I'm really confused, can someone help me out here?

Question

I met J. the first day of the semester and we became instant friends. We found out that we are alot alike, with the exception of a few things. We hang out almost every day and the days we don't hang out, we talk on the phone.

One day in another class a mutual friend of ours. H., told me that J. liked me and wanted to date me. H. had then asked me if I liked J. and I told her that I did.

A week later while hanging out with J. my friend C. had called me and asked what I was up to. I told C. that I was hanging out with J. and he said he would leave me to my date. J. saw this and asked me if I thought that was a date. I told him that I didn't. He then asked if I wanted it to be a date and I told him I didn't care. He then asked me if I liked him and I said that I did. He then told me how two of his friends, who I have met and got along with, kept bugging him to ask me out but he was too indecisive.

That's all that happened that night, but a few weeks later, while taking his dog for a walk, he made the comment that we were so much alike that it would be like dating himself, but he said it in more of a joking way.

Then a week and a half later we were hanging out with some other friends of ours, one had made a comment that I was good with my hands (not in the perverted sense but in the general sense, I had picked up a penny with out using my thumb or with out sliding it to the edge of the table) another friend took it as a perverted comment and told J. that he made a good choice.

Then a few more days later another friend asked us how long we have been dating and we both replied that we were just friends. Our friend had then told us that everyone we knew thought we were a couple and thought we made a cute couple.

Then the next week he asked me if I liked him again and once again I said yes. Then a few days later he asked me if I had ever had a boyfriend and when I told him I hadn’t he didn’t say anything else about it.

My question is, Does he like me enough to date me or is it just a really close friendship? And if he does like me, why hasn’t he asked me out yet?

Answer 1

"My question is, Does he like me enough to date me or is it just a really close friendship? And if he does like me, why hasn’t he asked me out yet?"

My advice (and this is serious, not trying to sound sarcastic or mean or anything) is ask him those two questions, and see what happens. I doubt it could endanger even just your friendship too much, and who knows, you might end up when you want to be with him if you aren't already!

Good luck!

Answer 2

i did not read all but it comes down to one thing instead of relying upon other people to convey messages why not talk to each other??? --- you can then get first hand if you are both on the same wavelength --- i say all these things in hindsight --- i never had a date at school and my first serious adult relationship was intitiated by my wife ---- so i know what i did wrong and can let you know --- dont hesitate and enjoy

Answer 3

as i see it it the same thing thats going on with me. i know i should that my own advise buts kind of hard. you should really forget him because, i think its better to have a friend than a bf because then you break up and u dont talk to him any more and it really hurts. just.......... be his friend but if your willing to take that risk have him for sometime and then lose him, take the risk but it better to have a friend that then have an enemy.

and from another point of view. he does like you and he's just too shy to ask you out.

good luck