It's a really long read but I am BEGGING for some GOOD advice!!!?

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Question: Do I have even the most MINISCULE chance with him again??? If so... please tell me exactly what to do... and if not... please tell him how to stop going crazy and let it go.

~Here's my story~Me and my bf have been together for 2 months. I have really been falling in love w/ him. Last w/e we spent together and everything was great. He was really sweet and went out of his way to bring me a rose and make me breakfast among other things. He left my house frustrated on Sunday b/c he left later than he planned and missed a chance to work on an assignment w/ a friend (he's in college). We got in a bit of an argument on Sunday night on the phone as we were both a bit grouchy. He was upset I was acting needy. We both said we didn't want to fight and made up. The next morning I sent him a text saying sorry and explained why I acted like that and I wouldn't do it again. He didn't call or text me all day (which he has never done). PLEASE KEEP READING BELOW...

I called him before bed and he said that he was neglecting his school work b/c of all the time he spends w/ me and is so overwhelmed w/ school and work and me that he doesn't have any time for himself. (he gets very overwhelmed and stressed when he has too much going on). Then he broke up w/ me. I basically begged him to not do this. He ended up hanging up on me and turned off his phone. I sent him several text messages asking him to reconsider and that things would be better but he never replied.
I feel he made a hasty decision based on a state of stress and panic. I know he really likes me and was head over heels for me. I also know his brother influenced his decision. (BTW I know begging him and sending text messages was really NOT a good thing).
I left things alone for a few days but last night I was drinking and did it again! I texted and called several times. He never answered or replied. I felt really stupid so today I called him (from another # so he would answer)...

and basically asked him if he was ignoring me and he said no he left his phone downstairs to charge and took and shower and went to bed and then this morning he saw all my texts. I told him to just tell him if he doesn't ever want to talk to me anymore and he said he does want to talk to me. He said he was @ a staff Christmas bowling party and that he would call me back later. I am not stupid and don't expect him to call. I know I have done MAJOR damage and just keep getting myself in deeeper! If there's even a chance in hell that I have to get him back pleeeaaaase tell me as I will try anything!

(He is done school now for x-mas vacation so the stress of school will be lifted.
We also had plans to go to a party together tonight that he already bought tickets for. One of my texts asked if he wanted to go together no strings attached).
PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am know I am acting crazy & doing everything wrong and don't know how to stop... I have never felt this way before.

Answer 1

You have to stop phoning \and texting him all the time. it is tantamount to stalking and is a real turnoff. If you dont go to the party with him tonight for any reason just send him one short text in about three dats time just saying @if you want to see me again please contact me'. Then dont contact him again. If he doesn't contact you find some pride from somewhere and put a brave face on and get on.
He may be emotionally drained if you are haranguing him. Given a break he may well resume your relationship, but this time take it steady and give him time for his homework and a bit of life outside of you. Make arrangements to see your friends sometimes as well on your own. The time you spend together will be all the richer for a little time apart.
Hope it works out.

Answer 2

I read the whole thing. Okay, you have to get a grip. You are acting like this is the last guy on earth. He is telling you loud and clear, he does not have time for a r/ship. College is his priority right now, and he feels you are getting in the way of it. This is mature of him. I believe he was ignoring you when he didn't answer your texts. When you tricked him and got him on the phone, you put him on the spot and he was sparing your feelings. I know this is harsh, but I'm telling you the truth as I see it.

You are young (college age?) and it's normal to fall in love so hard and to want to spend all your time with someone and to have it devastating when they can't or won't spend time with you. I promise, this will pass. The more you call and text him, the further away you will push him though. The only thing you can do is leave him alone. That is the ONLY way you can hope to salvage your r/ship. He is feeling overwhelmed and you are making it worse for him. Once he feels better and the stress has passed, he might start thinking of you and missing you again, and then he might contact you. You have to learn how to give a guy space when he needs it. Nobody likes a needy clingy girlfriend. Keep reminding yourself he is not the last guy on earth. I'm 30 and I keep falling in love with new guys all the time and getting my heart broken, and thinking I'll never love again, and then a month later I'm in love with someone else again. It's a fact of life and something you will deal with for a long time. There's really nothing you can do to make the pain go away but wait it out, but I promise you, it will go away, and there is always another cute, sweet guy around the corner. Good luck and I hope you feel better. Sorry if I was harsh, but I'm just being honest.

Answer 3

This is all I needed to know:

"I called him before bed and he said that he was neglecting his school work b/c of all the time he spends w/ me and is so overwhelmed w/ school and work and me that he doesn't have any time for himself. (he gets very overwhelmed and stressed when he has too much going on). Then he broke up w/ me."

As a guy, I can tell you with confidence that this is over. He's just not that into you. Forget him. It's done. What he's told you in guy talk is that he wants to go out with people and probably already has someone in mind.

Sorry.

Answer 4

Alright. First off, all I gotta say is stop with the cronic texting and calling.
Maybe make him feel regretful ,and make him wish he had you back. Sometimes when you avoid people for sometime, they can't wait to talk to you, and hear your voice.

I know I know, you feel terrible, but I would too. I don't think he's worth your time sweetheart. Stress, school and other things is not an excuse to spaz on your girlfriend, they have feelings too. My personal opinion is to move on .. or wait for him to talk to you, and work out yours problems.

Maybe now that its x mas break, you will have more time to figure out whats happening in your relationship, and not worry so much about the other things going on around you.

Best of luck, and remember keep your head high, no matter what. Theres always someone better out there, that will treat you with respect and would want to spend every monent by your side :)

Answer 5

Your really need to walk away and let things cool off. If a girl I was seeing did some of the things you have done I wouldn't call back either. You really answered your own question...

You got in a fight about you being too needy so why would you think you can get him back by doing the same thing?

I know it hurts and its awful and you'll never meet any one else like him..blah blah blah.

Welcome to love and life. It happens to everyone and it probably wont be the last time it happens. It's best just to give him space. If he's interested then he'll come back but don't press the issue. You'll just make it worst.

Answer 6

You are way too needy !! He sees that from the way you act with him. You want to get married !!! He just wants to have sex with his GF. You want to be his wife. You need to back off and give him some breathing room. He will call you when he is ready. You are way too overbearing. I can feel it in you writing, and I'm looking to get away from you too. Cool it with the text messages and phone calls. Too many are not a good idea. Give him a chance to think. If he wants you he will call you. Trust Me. If not he will make every excuse there is in the book to stay away from you. I got to go, I can't stand you another minute. Too much "Drama" for a young relationship. Take a break. Enjoy the holidays. Most guys break up with girls before the Holidays so they don't have to buy them any presents. Get it. Maybe he don't have any money to spend on you. Good Luck.

Answer 7

Men are more attracted to what they think they can't have, if he knows that you would take him back in a heart beat he won't be interested, he needed a little time and you suffocated him if someone was doing that to you you'ld probably think oh my god he's crazy and run for the hills, but if you play it cool like it doesn't bother you he'll come running back remember men are the hunter and the only thing left in this world to hune is us women play the game right and you'll win everytime.

Answer 8

After carefully reading all this, I think your only chance is to totally back off for at least a couple of weeks. He's seriously "in his cave" - and you MUST NOT disturb guys when they are in their cave.

When he will be ready to leave his cave, nobody knows but him. Wait until he does - there's absolutely nothing you can do until then.

Good luck :)

Answer 9

Wait. Spend a good long time leaving him alone. (A couple of months.)

Then call and ask him if it still stresses him out to talk with you. (He'll say no.) Then ask how he's been and if he's romantically attached. If he says no, you can say you're glad to hear it, but don't immediately ask him out.

A week later, when he hasn't contacted you, call him back and ask what kind of a date he'd say "Yes" to.

Answer 10

to be honest, when i broke up with this girl, she acutally begged me not too, i felt so embarrased for her and it was the biggest turn off that she begged, im sorry but if you sis have a chance you may have ruined it, he may think that your way too atatched and thinks your stalkerish, honestly move on, and i know that its hard to and it feels like hes the greatest guy ever, but wait till you find a better guy and youll forget all about it