Please help!!?

Question

My partner of 6 months just told me he suffers from savere depression!! He totally went off sex,hardly sleeps has constant headaches, All the time im thinking its me he isnt bothered about. He got really upset about it and hasnt spoken to anyone else about this. I feel really bad because ive been nagging him about why hes gone off sleeping with me!! How can i help him feel better and want me as much as he did when we first met. Will he always be this way? He says hes totally in love with me and im not the reason hes depressed!

Answer 1

Go, leave him a nive goodbye note. Bye,

Answer 2

There are three kinds of depression: chemical, situational and both (most common).
Chemical depression is a physical/neurological problem that can be treated with drugs (prozac, etc). It can also be affected by diet, sunlight and etc. Since this is a physical problem he needs to see a doctor.
Situational depression is caused by things that are going on: your mother dies, your boss hates you, your kid goes to college, your kid doesn't go to college. . . It calls for a pardigm shift usually acheived by counseling, but can also be acheived by loved ones.
If one often experiences depression (abusive childhood, series of losses, etc). the brain can get in the habit of depression. Then the depression is both situational (dealing with losses, abuse, etc) and chemical. Also if one is encouraged in negative thinking/self pity (esp in childhood) depression may become a habit. Negative thinking feeds depression which feeds negative thinking and on forever.


Here are some things you can do:
1) coax him to eat right even if he doesn't want to. Nutrients help produce certain neurotransmitters. Also if he become unhealthy it feeds situational depression.
2)encourage him to rest even if he can't sleep.
3) encourage him to exercise. Oxegen and sunlight are vital for good mental health.
4) Take him to a psychiatrist (M.D.)
5) Be understanding, but don't let him give in to dispair. Help him to keep fighting the depression. If he says he doesn't have the energy to get up kick him out of bed. As long as he keeps moving, he will eventually come out. If he stays there, he will sink in the mire.
6) Challenge negative thinking. For example answer 'I can't. . .' with 'but what about when you. . .' or 'what if you tried it this way'?
7) If you have any religious leanings pray. Have any friends who pray pray.

Answer 3

That kind of depression needs counseling and medication to get better. You aren't helping by whining about your needs. Encourage him to go to a doctor. It could be a chemical imbalance in the brain; it doesn't mean he's crazy. Some people (especially men) think that they are less if they can't fight it by themselves, but it takes courage and intelligence to have it treated. You'll both be happier for it.

Answer 4

Give him a love poem with a big bottle of prozac

Tell him you that your glad he told you and that you'll be willing to support him and that you could drive him to the psychiatrist if he wants but either way, your getting him to the doc for help.
=)

Answer 5

Do not push the subject on him, but do try to help him to get help from a doctor. He needs a mental health counselor.