We aranged to me meet with eachother so naturaly I planed the date out, booked a restourant and cinema tickets, rented a movie out and pretty much planed it down to the last minute. Then he says he can't come and was intimidated by the fact I'd planed it so much. Is this typical of most men?
I don't know whether I should tell him how disapointed I am in him, I'm 21 and he's 38, I realy would have expected more bravery from a man of his age. He says the next time we can meet up is after new years, I'm not sure if I can wait that long :(
2007-12-14 09:19:13 · 11 answers · asked by Sophia 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is typical male behaviour most men dont like to be organised they prefer to just go with the flow and go wherever the night takes them my advice to you would be relax a little and just let the night carry you otherwise you may ruin any chance you have
2007-12-14 09:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by firecracker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be worried that you're a control freak.Some people just like things to happen naturally and are intimidated by a high level of planning.Its human behaviour.How come you didn't give him an input in the planning?Too much planning can make things boring...
2007-12-14 09:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Civic_Drifter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how long you've been seeing each other for.
But it does sound to me as though you are putting more effort into things than him.
He isn't married is he by any chance? Seems strange that he can't see you until 2008.
If I was you I think I wouldn't bother within anymore.
2007-12-14 09:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man as in 'male ?' Just one will do : listen to the women in his life -- he'd learn a million things that way .
2016-05-23 23:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such detailed planning sounds completely impersonal.
You could have planned all that for anyone - where did he or his preference or personality come in to it?
Meet up with a rough plan and see where your unique personal interaction leads you.
2007-12-14 09:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by P P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why did you " naturally, plan the date out" ?
maybe he was pi$$ed at you for not consulting him as he would be going on the date too.
sounds a little controlling of you
2007-12-14 09:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by looby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all, some men they don't like planning things cauz they have lack of responsibility
2007-12-14 09:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I would forget him, I think he wants the sex only I'm afraid.
2007-12-14 09:24:24 · answer #8 · answered by Phantom66 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
move on now, cause you will in the end.
2007-12-14 09:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by andy F7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes cuz were scared we'll mess something up.
2007-12-14 09:22:31 · answer #10 · answered by oracio z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋