i want them there....
2007-12-14 07:42:49 · 21 answers · asked by angieleverett76 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Have you told them how important it is to you to have them there? Sit down and have a long talk. Hopefully, you can work out whatever issues are preventing them from coming.
2007-12-14 07:47:29 · answer #1 · answered by Ray 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask them why. February is a difficult time to travel if you live in a cold place, so if that's the reason maybe you can compromise and make it later in the Spring. If it's because they don't like the groom or they're emotionally distant, that's a much bigger problem. You could have a small wedding with your close friends and concentrate on starting a happy life together.
Edit: you didn't give any clues so I looked at your other questions. It sounds like maybe they're not comfortable with this because the whole thing is so rushed. A lot of people make the time between the engagment and the wedding a whole year. That way you're more sure of what your getting into and your family can be more sure too.
2007-12-14 17:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Families usually don't refuse to go to a wedding without a reason. Are you marrying out of your family's religion? Are you marrying someone with a criminal record? Are you marrying someone you've just met who has a bad track record? You want your family to attend so you obviously love them. What aren't you telling us? Is FEBRUARY a bad month financially for your family? Are they racist and are you marrying someone of a different complexion? So many reasons can be addressed by having good heart-to-heart conversations or by having a family minister or friend act as a go-between. **EDIT*** Just read your last 3 questions and, sorry to say, BUT it sounds like your family is trying to tell you to SLOW DOWN. you've only known the guy for a couple of months, you've had a history of being hard to live with, and it really sounds like your family RIGHTFULLY thinks you're not mature enough for a lifelong commitment. They nay be saying they're not going to attend just to make you think a bit more. Like - are you getting married just to get out of home? Sounds like you really need some family counselling or personal counselling for you.
2007-12-14 15:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What to do depends on why they're not coming. Is it finances? Consider to help pay for their trip, or get married closer to where they are. Are they upset with something? Try to talk it out; honesty and openness is the best policy - if it doesn't work out, at least you've tried. If you're uncomfortable talking face to face, try writing an e-mail.
2007-12-14 15:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why won't your family come? are you usually a closeknit group? is there some sort of financial difficulty? or serious health issues keeping them away? are you marrying a prison inmate or some sort of lunatic and they hope by staying away it will stop you from making a huge mistake?
we honestly can't offer advice without knowing a little more, but i will say that if you are absolutely sure and you know this is a good man who will never bring harm to you or yours, and you are mature enough to know what you are doing then do what you want.
i find it odd that your family won't come......can you tell us why?
2007-12-15 02:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same situation and I cry tears almost everyday. I experience true pain in my heart to know there is someone else who is experiencing the same thing. It puts a damper on things, but try to keep your chin up. What I have learned as my wedding day approaches, my friends are my family.
Did your family say why they can't be there?
2007-12-16 03:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by minno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, that is really sad. It sounds like they don't except you husband to be. There must be a reason.
My mother didn't go to my sister's last wedding and I knew why. He was abusive and controlling man and my mom had bad vibes. My sister took 15 years of abuse.
Talk to you parents and ask them why?
2007-12-14 15:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by conny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of getting better answers, could you please provide more information?
Why are your parents refusing to come?
How old are you?
Do they like your fiance'?
How long have you and your fiance' been dating?
Are there cultural differences involved?
There are a lot of factors involved. First, we need to know their motivation.
2007-12-14 15:52:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Find out why they won't come and post the details on here for us to give you better answers.
2007-12-14 19:19:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to them about it
make sure your fiance is there
and if they still choose not to come then send then an invite anyways mabe they'll come around
and if u truelly love your gf all that would matter to u is if shez there
2007-12-14 16:28:02 · answer #10 · answered by annachkahh 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋