going to go through with? He means a lot to me too.

I just don't understand why he does this to me.
Why does he do this?

Please don't be a jerk or have a rude reply. I just really want to know, thank you so much to the people who answer

Thank you so much to everyone who answered so far.

Answer 1

You answered your own question - because he's a Playa...

That is EXACTLY what they do - they ONLY show up if it's a SURE THING that they're going to get some "action", and blow you off the rest of the time!

If this is the sort of "man" (and I use the term VERY loosely here) you are interested in, then deal with his bullshit...

The lies, the other women, the brush-offs - it ALL comes as part of the package. He KNOWS how you feel about him - and he is using this to his advantage!!!

I can GUARANTEE that he WILL show up if you promise him sex, but he will ALWAYS bail if it's "just to hang out" - because to him, this means that he is in a ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP...

And this the LAST thing that a Playa has on his mind ;);););)

Answer 2

Quite honestly, he does this to get attention. He wants to know that you still care about him because he feels insecure and probably doesn't feel loved enough. He wants to string you along so you like him more and more and he gives you a little taste of what you had with him and suddenly takes it away from you so you are hurting, but still feeling that same way you used too. It's a sick game guys play sometimes. I've fallen for it several times. I've managed, however, to act like I don't have feelings for them in front of them and act like they don't mean anything to me except maybe a good friend (even though I might still care about them inside) and I've found that stupid incidents like these soon go away because they've found someone else to play along. I'm so sorry you've been roped into this game and I'm so sorry you've been so hurt! You don't deserve to be hurt like this. You deserve someone so much better than this guy. Hold out for that special someone, because he's out there somewhere! :) Until then, I would just avoid this guy and just blow him off and soon he'll stop and the pain will go away...I promise.

Answer 3

i think hes just really playing with you. and just having some fun. either that or he really did have something come up and had to cancel the plans. but i doubt it. i think that even though you care about this guy you need to forget him. at least for awhile. you're letting the guy totally take advantage of you and i know you're better than that ! hes playing with you so why let him? next time tell him no. or at least talk to him about it. ask him why he always asks to hang out but never comes through. if you never say anything then he'll think its ok and keep doing it. and if you never say no or turn him down and forget him. then you're only hurting yourself more. so forget the guy. you even said so yourself. hes a player.

Answer 4

Okay , first off he has a gf stay away from him. Even if he ask to come and hang out say "No, whats wrong with your gf is she sick?" Maybe he will get the hint. Women should have enough self respect for other relationships and themselves to avoid men like this.

Answer 5

He likes playing with you. He has a gf so you should try to not think about him. I mean it wouldn't be right if it were the other way around right? If he's a player you definitely needs to move on. He probably just wants to see how much and what you would do.

Answer 6

Well like you say he's a player and trust me i know this type of guy i was this type of guy he will just sweet talk you and want to be your friend or maybe even more he just wants to hit it and quit it ..and your falling for it your starting to develop feelings for him even tho he has none for you and by that he knows that your always gonna be there when there's not a girl in his life again...your like his faith full doggy that's always gonna be there....leave him you better of.

Answer 7

The same thing is being done to my youngest dau and was done to my eldest. 1) RUN. You already said he's a player. My opinion is that he wants you to play with when its convenient for him, but keep his girlfriend happy too. 2) RUN! and stop hooking up with him, or even agreeing to meet him. If he's really interested in you, he'll come around when you stop letting him manipulate you. and hun, 3) RUN!!!!!! he'll only break your heart.

Answer 8

well i think that he makes plane with you to make you feel important he probably steal likes you but dont want the same relation ship the next time you see him say no to the plans and see if ou can talk to him about how you fel remember he chose some one other than you maybe you need to find some one that wants you for you and not a quiqy dont let your self get down over him there are more fish in the sea

Answer 9

I understand that you have feelings for him but honestly even if you guys went out, he would probably leave you really fast. Like you said, he's a player.
Play hard to get if you know that he likes you!

Good luck!

Answer 10

Open up your eyes;dont you realized that he;s just playing with you? Why you stuck with him eventhough you knew that he has another gf?What did he promised to you?Let him go out of your life;you can't be happy with him.Go out to the world there someone out there waiting for you to be discovered.And some day you'll forget the pain.