Fellow Christians only please?

Question

I had a problem that... Well lets just say I haven't completely gotten over it yet. But I am making progress! A had a well... lets just say not such a good childhood. I have had to do things very differently than most growing up. I was constantly having to fight. I lived in a home where people where extremely abusive and did nothing but drink and do drugs all the time. I was always afraid. As I became an adult, I had all of this anger. I was mocked all the time at school. As I became an adult, I began to have some serious problems. My grandfather died, My mother died from a drug overdose, I was nearly to the point to where I could handle no more. But every now and then I catch myself feeling guilty. Even though the things that brought about my condition where no fault of my own. I'm doing better, but this is not an easy thing to overcome. Of course it did not help when there where people in the church who where also mocking me. I think now I know why.

I think that for some unknown reason a few people where jealous. Jealousy can be extremely dangerous without a doubt. I'm not a jealous person so, I find it hard to relate to jealous people. I try to be as humble as possible. All I want is a close relationship with God. I think with my background I can be helpful to others who have been through the same thing. But I must say, it isn't easy. Some of my worst enemies where in the church! The last place I thought I could ever have enemies. But Thats not God's fault, man has a choice. Choices can somtimes be costly. I can't think of any reason why you should be against fellow Christians.

But How can I fully overcome this?

You didn't let me finish and now you make me want to delete this question because you obviously could care less! NEVERMIND!!!!

Well, you cannot blame yourself either. And thats what I was doing.

Answer 1

I think it's wonderful that you have a desire to be close to the Lord! God can and will use anyone who has a servant's heart, and it sounds like that's what you have. I will be praying for you, that the Lord encourage you and guide you. God bless you!!!

Virginia

Answer 2

That sounds really difficult and unfair for any innocent child to be throne into such odds only to go through what you eventually did. A lot of people seem to think that once we become followers of Christ that we are completely redeemed from all that previously ailed us. I think you're discovering that isn't necessarily always true.

Salvation is a process. Paul spoke of it in past, present and future terms. You know from your experience with God already that your salvation isn't anything like an equation (do this and this and you will be saved) but a relationship - a personal commitment in love that we make to God.

Perhaps this is something for you and God to work through together. I have found that in the times that God doesn't heal us immediately from something He will instead walk us through a long process of healing. It is in that journey you take together that you will be pulled in deeper into your relationship with God and discover and become more than you ever thought you might. With God, I have found, He finds just as much worth in the journey as in the destination.

Many blessings to you - I hope that helps somewhat.

Answer 3

You don't say what your problem was, so it's hard to understand. I also grew up in a very weird household, father an atheist, bisexual, anything goes sort of person, very generous to his friends, but extremely strict and sometimes not so nice to my sister, me and my mother - also lots of alcohal and fighting. We knew we could never win with him, he would just explode when you least expected it, yet at other times was very warm and loving - he was probably what they call bi-polar today. It was a hard way to live, never knowing what to expect, loving arms or a slap in the face. When I got saved he cut me off for a year and a half, but I kept on trying to bring him back into my life. There were always secrets in our house, and nothing was what it appeared to be. It caused my mother to have a nervous breakdown at a critical time in my life, age of 13, and it was scary, never knowing what would happen. I never felt I would fit in anywhere. Then I got saved and thought,"here I am among all these loving Christians" - I thought the church was the answer and for awhile it seemed to be, but when I was honest about my problems, alcohal, cigarettes, I was told I couldn't serve until I overcame those things,and for awhile I did, almost. I was faithful, I tithed, I loved God, went to Bible school and immersed myself in the Christian life, but it was never enough. Then my Pastor, who I thought was second to God, ran off with a member of the congregation, leaving his wife, his church and all of us behind. Since then I have learned that we can't count on people, but only our sincere relationship with God to help us. The bible tells us to judge no man after the flesh, but yes, they judged me, and yes, the Pastor was a hypocrite. Only God is perfect, and people, even church people will let you down. You learn that in your walk with God. He wants to be number 1 in your life. Just know this, that no matter what your problem is, whether it's being gay, drugs, alcohol, whatever, God loves you, and if you can't get help in the church get it wherever you can. The church is not perfect, they are just people, and if they aren't dealing with the hard issues that are outward they are dealing with sins of the heart such as jealousy, gossip, backbiting, adultery, pornography and ever other issue known to man, they just don't want to admit it. But don't give up on Jesus, he never gives up on you. Don't lay your faith aside because of your discouragement with the institution. God's love is real. Keep believing, and don't give up. God Bless you!

Answer 4

I can't imagine how anyone could be jealous of you, dear one. Other than the fact that you are definitely an OVERCOMER! You have gone through things no one should have to go through, and you came out the other side with strength and courage. God is most certainly standing beside you.

If someone in your church has the audacity to mock you, speak privately with your pastor about it. If he is unable or unwilling to stand with you against that kind of thing, you should find another fellowship to worship with.

God bless you!

Answer 5

Sometimes we don't know why things happen, and may not in our time on earth. But : Ro 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. So I believe you will be able to help many get through some of the things you have been through. Keep in the word, and study. Put on the full armor of God (Eph 6:11- ..). If you have any questions, please e mail me. I will be praying for you, and that you will be able to release the things that you will need to, keep your faith, and be used mightily of God.

†Prayer Warrior At Your Request†

Answer 6

If there is people in your churcdh mocking you I will sugest you better go to another church and also you need to spend more time in prayer and studying the bible. The more time you spend with God the less time you got to feel down and this will also improve your life. God bless

Answer 7

Although you were raised in unfair circumstances, you must not allow yourself to be defeated by your own inhibitions. I was sexually abused as a young child. But instead of letting these perversions that were unfairly placed in my young mind ever since I could remember consume me, I had to begin the long, hard process 11 years later to correct it. I had to root out the festering seed of self-defilement and sexual obsession, and change my whole life to keep it out for good. It was not my fault I had to go through what I did, or that I had to struggle to repair it years later. But I had to do it nonetheless, because these thoughts and habits were causing me to behave unrighteously. We cannot blame our circumstances.

Answer 8

The people who can hurt you the most are the people you care about. And sometimes that is other Christians.

I have been hurt by the opinions of other Christians also. What you need to do to be an overcomer is realize who you are in Christ. And it doesn't really matter so much what others think, even others in the family, even other Christians. What matters is what God thinks. Read Ephesians. Read 1-3John. God loves you sooo much. Even though others may listen to the false accusation about you, God knows your honest heart.
So? Condemnation comes from the devil. There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, for the law of the Spirit for those in Christ Jesus has set you free, from the law of sin & death.

The reason why Christians can hurt you so much, is because they are so much a part of your life after God saves you. And you trust them. But they are human too & you can trust them to a certain point, But God is the one who will never let you down. He has promised to never leave or forsake you.

http://www.riveroflifefellowship.org is my Church. And the Pastor has preached on this type of stuff before.

http://www.fathersloveletter.com for verses of who you are in Christ. You are a child of God...

Who is He who overcomes? He who is born of God. What is our victory? Our faith (in Jesus). We trust & obey Jesus & His promises.

One problem I have overcome is a Christian curse. This was a lady who I loved & was a bible study leader. She gave cards, etc. & encouraged me. But once, I was rejected to be part of a mentor ministry. It hurt me & I thought they thought I wasn't good enouph, or wondered why. I just went my way & couldn't talk to her anymore. Years later I prayed with sisters in faith about old hurts. To my surprise, this hurt (rejection) was still there & exposed when we prayed about it. By then I had learned to just imagine a boomerang come my way & return to sender. So, I prayed it be returned to sender. And the hurt left for good. So? I realized this was a Christian curse. But this prayer with sisters in faith happened about 2yrs ago & I haven't had this hurt return ever. So? It wasn't because I wasn't forgiving this lady. Because I did forgive her. But the curse was something that was said behind my back & hurt me. So? Ask God what to do. It could be as simple as imagining a boomerang sent your way, dipped in Gods love & returned to sender.

Praying for you to find out who you are in Christ.

† PW in Jesus Name †



And if people are mocking you in the congregation, they are probably jealous of you. Because God gives you Grace. They think they did this & that & are mad that God gave you Grace. That it isn't fair. But grace isn't fair. The thing is that we can't earn Gods Grace, Grace is freely given. These Christians forgot they are made the righteousness of Christ & this is self righteousness & not Christ righteousness. If one tries to do this & that to receive Gods Grace, then they are fallen from Grace. Grace can't be earned. My Pastor has preaced on Grace sooo much not too long ago. Listen to some of the messages on Grace.

Answer 9

i've got faith that everybody is entitled to their opinion and that i've got faith that that is incredibly not what God planned to happen, yet you're extremely nevertheless a Christian in case you help gay rights. Its style of like asserting that individuals who...think of cussing is super are not Christian. it is ridiculous, i comprehend a brilliant style of Christians who cuss! So i think of you're nevertheless a Christian in case you help gay rights. God will constantly decide you extremely.:-)

Answer 10

so your question would be ??

we ALL have faced sometimes insurmountable odds in our life some worse then others......

But GOD is the ONLY ONE who is able to both free us and keep us........
we ALL have faults and failures
doesnt make us any better or any less then another
we are just humans striving to the perfection through Jesus Christ and what HE did , not what we cdid or could ever do to obtain it !!!

Just TRUST GOD and HOLD to HIS WORD
and it makes no difference about anyone who anything else
HE FORGIVES , HE FORGETS
so forgive yourself and move on'
and with HIS HELP
you can overcome !!!

HOLD to HIS WORD
and FOLLOW HIS WORD
not people or a orginazation
HE IS THE ONLY ONE
who sets US FREE !!!!