but i was under the impression (because she told) she didn't want to go. so i replyed to the invatation that i would be alone. can i still bring her?
2007-12-14 07:50:46 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
the wedding is tomorrow
2007-12-14 11:49:16 · update #1
If you RSVPed for only one, it would be very rude of her to tag along since the people paying are not making arrangements for her (nor are they planning on it). She's SOL, buddy. Sorry.
Depending on your relationship with the bride/groom, you could call and ask if it would be alright with them. If they say yes, take her. If they say no, that's that.
2007-12-14 07:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 18⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT just show up with her unless you don't mind the wrath of Bridezilla coming at you. You will totally screw up seating arrangements, the caterers count etc. Back when a wedding was cake & punch it was no big deal. These days a brides food budget is usually half of the whole cost of the wedding {I've heard of $150.00 a person and up especially if there's an open bar.} If the wedding is far enough away that the bride can make adjustments, then give it a shot. Let her know that if it were the other way around SHE wouldn't want someone just dropping in on HER big day, so she needs to be prepared to sit at home alone that night.
EDIT: You just added in that the wedding is tomorrow. I have offically changed my answer to HELL NO SHE CAN'T GO!!! This selfish hefer must be worried your going to hook up with an ex or something and completely forgetting the pupose of the occasion. Give her your Blockbuster card and make sure you shut off your cell, because she's gonna lite up that sucker like a Christmas tree!
2007-12-14 08:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by On My Own 316 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your GF that she told you that she did not want to attend therefore you only said you would be coming to the wedding. This is very rude and well ignorant for her to do this. Tell her that since you have only scheduled yourself to go that she is not allowed to come with you. If she wanted to go then she should have said that to begin with. If you guys are in a serious relationship then maybe do not go yourself don't want to put your relationship in the crapper.
I do believe just tell her sorry your SOL I would love you to come but it would be rude and selfish for me to expect they could just add you to the guest list.
If your close to this friend call and ask them if they would mind her tagging along.
On a more personal note you should have just put her on the RSVP you know woman they can never make up there mind right away they here wedding, reception and all they think I have nothing to wear I can't go.
So if this happens again just add +1 to your invite then your out of this predicament.
God Bless and best of luck.
2007-12-15 05:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't the etiquette to do so, if it were a telephone rsvp it would be possible but since the person whose wedding it is needs to plan her reception you shouldn't impose an extra person on your friend. Receptions cost and every mouth that is catered for is catered for through your rsvps so I would tell your friend that you are so sorry that she should have spoken up earlier, but unless it is a telephone rsvp it is an imposition to the person's family to cater to an extra mouth. You could ask your friend if she could cut an extra piece of cake for her, that would be a nice gesture.
2007-12-14 08:38:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not unless you send a second response saying that you are bringing a guest! Receptions need a proper head count and too many extra guests can make a nightmare for the kitchen and seating arrangements. Even letting them know 24 hours ahead is okay and much better than just showing up with an extra person.They DID invite you plus a date so you aren't being rude, just courteous.
2007-12-14 08:04:26 · answer #5 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can't just assume that it would be alright to bring her, as all the meals, seating etc has already been worked out.
If you want to bring her, I would call your friend and see if it is alright - if they say no, then you'll have to break the news to your girlfriend.
She shouldn't get upset, considering the fact that she said that she wasn't going to go in the first place?!?
2007-12-14 20:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well just call them and ask if it's going to be a problem. Sometimes they need to know ahead of time exactly how many people will be there, like if they're having a catered dinner at the reception, but if it's a buffet one more person shouldn't matter.
2007-12-14 09:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the wedding is still a little ways away (at least 2 weeks) and you feel comfortable, then call you friend and explain the situation.
If this isnt the case then explain to your girlfriend it is too late.
2007-12-14 08:33:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. S 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You need to first call and ask the person who is doing the planing. Typically they don't have to turn in the final count to the reception hall until a week or so before the wedding.
2007-12-14 08:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh nice.
Its her fault, she waited until the day before the wedding to ask if she could come.
Tell her sorry, but its too late to have you come along.
If she said she couldn't go, and you handed in the RSVP for one, then she changed her mind at the last minute, too bad so sad.
2007-12-15 11:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your friend and ask if it's too late to change your RSVP, assuming that your gf was invited in the first place. It might not be too late. But if it is, and the couple has already given the final head count to the caterer, then you'll have to tell your gf that she can't go.
2007-12-14 08:04:35 · answer #11 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋