He's 8 and she's 6. Now I think it's weird cause I've seen him playing with his sister slapping her on the bottom and stuff like that, also they both sleep in their underwear. (I'm not their Dad, but I live with their Mom). Also when we mentioned that he should sleep in his own bed he 'flipped out' went into tears and screaming and what not!
I wish I could explain more, but I just get a weird feeling about it and I don't know how to broach the subject to their mother.
2007-12-14 12:03:27 · 9 answers · asked by radman2035 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
See the thing that gets me though is the way he flipped out when we said he should sleep by themselves.
and as far as being to young... NOT! I was playing 'show me yours games' since I was 5!
2007-12-14 12:13:20 · update #1
Kids this age CAN get sexual feelings. It sounds like the boy already has.
You need to discuss this with their mother immediately. Suggest counselling for the kids right away, and for both her and you, if you think this is going to be a long term relationship. If you are living in the house, you need to be in the counselling loop.
She will probably get mad at first and be in denial, but let her cool off and talk to her again. If she absolutely refuses to even consider the idea, I would think seriously about moving out and getting on with my life, because this is an unhealthy mess.
2007-12-14 12:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by Cat Lady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way they both needs to be in separate beds. Reason- I was out, stopped by a fast food restaurant, I observed 1 boy about the age of 7.... hunching at his sister around 5. And the parents were not even paying attention. I had to show my mom, whom was with me. It is possible this nothing but, I would trust your instincts.
2007-12-14 20:12:58 · answer #2 · answered by springful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you are thinking too much into it. Maybe he just needs attention from female figure such as his mother but he isnt getting it. I would definently try talking to his mother so she can approach him about how he is feeling. If indeed it is what you think it is I would go to a social worker of some sort because if the mother is doing nothing as it is, I would think she wouldn't in the future. Good Luck
2007-12-14 20:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by rykey86 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They have seen things they shouldnt have seen and his mother needs to make them start sleeping in their own beds.This is something she should not have gotten them into the habit of which now she will have a hard time breaking.
2007-12-14 20:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When children are that age they are not aware yet of what the work sex means. It is not uncommon to hear that children that age tend to experiment not knowing what they are doing is wrong. I agree that sleeping together should stop. If possible sit down with them and have a long conversation about birds and bees. If not counseling always helps especially when it's someone with experience with children . I would have them looked at by a counselor not that they are crazy or anything like just to have some peace of mind for your wife and yourself. Also to avoid anything bad in the long run.
2007-12-14 20:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Yeah tell their mother that you have concerns. If she is willing to talk to them about it then you should have some words to. Don't let this continue. Such attachments aren't good.
2007-12-14 21:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by Johny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not good and I think you know that.
You are condoning activity that is going to damage at least 2 people (the kids) and possibly more.
2007-12-14 20:09:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
make it so that every time he does something wrong he has to sleep alone. or make it so that once a week he sleeps in his own bed and then increase it.
2007-12-14 20:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by Alegria B 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
theyre just kids...they dont know any better!!!!!!!!
2007-12-14 20:10:39 · answer #9 · answered by shoes=life 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋