I just want to take things slow so I don't screw it up. Okay, so I really like this guy who works with me, and I think he might like me too. We flirt all the time, but I don't know how serious it is on his part. But I don't act that serious either . . . I don't/didn't want him to think that I like him yet. But ANYWAYS me and this other girl I work with who is my closest friend at work decided to pick secret crushes out at work. Well, I obviously didn't say the guy that I really like, but someone else who is nice but not my type. Well, my friend thought it would be funny to tell everyone we work with who my "secret crush" is, and now everyone thinks that I like this guy and they tease me all the time about it, and now the guy that I really do like is acting completely different toward me. :-( I still don't want him to think that I do like him yet, but I don't want him to think that I don't, either! I just want things to back the way they were. Please tell me what I should do :-)
2007-12-14 09:42:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time to loose the school girl attitude and start talking to this guy. You might even print out your question and hand it to him and see what happens.
Best of luck.
2007-12-14 09:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by go2seek 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Honesty is the best policy. Better late than never. These old sayings are still around for a reason - they are true, they work. You're dealing with emotional issues like love, pride, maturity... The guy might be embarrassed, since he had you in his sights, maybe he was thinking about making a move, but he probably feels now like an idiot, thinking he was manipulated. See, whether or not you want to show him that you like him, if you really like him and he likes you, it will be obvious to the both of you. It's just human - the chemistry between you will come out every day in how you treat each other. So to find out you like someone else (which isn't true!), he gets a double whammy - both the embarrassment of your "rejection" and also the chance of losing you to someone else which is what really scares him and why he is acting weird. It seems from your words that you are very young. Listen, it is good to be shy and pure, but not to the point that you risk losing out on a guy you're interested in because you didn't send the right signals. That's your job as the girl - send the right signals, and then let the guy work for you a little bit. If he likes you, he will work to get you. If you screw up your job, aka sending NO signals or the WRONG signals, then the guy will be discouraged. Especially young and/or shy guys. They will stay faaaar away. Is that what you want? If you want the guy, then let him know - stop playing your "I don't want to let him know I like him game." In your case, you might have to be a little more direct. Get a girlfriend to squash that other rumor, and then perhaps a small gesture for your true desire; bring him a snack that personally made (like a sandwich or cookies) and let him know that you brought it for him. Or whatever, just so long as he knows that he still has a exclusive and superior position to that other guy - and smile a lot - and he'll be right back to normal.
2007-12-14 17:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by Bruce Leroy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your in a silly and sticky situation.. you cant really say anything itlll only make it worse. If i was you id just pay more attention to the one that you like and as harsh as this is, pay as little attention as possible to the guy you said you liked... people will soon realise who you like,
dont let anything happen with the guy you like fora long time as he will think your a bit of a tramp/ "loose girl" if you know what i mean,
but really you are better off not being with anyone at work, it screws everything up like the way that guy is acting with you now that he thinks you havea crush on him..
why not score with your workmates frineds that you dont have to see every day,,
what age are you by the way?
2007-12-14 17:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by lee b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. Start with the bit about you and your friend talking about crushes and tell him what happened. Tell him you were not ready for him to know yet, but due to what has happened you want him to know you like him.
Next time I would suggest you think that one all the way through. Next time don't play the game with your friend in the first place. I hope there is something there to salvage between you and your crush, but know there may not be.
2007-12-14 17:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by amy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why the games???? Listen.. first of all you should know better about telling some1 who you like, specially at work..of course it will spread. This is what I would do--go up to him and ask him out after work..or lunch something, then by yourselves..then you can keep the mood you want as far as flirting and maybe the two of you will get into that conversation?..if he doesnt say anything girl do it urself! if you enjoyed spending time with him let him know and let him knw you would not mind doing it again... ;) (wink)... if he is into you he should get the poing lol
2007-12-14 17:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by GIGI 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Their will be no flirting on my watch at my work place. Your fired. Just joking i don't even know where you work. I am not your boss don't worry. But what you say makes no since. You either want him to know. Or you don't make up your mind. And don't get fired over it.
2007-12-14 17:49:56 · answer #6 · answered by . 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think your like 16 years old working at a fast food arent u? its your fault anyways your the one that named the wrong guy...just tell the guy you like how you feel...enough playing games if you dont move fast you might see him with someone else and that will completely break your heart..god bless you
2007-12-14 17:48:22 · answer #7 · answered by assyrian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not a very good "close friend at work". Tell him that you want to go to lunch with him one day. He will like the invite
2007-12-14 17:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by Yep...Me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say b4 work closes: I'm really worn out i should go get a drink, would like to come along?
During drink: i like you blah blah i named the wrong person blah blah.
if you don't want him to know u like him, then why do u even bother?
2007-12-14 17:57:43 · answer #9 · answered by Joshua U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pull him aside and tell him that when you told your friend each others secret crush you didn't want to really say incase your friend told anyone, so you told her someone else, and it was really him, he'll believe that and then he'll know that you like him, then you can give him a bj
2007-12-14 17:47:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋