Accidentally called my ex?

Question

Hi, my ex and I who went out for 4 years broke up 4 months ago, and I haven't called him since b/c I've been trying to move on. I checked my phone this morning and noticed that i called him. Yesterday while i was with my mom, I accidentally called him when I sat on my phone and it lasted 1min44secs. I think it went straight to voicemail and my conversation with my mom and I might have been recorded in there and he most likely didn't even pick up. I have such bad luck. I had wanted to send him a xmas greeting (gift/card) too but now after this accidental phone call, he might think that my xmas greeting is a tactic to try to get him back even though I plan to write "i wish you luck in your future endeavors." What should I do? Should I text him "sorry i checked my phone and saw that it accidentally called ur #. Think i sat on it and 4got to keylock. Just letting u kno it was an accident and hope it didn't interrupt anything- take care"

Answer 1

I would let it go. If you try to explain without being asked, sometimes you look guilty. If I sent an X a card, which I never have, I'd just say "Happy Holidays!". What you want to write belongs in a graduation card. It seems you are bound and determined to make contact with him. Be smart, don't act out of loneliness.

Answer 2

Hey girlie, that sounds extremely embarrassing. Like you said, you don't want him to think that you want to get back together with him, so what I would probably do if I were you is send him a little text message (fewer words the better) and say, sorry didn't realize I called you the other day when I sat on my phone and probably leave it at that. A Christmas card may be a little too soon. You said it has only been 4 months? That might be a little too soon for a card. I would just let it go and see what happens. If the text message you send him gets him talking to you again then possibly the card wouldn't be a bad idea. If he doesn't say anything back, you're probably better off without the card. you don't want to send the wrong message (pardon the pun) to the guy you don't want to be with especially if he doesn't want to be with you anymore either. That could either make you come across as desparate, missing him, or worse...desparately missing him! haha...good luck, sweetie!

Answer 3

You obviously have feelings for this guy and havn't moved on at all.

You accidentally called his phone. Leave it at that. If he needed an explanation of a voicemail which was self explanatory, he would have called you.

Don't send him a card wishing him 'luck in his future endeavors' what type of xmas wish is that? It sounds like a professional 'sorry you didn't get the job' reponse to some type of application. I know you put alot of thought into the wording of this potential card but this is plainly WRONG wording.

Why are you sending him a card anyway? Is it because you miss him. Is it because you still love him? Is it because you want to wish him a 'merry christmas'?

If you want to send him a card you are better off putting " wishing you a merry christmas, thinking of you, hope you get everything you wish for in 2008. Love always.. xx"

That's it.

Answer 4

Going out for four years is a long time. I think you should feel comfortable calling him and speaking to him, but if texting him is more comfortable for you, then do that. Even if he has a new gf or you a new bf, you don't just erase 4 whole years. To do that is to deny the meaning the relationship had altogether.
I wish you luck in moving on, and I am sure you will do so, you seem very grounded. But I don't see why you should tip-toe around. Behave like the important part of his life you were and the wonderful memory he will always cherish.

Answer 5

I wouldn't even worry about the accidental calling, And you stated you just want to move on with your life after breaking up from him!!!!

But do you really! It seems to me you still have many feelings for him if your so worried about the accidental call to him and then you say you want to send him an xmas greeting (gift/card)!!!! If you really want to move on with your life, First delete him out of your Home phone system and your cell phone if you want to move on with your life! Don't send him a xmas greeting Gift card! Just leave him be!

Trying to stay friends with him, is not moving on! That's called keeping one of your claws into him! It seems he had moved on with his life, or he would have been trying to call you when you accidently called him with your cell phone! But if he hasn't or responded at all! Then he's moved on! And you must do the same! so delete all his numbers, and out of your buddies email list and call it a day! and Move on!

Answer 6

You're probably just making a big thing outta nothing... just let it go as an ooops! If he happens to call u back just say ' sorry didnt realize i called' like u had no idea his number even got dialed. That way he wont think youre after him. Sending him a card is ok but keep it to something non personal, like a card you would send your boss.

Answer 7

No just let it go. Believe me! Pretend it never happened and if he calls and tells you just play dumb.
If you really want it to be over then don't do anything that could be misinterpreted. Remember men will read into anything!! Especially if we want you back, a kind gesture turns into "aha she wants me back"
I'm a guy and don't understand why it happens but it does. I think it has to do with our desire to be in control or something. Any-who, good luck and happy holiday!

Answer 8

oh my goodness i know that feeling you had it better than me though because its been times where i would actually try to call someone and i would be thinking of exs i be thinking im dialing the person i want to call number but it really be my ex's and they would pick up and I would have to say somethin like i made of mistake and called and hang real fast i would feel so embarassed but i think you should just tell him you met to send him x-mas greeting card but you made of mistake and called

Answer 9

Well, if you were with him for 4 years, it seems to me like he might understand or know you enough to get what you're tryin to say... I say go ahead and tell him it was an accident, if you want to be friends with him... If you are not wantin to stay in contact with him.. Just forget about, unless he calls and asks you...

Answer 10

ooh thats a tuffy...... i wouldn't do anything, it might worsen things but if you feel you must write him a letter say in it that you think you accidentally sat on the phone and talked to your mom. or say you are sorry that you guys didn't have chemistry or something.