What Shoudl I Do About This? Plz Help Me! Don't Ignore This! Plz Answer This!?

Question

okay, I'm feeling more and more guilty because I feel like that I'm cheating on my boyfriend with 3 different guys who are my friends. First, Jarvis was acting weird lately when I talk to him about boys, my friend, Andre said that Josh likes me and Oscar hasn't talk to me for 2 months already and he doesn't believe my relationship with my ex, still! (even though me and my 4th boyfriend broke up and I have a new boyfriend and Oscar doesn't know that). If I tell my boyfriend (once he's back from vacation) that I'm talking to my guy friends and they like me, then he's going to be crushed and will break up with me because of that. I love him so much and I know that he loves me too. we both made a promise that we don't leave each other for anybody, but I feel like that he will break that promise. Plz answer these 3 questions.
1) Should I Tell him about this?
2) What Should I do about this?
3) Is this consider cheating?

Thanks so much for answer this!

-HeartBrokenForever *(Diane N)*

also, plz be honest and NO STUPID OR PERVERT/RETARDED ANSWERS! DON'T EVEN CALL ME A WHORE BECAUSE I'M NOT BEING A WHORE AND I'M ABOUT THIS CLOSE TO BE ON MY EVIL SIDE AND YOU WON'T LIKE IT.

I'm crying right now because of all those people who called me a whore and half of you think that I'm cheating on him. I'm ******* not! but I feel like I am.

Answer 1

Don't feel down, Screw those people who are calling you a whore, they are just so judgmental

1.) Telling the truth can give you two consequences...either he understands you or not...It's not your fault when your guy friends are falling for you...and love isn't being jealous...it's being able to understand...Ofcourse, telling the truth is always an option but ONLY If you're ready (right place, right time), don't worry, no one's forcing you to do so....It hurts but if it will end your guilt, then it's worth a try

2.) You can keep it if you want but while you're at it, talk to yourself about these problems...like *What would happen if you prolong this? *Will our relationship be in harmony once I get rid of this burden? something like that....when you're ready, it's time for you to talk to him...but lessen your guilt when you do so...coz when u talk to him in a bad shape, it will only make things worst..

3.) I don't see this as cheating since I don't think you accommodate their feelings that much...THEY like you...you can't stop them...it's not your fault when they do... You love your guy (like you said) in cheating, there's no such thing as love...For them (cheaters), Love is a game with many players...they need more than 1 character to play it right...

And I don't think you're like that...^^ I hope I helped....Tnks for helping me on my question too ^^

Answer 2

1. Tell him yeah, but i mean you're not cheating so he shouldn't get mad. Every girl has the right to have guy friends and your boyfriend needs to understand that! As long as you dont take the friendship too far!!!

2. Dont worry about it, you're not a whore everyone that caled you a whore is answering this for the 2 pts and not to help... Dont worry about it because it seems to me tha tyou just have guy friends and they like you and you have a boyfried so A) your guy friends need to understand what the word BOYFRIEND means and
B) your boyfriend needs to understand that you can have guys as friends

3. no it's not cheating... it's having other friends that are guys!
I personally think that you're over reacting! You should feel like this is cheating unless you did something with them.Now if you grope them and hug them a lot... that is cheating because it's the easy way out of cheating. you can just say, oh it was just a hug but on the inside, to you it was more!

Answer 3

Wow - I don't know if any of this is cheating, but it definately seems confusing even for you. Simplify. Only you can control this situation. The thing is whatever you choose you have to be happy with the choice or at least be able to live with it. Read what you wrote, think about what your answers to those questions would be (look at it as if you someone asked you those questions and you were givng the advice) and decide.

Answer 4

First of all, there is nothing wrong with having friends who are guys...but you need to set boundaries. Do they know you have a boyfriend? If they don't...they need to and then they need to respect that. If they try anything, they aren't really your friends. Having male friends is NOT cheating.

Secondly, if these guys really like you, and you've made it clear you have a boyfriend and it seems really hard on them, you have to let them go. Sometimes you just can't do the friendship thing with guys who like you without leading them on too much.

I don't see why your boyfriend can't accept you have male friends. Unless he has a reasonable objection to it, you don't have to ask him if the friendship bothers him because he should trust you. (Reasonable objection: one of them has tried something with you in the past). Trust is important. If he doesn't trust you, sorry sister, say good bye. You don't want a jealous boyfriend.

However, telling him that your friends like you is only asking him to be jealous, all you have to tell him is that you have these wonderful friends who know about your relationship and are respectful about it.

Now, if you're afraid that something might happen with these guys, then you need to decide which is more important to you: your relationship with them or your relationship with your boyfriend. If your boyfriend means that much to you, then find friends that don't tempt you....or if these guys really mean that much, are you with the right one?

Another thing to try is to put yourself in his situation. If he had female friends who liked him, how would you feel? Would you want to know? Would you want him to be friends with them? Would you want him chatting to them about you?

Hope I helped. Good luck!

Answer 5

Dear Diane,
You are already cheating. Instead of being afraid to be dumped when he finds out, you should leave him if you are going to fool around with these other guys. I don't think you know what love means. If you say you love your bf so much then why are you talking to all these other guys knowing that your bf would not be happy about it.
you are just looking for confirmation that what you are doing with these other guys are ok. Well, its not.

Answer 6

Well,if you aren't actually doing any messing around with these guys you shouldn't be feeling guilty.The fact that you feel this way makes me think that you have some unsure feelings about your male friends.If you truly love your bf then you may need to talk to your male friends about the fact that you only want to be friends and not to flirt with you and you won't flirt with them.There's nothing wrong with having male friends but you have to draw the line.You may need to just drop them as friends if they aren't being "friends" anyway.Good luck:)

Answer 7

How old are you? You should dump all the boys and get some friends who are girls. Then go out to a movie and eat a lot of dessert. Then go sky diving. WITH GIRLS. Then your view on life will be different, and you'll be wiser about boyfriend/girlfriend relationships.

Answer 8

very confusing if you have other boyfriends your cheating if they are just friends then you are fine..... but seriously stop being so emo..... I mean just look at your name "Heart broken forever" I mean come on gimme a break and stop telling people you are crying and trying to make them feel bad for you take the fu#@in criticism I mean you asked for people to be honest and if you are fuc#ing all those guys then you're a whore, but if not then you're not one..... just stop making people feel bad for you

Answer 9

not considered cheating but you know its gonna lead there. #1 no #2 if you don't want to ever cheat stop talking to them #3 not yet

Answer 10

1.) dont worry about it yes tell him because there just your friends.
2.) tell your guy friends to stop flirting with you because your happy with your boyfriend.
3.) no, its not. its consider cheating if you kiss or worse another guy.