He even went to see my GP(without my knowledge) to tell my doc that he's wrong and I don't have a problem!!LMFAO
He doesn't understand that I can't go a whole day without at least 4-5 cans of super strength lager( or 8-10 pints) yep that may not seem a lot but is an adults weekly intake per day and I'm not exactly(at 5'6" & under 8 stone) an average size
2007-12-14 10:57:33 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
elric has your dad seen you drunk ? or how you are the day after because if he hasn't how will he know the extent of the problem , alcoholics are very secretive as with any other addiction its the same , i was bulimic in my late teens , i would binge and then throw up after , noone ever knew at the time until much later on it didn;t go on for too long about a year ,i could go for days without eating and then binge on about a tenners worth of junk just to chuck it back up also i was taking laxatives bcos i couldn't bear the thought of having anything in my stomache , i couldn't talk about it to anyone because i was embarrassed to admit i had a problem , at least you know what your are and being able to talk with your folks is great , your dad doesn't want to come to terms with the fact you are an alcoholic , my problem ended when my mother did actually catch me doing it one day and she broke down and said she didn't want her daughter to end up dead just for the sake of staying thin , your dad is just concerned thank god you have him on your side hun so many people don't xx
2007-12-15 04:39:38 · answer #1 · answered by ♥BEX♥ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I seriously doubt that he allows your younger sis to drink alcohol while refusing your request for alcohol. Doesn't make any sense! Even if this is true, don't worry about your dad not letting you because you'll have plenty of time and opportunities when you turn 21 and your dad is just looking out for you because he cares about your well-being. If I were you, I'd be thankful for having someone in my life who cares enough to take a stand on the issue of alcohol.
2016-04-09 03:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad is the same. I used to drink 9 litres of White Lightening and 4 cans of Gold Label every day and even though I have been dry for over a year he still offers me booze at least a couple of times a week.
Seriously on a bad day he's like Mrs Doyle from "Father Ted" offering cups of tea.
Basically your dad seems to be like my dad in that he has what I think of as "awkward syndrome" where he honestly believes everyone is the same as him and if someone acts differently they are just "being awkward" or "doing it to be silly". I have been a vegetarian since 1996 and it was only about 2004 when my dad finally realised that nagging would not get me to eat meat. So I look forward to him not offering me booze anymore in 2014 (when I will be 34).
Good luck mate - dads are amongst the most stubborn people in the world.
2007-12-14 12:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by monkeymanelvis 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I fail to understand Elric why you're Dad would even want to convince your GP you hadn't got a problem - it doesn't make sense. I agree here with others that he doesn't want to believe but the important thing at the end of the day is that you recognise you have a problem. That is the first step to recovery. Listen to what Momof3 says Elric otherwise you are not going to have a liver left. I know it is not easy and it will take a lot of guts to do something about it but you CAN ,and will I know, fight your way through this. You have us all here on Y/A to be a support Elric and I am sure others will join me in saying email anytime if you think we can help. Bless you Elric xx
2007-12-14 22:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Elric first of all your dad would have had no joy with doctor as they are not allowed to talk about you or any medical problem you have what so ever. (ex nurse).
You know you have a problem and you are half way there trying to tell your dad is a no go as he does not want to admit it to himself let alone you.
You can sit your dad down and ask him for help to see what he says and do you live on your own Elric as he may not be able to pysical see that you do have a problem and some people have to see it to believe it.
You need to go yourself to the doctor and ask for some help Elric as one you have a problem and two you are taking some serious medication for your heart. The drugs will not work so good if you drink the volume you are.
Many people who drink are underweight due to the dependancy on drink it is their food and also speeds up metabolic rate very quicky.
I hope you get some good answers Elric and seen one from someone who has been there and got the tee shirt and they are right.
Take care Elric you only have one life and one liver look after yourself and your body will look after you it is not to late.
2007-12-14 20:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by momof3 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Elric, I'm a recovered alcoholic and a sponsor for AA so first of all I know what I'm talking about, the best person to help an alcoholic is another recovered alcoholic
I went into re-hab last year for three months and joined AA, I have not had one drink since, in re-hab, all the counsellors were recovered alcoholics.
You do not have to convince your Dad that you have an alcohol problem, you do.
You need to go to an AA meeting, you won't have to say anything or do anything, just listen to other people just like yourself, who understand what you are going through.
Check the site below or e mail me, as an AA sponsor, it is my job to advise (Not preach to) people with an alcohol problem, I would be interested to know how old you are, your Dad should be proud that you are taking such a responsible approach.
2007-12-14 11:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
The most important thing is that YOU know that you have a problem, and are man enough to address it. Your dad can sod off. I can't believe he went to the doctor on your behalf!! If you're old enough to buy booze, then you're old enough to sort it out for yourself AND know the score!!
By the way, if it's any consolation, my mother is exactly the same way. Every time I have a problem, she's in denial, which makes me feel like I'm making it up or it's all in my head!
Good luck Elric, I hope you can get yourself sorted. Nomad on here is currently in the process of giving up the drink (see his blog for details), so you are not alone. Join an AA group or similar for some moral support.
2007-12-14 11:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
maybe he's in denial Elric....when i got divorced i hit the booze pretty bad and drank myself into oblivion for almost 4 years, it was only when i woke up in front of the mirror one morning (that's where i landed) that i decided to get my act together because i looked pathetic, my parents said i was going through a phase.....so drinking a litre bottle of vodka and gin and any other spirit was a phase....i don't think so..they too were in denial....so i think your dad does not want to see the big picture...and yes super strength lager does the job...just one of them nowadays would floor me...talk to him and make him see that you do have to depend on drink, he needs to know this....i also think that you are way under weight, i am 5ft 8 and i am just under 10 stone, for a guy of your height i think you should be at least between 9 and a half to 10 and a half stone...are you eating ok?
2007-12-14 21:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
He knows really, doesn't he ? -just can't believe his son who is very intelligent and at times ,not very well (With your heart etc) could possibly be alcohol dependant.
He's obviously noticed your weight and is worried about you-ask him for his support- and remember-you've got support from ALL of us. We are all just at the end of an e-mail if there's anything we can do -just ask
Think BB -how will you cope on there with bottled water -or are you hoping that you will be a contestant and go cold turkey ?
2007-12-15 09:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by nanny chris w 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have to answer the question, why you are trying to convince you dad you have a problem? . You have one and your doc agrees so deal with it. Stop drinking and join AA and get on with living a happy life without booze. Does he not see that you are pissed all the time? or is he pissed too?
2007-12-14 11:09:19 · answer #10 · answered by rustynail 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋