Ok I just had sex with my girlfriend for the first time. It was both of our first time. It was definately my first time but for some strange reason I think she lied to me and it wasnt her first time. I have no reasons to back this up but i get this wierd feeling thats been bothering me ever since that she wasnt a virgin. I talked to her about it and she assured me that she was a birgin but i stillget the feeling that she was lying. When we had sex she did not bleed (pop her cherry) or feel alot of pain (although when i first inserted my penis in her vagina she said "o **** in a little pain, but after that she was fine." Is there any signs that would tell me if she was a virgin or not??? Pleaze Help this has really been bothering me and i cant get it out of my head
2007-12-14 10:41:17 · 18 answers · asked by LOCO 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not every girl bleeds her first time having sex. If she made sounds like it was a bit painful to her, then most likely she was a virgin because it takes a few times for a woman to fully get used to the feeling. She might also get shaky legs the first few times because she's not used to the repetitive movement. Relax....it's ok for you to wonder. You probably wanted it to be really special because it was your first time and you wanted to share that with someone else who also was experiencing it for the first time.
2007-12-14 10:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Joshua's~♥~Girl♫ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The "cherry," or hymen, is not always an indicator of virginity. There are many ways for a hymen to be broken, and for a vagina to be stretched out, such as some forms of foreplay, tampon usage, etc. It is not uncommon for first time-sex to not cause bleeding. Also, the fact that she didn't feel a lot of pain is not necessarily an indicator. First time sex is different for everyone. So is pain tolerance.
I think you should be able to trust your girlfriend, however, if there is doubt in your mind, maybe you should ask her about it! Is there a valid reason for her to have lied about something like this?
I think you should find a nice, unaccusatory way to talk to her about it.
Remember, you're doubting her honesty, so try to come off as unconfrontational as possible, so as to avoid offending her, or insinuating that you don't trust her.
Good luck!
2007-12-14 18:48:50 · answer #2 · answered by Hillary 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if those are the ONLY reasons why you think she isn't a virgin, then that's......not good evidence.
SOME GIRLS don't bleed for their first time. Others never bleed at all! lol It depends how small she is, and how big you are.
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girls' hymens can break without them having sex. If she's masturbated a lot, fingered herself, etc, then maybe her hymen was ALREADY stretched out...
Uhmm.. yup. If you really wanna find out, just ask her. But since she's already told you, just believe her. If you can't trust her, then what's the point of having a relationship with her?
2007-12-14 18:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by ^^PaperHeart^^ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"bleeding is not a sign". Depending on the "person", pain may or may not be severe enough to ask you to stop, or voice great displeasure.
I personally think your making to much out of this, if it is bothering you this much, maybe you should think about distancing yourself from the relationship. It is not her fault that she did not display the atributes that you "felt" would be in place to show she was in fact a virgin.
She may think the same thing, about you, and now how would YOU feel? What have you got to prove your a virgin? In her eyes?
2007-12-14 18:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by do.drop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything "Vickibaby" said is right.
My first time didnt hurt at all, it was just uncomfortable. But the 2nd guy I ever had sex with, well that was a bit painful. But a guys size has a lot to do with it too. Dont take offense! But a guys size and the girls cavity size have everything to do with it!
2007-12-14 18:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by Mary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plenty of girls have already 'popped their cherry' even before having sex - the hymen can be broken by masterbation, sports... anything! There's no way of telling whether or not she was a virgin - you're just going to have to take her word for it. I wouldn't keep pursuing her for the truth either - it'll only insult her.
2007-12-14 18:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by victoria. xoxo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, well u don't have to be having sex in order to pop your cherry, many girls break it just by things like gymnastics or sometimes while they are having there period, most girls who pop there cherry before sex don't even relize it, don't mention anything to her. also if she wasn't really tight she could u know i don't want this to come out the wrong way but she made try to stretch or play with herself so it wouldn't be so painful for the first time.
2007-12-14 18:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by the one you've always wanted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are this concerned, speak to her about the topic again. But just so you know, not every woman bleeds during their first time, and not every woman feel pain the first time. It depends on the woman and her body. I know a few women who did not feel any pain. At all.
2007-12-14 18:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I would like to say practice safe sex and wear a condom. Secondly trust is huge in a relationship either you have it or you don't. Good luck
2007-12-14 18:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
who cares If shes a virgin or not, you got laid brother and thats what counts LOL. Girls can lose there virginity and still not bleed. maybe your just insecure about yourslef low self esteem or confidence just be happy you lost your virginity.
2007-12-14 18:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋