how do i get his attention?

Question

I like this guy named Jacob, and I'm pretty sure he has no idea i exist. He is quiet, and he has drama right before I do. He has black hair, and he is japanese, and I used to live in japan. All of his friends tell me i should just go up to him and say hey but i get shy and i need another alternative. i dont know what to do. i changed my complete style to get his attention. i want to just go up to him and be like hii i'm brianna. but omgggg i cant do that. i have never met a guy that has given my butterflies, but he does, major major butterflies. i will be walking down the hall and he looks at me but i dont know what he is thinking about me, and when i do make eye contact with him i get butterflies and i bite the edge of my lip and look down at the ground. i dont know what to do to get his attention without totally embarrassing myself. he came into my drama class and he was talking to me and i tightened up and i couldnt answer him, so please help me, cause i cant even talk to him

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as you see he is adorable. but i'm not that pretty. he is like punk so i am changing my style to be my old self again to get his attention. but that hasnt worked


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see there are 9,439,598,475,894,789 girls at my school that are prettier and probably already have his attention/

Answer 1

So not true! You're pretty the way you are. Also, try to like, just drop a pen or something near him and maybe he'll pick it up for you and then say "Thanks, I'm Brianna." or something. Or start up a conversation with your friends right next to him that'll get him interested.

Answer 2

So, i've gone through this. Almost exact same thing. And I've leraned a lot from it. So Jacob is obviuosly as shy as you are. So you have to make the first move. Cause boys are stupid, and I'm pretty sure he won't. Unless he changes his mind, and decides to talk to you. But until then, you really should start talking to him. Since he's in your drama class, ask him for some "help" or just start up a conversation. But don't try to sound too desperate or anything, keep it cool and casual. And hopefully something will start off from there.
If neither of you make the first move, then sooner or later,
he will move on, and you'll be heart broken. So really try starting a convo with him, or even if you can't, just try getting mutual friends to introduce you guys to each other.
I really hoped i helped a bit, cause i don't want you to go through the same thing I did.

Good Luck. =)

Answer 3

I don't know why you think you're not pretty, because you are! You shouldn't be hard on yourself. Try being more confident. Guys love confidence. He'll will feel awkward if you can't have a conversation with him. Just take a deep breath and pretend you're just going to talk with any old friend. When he looks at you instead of looking down you should smile at him. Maybe even wave at him too.

I don't agree with you changing your style though in order to attract him. I honestly don't like it when I see girls doing that. It will make him and others think you're trying too hard. Just be yourself and relax! If he ends up not liking you just because of the way you dress then he wasn't worth it anyways.

You said he looks at you sometimes, so he obviously knows you exist. He may be shy as well! There are some guys who are scared to make the first move or go up to a girl they like. Just start talking to him like you would to anyone else.

Answer 4

First things first, breath. If he came up to you just to talk and for not other reason then he is also interested in you. I'm sure he's heard from his friends that you like him. When you walk up to him you don't have to say much. Start with Hi, how are you. A conversations takes two people. When he looks at you don't look down. That demonstrates a lack of confidence. Instead keep eye contact a bit longer than you feel comfortable with and smile. The smile is important, it is a non verbal communication that you are willing to talk and that you are acknowledging him.

Answer 5

Wow, kick your own butt much? Confidence is the biggest, most important, most well it is the best thing you can do for yourslef. Anything less is not going to help you much, try to love yourself, I can't stress this enough because if you don't you'll fail the relationship. You WILL NOT gain more love for yourself with him, I can't stress that enough, you'll get with him and you'll freck all the time because you don't believe in yourself. Think of it as a test, unless you can past it and be honest to him about YOUR feelings, your not ready for a relationship, no offense, I'm just trying to save you heart breck...... trust that you don't have to just say it, but you need to be confident in your own way, and your own style and in your own purpose with him and your life, or else, your dangerous to him, and its selfish to get in a relationship with him anyways......

Answer 6

you said he had drama befor you so you have drama right? soooooooooo act not act somebody else play youre self who is not scared of jacob give him a smile and a wave when hw walks by and if you are real gd say hi.hell sonn pick up that you want to get to know him

Answer 7

accidently drop some books or hit him with some hot soup. or just write him a note or get a friend to help you out

Answer 8

don't be scared just walk up to him and say hi my name is ?are you busy later maybe we can hook up and talk