When they offered for me and my boyfiend to stay with them it acually sounded like they were trying to help, but now they smoke in the house, and party at least 3 times a week till 4 or 5 in the morning... im completely broke and at 8 monthes nobody wants to hire me, and i can't get any help from the state untill im 9 monthes, my boyfriend is working kinda sorta, and he gives them all the money he has, which just keeps us living with them, and everyday it gets worse and we just keep going further in debt with his family, im very thankful that they let us stay for as long as they have but i just can't take it anymore. please help... i've tried everything that i can think of :(
2007-12-14 12:14:22 · 9 answers · asked by Amanda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We don't live with his parents, hes not an alcoholic, drug user, we planned for this prenancy, and at the time we were stable, the state will only help if im 9 months and the only give me 350 a month to live off of, all the shelters that i've called have a 4-6 week waiting list, and so does housing.... so with this new info... please help
2007-12-14 14:20:07 · update #1
Well I think that you should definently get yourself out of that environment before your child is born. Apply for housing assistance until you can get on your feet. As soon as you can get a job and save as much as you can. You need to be strong not just for yourself but for your child as well. There are a lot of organizations that will help you. You just have to do whatever you can to get out of there. Good Luck
2007-12-14 12:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by rykey86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being abused, harassed and used for your money. What should you do? Simple: LEAVE THAT GOLD DIGGER! I know that you probably have a genuine interest in her and have feelings for her, but her desire for material things is obviously more than her want or desire for you. If she's angry with you and beating you for not buying her expensive material things, she is not worth your time or your money. Focus on school and make something of yourself and find a girl who is down to earth and doesn't care about money so excessively. If she's so interested in material things, why doesn't she get a job and buy them herself? It's the 21st century, women are independent and doing well for themselves, she can, too, if she works hard enough and stops depending on men. You need to break up with her, I'm sure you'll be much happier :)
2016-05-24 00:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would be better off at a womans shelter, there would be less stress, no smoking, no parties and maybe they would help you get your own place to live, next time use protection or double up on the protection, these days there is almost no reason to get pregnant if you really try not to girl you cannot seem to take care of yourself let alone a baby, get out of that home now before they make your baby sick too
2007-12-14 12:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by Dale T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lets see, you made a baby with a guy who lives with his family who are druggies and alcoholics.Does he do drugs and drink too?GOD help you if he does.
Go home to your family and tell them you made a mistake.Tell your b/f when he gets a decent paying job and can support you and has a place of his own to let you know and you'll marry him and move in.
Otherwise it will get worse and in that environment , you could EASILY lose your baby to D.S.S. OR C.P.S. with the partying and all that goes on.
Go home.If he REALLY loves you, he will either get a second job or he will be a party bum like his parents, and YOU will support him AND your baby by working 2 jobs while he parties.
2007-12-14 12:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go to family services and tell them your story. They will find you a place to live, with your boyfriend, and he will have to give his money to support you and the child.
He now has responsibilities and should not be giving all of his money to his parents.
You have to move and if you do not have relatives or your own parents to help you, then go for help elsewhere. Anything would be better than living where you are in that environment.
2007-12-14 13:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hang in there till your 9th month when you can get help from state. it is not good for you to be under this much stress while your preg.your boyfriend kinda sorta working, he needs to get a real job.
hes parents life style you cant do much about its their home.
try not to stress to much, take care of yourself and baby.
good luck
2007-12-14 12:31:49 · answer #6 · answered by bluesky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow......have you tried staying with friends or other family members? You shouldnt have all this stress and pressure on you your 8 months pregnant..... you dont need all that stress in your life and your unborn child.......find some where else to live try government housing.....
2007-12-14 12:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by reneecrm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your b/f that his "working kinda sorta" isn't cutting it. He needs to get a real job and make plans to move you and himself out.
2007-12-14 12:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the closer it gets to 9mon tel them no more money....... about the job you have rights the employer can't discriminate you!!!!!!
2007-12-14 12:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by KeeKee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋