Is it wrong not to recognize family members who weren't very supportive?

Question

I am graduating tomorrow with 2 Bachelor's degrees. I am extremely excited, as I was a pregnant high school drop out, & now a mother of 5.

Of course, I had help, my husband, kids, & youngest sister were key supporters.

My oldest sister & brother wasn't very helpful. Both of my sister's share an apartment and are very close.

At the graduation party, I plan to recognize my husband, children, youngest sister, and parents (who were honestly mediocre in there support, but you know, I can't leave them out). My brother maybe, toward the end he was encouraging.

But my oldest sister, NO. She gave resentfully gave me a ride to school a couple of times, but after I kissed up to her first.
Never 1 encouraging word, although I always encourage her 2 go 2 school, which she finally did.
I don't want to leave her out, but I don't want to lie. She leaves the room during talks about my graduation. Just last nite, while planning the party, she says "all, all that aint necessary."

Answer 1

You should recognize everyone. Don't bring yourself to her level, because that would just add more resentment and she might hold it against you for ignoring her. You don't have to mention everyone by name. Just something like, without the help of my family I could not have accomplished my dreams. Thanks to all of you who supported me, my husband and children who gave up so much , and to the rest of you, thanks from the bottom of my heart.

Answer 2

No, I wouldn't recognize anyone who wasn't supportive because it cheapens the recognition of the people who really WERE supportive. You could even thank your huband, your youngest sister, and your kids without recognizing anyone else. It doesn't have to be a slight to anyone, it is just recognition to the ones who were really there and helped make it happen. If you thank everyone EXCEPT your sister it will seem very rude (although, who cares?). So just thank the ones who were strongly supportive of you. I would just thank my husband and one sister, if i were you. I don't think this is rude, because you haven't thanked every single other person in your family.

Answer 3

I think that not including your sister would be doing exactly the same thing to her that you feel she has done to you. I agree with the first answerer that the reason she may act like that is because she admires your accomplishments and feels insecure when she compares herself to you. I feel sorry for her.

In your graduation speech, you can simply make a statement about, "I'm grateful for all the help I received from my sisters."

Answer 4

guess it depends on whether or not you are a bigger person than she. It appears she is jealous and spiteful of your success, and that is her problem, not yours. I'd simply mention her and thank her and forget her. If and when she graduates, don't hold a party for her as obviously she thinks "all that aint necessary". But to snub her when you mention all those others in your family, is small hearted and you lower yourself to her level if you do so.

Answer 5

Just the fact that your sister said ain't makes me think she should pay a little more attention in school. Sound slike she is jealous. I think you should recognize everyone, but say something honest and positive. Like "Thanks to ain'ty for the rides to school."

Answer 6

nicely he can't help being like that, i think of those with melancholy tend to be somewhat extra irritable because of the fact they have plenty dealing with their minds good now. He possibly annoys you because of the fact he needs somebody to speak to and/or spend time with. you are able to desire to consistently ask why he retains on taunting you while all you're attempting to do is help him. additionally, if he retains on going lower back to his previous conduct and disobeying your moms and dads you will desire to tell them that so as that they are able to objective extra good to stay clear of him from getting worse. specific it is so plenty extra artwork to do yet in the top, he would desire to get extra powerful hence. What i could do is to basically save a distance from him yet whenever you spot him doing something that would desire to galvanize his alcoholism, it extremely is once you will desire to 'babysit' him. in case you spot he's in his depressing moods you are able to attempt to cheer him up, take him outdoors or stall him from being disillusioned. approximately his intense feedback, possibly you are able to talk to his buddies and notice why he's appearing rude and so diverse? they'd additionally help him out too, you will desire to no longer consistently placed up with the jokes. if your brother retains this up and finally you are able to no longer help him anymore, you are able to desire to would desire to take him to 3 counseling, yet it extremely is basically a threat if he maintains to refuse to enable you help him. desire I helped.

Answer 7

Yes you should include her. She may be jealous of your accomplishments which is why she seems so resentful. She'll eventually come around. Congratulations on your successes!!