Grandpa Joseph was married to a lady in early 1930's, had 2 kids....
He met my Grandma 'Nita and married her as well, having 2 kids...
after doing genealogy and contacting those relatives, they say I am not legit because the first wife went to the Temple and my Grandma stayed Catholic....
but on family tree we are non existent and not on their web page...we do not exist
why is that ok?
2007-12-14 08:42:08 · 5 answers · asked by voice_of_reason 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It wasn't a marriage authorized by the church. Polygamy was outlawed before that date, so he wasn't following his religion anyway.
What does that mean for the other side of your family? That his other wife may not really be married to him in heaven. He broke those covenants when he married your grandma.
I don't think it's ok for them to treat you like that, but maybe they have their reasons, since we only have your side of the story to go by.'
*EDIT**
Forgot to add that if there was death or divorce before the other marriage took place, then all covenants would still be in place. it's only if there was another marriage while still married to his first wife.
2007-12-14 08:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by odd duck 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If his first wife died or the marriage ended in divorce, then I agree with you- their behavior is wrong, and they need to include all Grandpa Joseph's descendants for their genealogy to be complete and accurate.
Was he married to his first wife and Grandma Nita at the same time? If so, he was breaking the law and they're right in not acknowledging his marriage to Anita. But the legality of that marriage doesn't negate your existence. They still need to include you and yours for their genealogy to be complete and accurate.
Whether Grandpa Joseph had 2 wives at the same time or not doesn't excuse their treatment of you. You're a child of God, same as they are, and deserve the same respect. You shouldn't be ostracized because of your grandfather's choices- good, bad, or ugly.
2007-12-14 17:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As far as the church is concerned, you can go to a geneaology center and they can help you out. If there is evidence (i.e. marriage certificate or something else) then it is simply a matter of proof and adding your information to existing research. The famiy or the church cannot say that you don't exist if there is sufficient evidence. If there is no evidence that this occurred, then maybe they think you are a scam artist or something.
As members of the church they should not treat you unkindly. Perhaps it is somehow embarrassing that this occurred in their family and they are not ready to face it. There are many possible scenarios. Show them the research you have done, give them some time, work with them and maybe things will work out.
Good luck.
2007-12-14 20:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by whapingmon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did your Grandpa divorce his first wife or did she die?
Were they LDS?
Lds Church didn't know your family then how did she visit the temple?
Did he have two wives at the same time?
Your question doesn't make any sense...
If he was married in the 30s he would be almost 100 years old. Is he dead or alive? If he is dead why would he have a web page? Are your relatives or you even LDS?
If neither of you are LDS, then why should you care?
Personally I don't think your grandparents are LDS either from your writings.
Reading from something you posted two months ago.
How come Christians do not see the Jesus story as a myth?
and do others understand the pagan origins of the Christ Myth?
I don't think you are LDS or any of your family is LDS at all.
2007-12-14 16:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by Brother G 6 · 4⤊ 3⤋
When one portion of a family does research on their ancestors, they may not get information on every family member. I have submitted family names that connect to me. I left a grandparents second family alone because (1) I have incomplete information (2) I don't have agreement of that branch to perform temple work (3) My grandmother would never forgive me if I sealed her to her first husband.
2007-12-14 23:27:59 · answer #5 · answered by Isolde 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋