Well, Muslims agree (I suppose) that it's okay for a Muslim man to marry a non-Muslim woman. So is it haram for his wife to bring a chirstmas tree to their house? Is it haram for his wife to buy gifts for their children and her family? Is it haram for him to join his wife and her family as they celebrate?
Is it halal to draw a segregation line between him and his wife and her family?
2007-12-14 10:24:01 · 10 answers · asked by Avenny [snowberry] 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Ramadan
What a discouraging answer Brainiac_Super_Villian. I'm so glad Islam does not happen to be one of the "properties in your backyard". Is this how to convince people with Islam? By telling them to take it, or leave it? You're sending an indirect wrong message; you're telling me that Allah has given us a mind and asked us to inactivate it!!!
2007-12-14 10:34:48 · update #1
Brainiac_Super_Villian: Turn it on by not thinking? How can that be?
Miss Shia: Not agreeing with you does not make me any less of a Muslim than you. Did Allah give you the right and permission to question people's faith? Is that Islam to you?
♫~~∞§arah T∞©~~♫: I never talked about "changing" Islam, so either you're being judgmental or you misunderstood me. I'm talking about talking about Islam with reason. Allah encourages us to think, and to learn. Learning is very highly valued in Islam as a matter of fact, and reason to.
2007-12-14 11:45:01 · update #2
Edit: too*
2007-12-14 11:45:57 · update #3
One more thing, there are many wonderful Christians here so please be careful and watch your words. I wouldn't accept that you call them names behind their backs, let aside hurt them bluntly like that. And you're indirectly misjudging Islam too by the way. If Islam says it's okay to marry a non-Muslim, and you say they're "junk", then you're not only misjudging those non-Muslims but Islam as well.
2007-12-14 11:50:01 · update #4
♫~~∞§arah T∞©~~♫: to begin with, I said: either judgmental or misunderstood me. So please go back and read what I had written. Also, I did NOT say that those who think that celebrating Christmas is haram DO NOT THINK and I was NOT judgmental, I'm asking for reason, and I'm asking you not to call them names because one of the most important things that Islam teaches us is to respect one another – and because I do respect them just like I appreciate their respect for me. I won't go around asking the world to respect me as a Muslim if I can't offer the same to the world in return. But since you can't reason it, you call them names, and you draw conclusions about me. I just hate it when people who cannot reason get so irritated and state taking the matter personally! I really feel sorry for you.
2007-12-14 11:59:04 · update #5
Sarcasim does not offer reason :)
I'm still looking for reason..
2007-12-14 12:05:59 · update #6
Well, christmas usually celebrated by the christians. The muslims do not celebrate it, but this doesn't mean that you couldn't go to their houses during christmas and give present. You can. It is just that you don't pray with them if there is.
2007-12-14 12:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by leon adrianto 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim - In the Name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful
Hello. Well, this is one of those sticky situations that MUST be discussed before marriage but rarely is. A Muslim man is permitted to marry a non-Muslim woman who is a Jew or a Christian, but that is only with the understanding that the children will be raised as Muslims. This is a non-negotiable point, another one that is usually ignored by mixed couples.
If the wife is a Christian or a Jew she is permitted to practice her religion, but the children would not celebrate Christmas or Halloween or Easter or any other holiday that has its roots in paganism or Christianity. The Christmas tree and Santa and all that stuff is not strictly Christian, rather it is a secular innovation that has crept into the Christmas celebration over the centuries, so I would not say that a man is denying his wife the right to worship if he does not allow a Christmas tree or Yule log in the house.
Most families who are in this situation make compromises, and I cannot really relate to that as I was Muslim for several years before I married my husband. I do not observe Christmas with my non-Muslim relatives. I understand the difficulties this raises and the challenges of having two religions that are in some ways diametrically opposed under one roof, but I thank Allah every day that I was guided to Islam and have a believing Muslim husband so that sort of thing is not an issue in our lives.
May Allah guide you to the best in this world and the next. Ameen.
Fi Aman Allah,
Nancy Umm Abdel Hamid
2007-12-14 21:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by UmmAbdelHamid 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I don't think christmas should be celebrated in a house of a Muslim under any circumstances. My aunt was going to come stay with me at that time and I told her that she would have to go elsewhere to celebrate christmas...no tree, no santa, nothing in my house to do with christmas...so she decided not to come. Ahamdulillah!
If the husband is doing right by her rights of maintenance then he is totally in the right to say what will and will not take place under his roof. If she wants to celebrate christmas in that way, maybe she should go to a friend's or family's home to do that. Also, as I am sure is the Muslim's condition of marrying her, the children are being raised as Muslims, therefore she should not involve the children in that kind of a celebration.
On another topic of christmas: I think christians should look into the "roots" of that holiday of theirs...a large part of their traditions seem to be "borrowed" from pagan holiday traditions..not trying to put christians down or anything..just something to think about.
2007-12-14 21:42:06 · answer #3 · answered by Salmah 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No harm done, but people seem to be living in the past, and anyone that tells you, that you are not Muslim, be it shia or sunni, are ignorant and do not even know the meaning of Islam if it hit them on the head.
2007-12-14 23:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Although I am not Muslim, my husband is and he has every intention on celebrating Christmas with me. He knows why I celebrate it. Although the main reason is to celebrate the birth of Christ, there are other reasons I celebrate such as the gathering of family. It doesn't have anything to do with my belief that Christ is the Son of God. Muslims believe in Christ also and just because they don't celebrate his birth does not make it haram to celebrate the holidays in spirit for all of it's various meanings.
As far as someone's answer for him to "allow me", thankfully my husband respects me and my beliefs and treats me as an equal. He would never "forbid" me anything that was of such importance to me when it does him no harm.
2007-12-14 21:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Christmas is a festival that is forbidden for Muslims to celebrate.
Most scholars agree that yes it is forbidden for a Muslim man to allow innovated holidays to be celebrated in his house.
Of course it is forbidden for a Muslim man or woman to celebrate Christmas...really this is obvious and logical.
It actually is halal (if you want to put it that way) to draw a line. Better the line be between him and his wife than between him and Allah swt. The husband should of thought of this junk before he got married to a non Muslim.
Edit: You know really as far as the 'take it or leave it' thing. That is right actually. One either accepts Islam in all its truth and goodness or one doesn't. If a person wants to change Islam in their personal life there is nothing anyone can do to change that but they should not be promoting those changes to the ummah nor should true believers accept that.
Judgemental? I spoke generally, never said *you* wanted to change Islam. But it is now clear by your comment that you think that if a person does believe celebrating Christmas is forbidden they have not used their brain because if they did they would celebrate it or accept that it is okay to do so. You are actually the one being judgemental.
rofl...I didn't say Christians were junk. Gee that would include my entire family.
Okay how is this. As long as it is your way it is all good.
And AGAIN I didn't call anyone names good grief. Apparently I read everything you wrote wrong, I misunderstood everything, I am soooo bad. You on the other hand understand everything, are not hyper sensitive and can read clearly. Sorry:)
Actually what you are looking for is a fatwa. I am not going to issue one :) I know the reasons these things are forbidden and I am not going to cut and paste a bunch of stuff from an Islamic website when I know you can go look. No one here who thinks celebrating xmas is haram believes so just 'because'. They all have a reason and have stated it over and over in many, many xmas q's.
You know what is truly amazing. Is the statement about taking it personally. Either one of us could say that. It seems to me that you are taking everything personally, likewise to you about me. Can you take a breath to see that it is normal to read with inflection as right or wrong as the inflection chosen may be? salam
2007-12-14 19:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by ~~∞§arah T∞©~~ 6 · 4⤊ 7⤋
u have to look into its history, christmas has no bases in the bible or even in the life of jesus, christains themselves admit it, it was derived from a pagan holiday, if the wife is smart enough, she'll realize theres no point in celebrating it
2007-12-14 20:12:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 3⤋
no tht is a diff. case. in tht case, the husband is not celebrating christmas..they r just allowing their wives to celebrate it.
2007-12-14 18:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by Al Qiyamah{top lawyer inshAllah} 5 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Hey if you don't want to follow Islam then don't...just don't think you can change the rules.
Well I was thinking you need to actually turn yours on before you can turn it off.
2007-12-14 18:30:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 6⤋
I think u r not a muslim to say this. TROLL.
Go and follow christianity if you care about it more than Islam.
2007-12-14 19:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Shia 1 · 4⤊ 10⤋