I'm not the jealous type unless given a reason.First he had her as a my space friend and i got mad and told him to take her off,then i found out she called him and left him a voice mail saying"I called but you didn't answer",then I started getting suspicious I went through his deleted my space messages on Google desktop one said subject: My love - "I enjoy talking about the past, hope to see you soon babe" i got very suspicious hoping to not find anything I went through his phone bill he was calling her at least 3 times a week and calling her several times a day one call lasted 2 hours I asked him and he said that they were just friends and that he didn't have feelings for her that he loves me and thats the reason he is with me I told him friends don't send messages like the one she sent through my space he said she talks like that to everybody. This had been going on since before we were going out (we live together and have a baby now)it slow down after we moved in together. help
2007-12-14 07:34:19 · 32 answers · asked by anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It slowed down after you had the baby means your husband is at least trying to move on.
Support him and be with him as long as he does not cheat!
Do not fight with him rather talk him out of this quagmire! Remember, he left his ex for a reason and he is with you for a reason!
2007-12-14 07:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are his wife and whatever makes you uncomfortable or causes you to become suspicious should be reason enough for him to stop whatever it is he is doing that causes you to feel that way. If you don't agree with him being friends with an ex because you think its more than friendship, then he should tell the ex to bounce without any questions. You are going to spend the rest of your life with him and i'm pretty sure you don't want to spend the rest of your life with a man you constantly have to question and wonder about his faithfulness to you. You want to spend it happy so anything that causes you or him to feel unhappy or uncomfortable or suspicious should be eliminated or put on hold until you come to a mutual agreement of some sort.
2007-12-14 08:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by Whoimis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's still in love with him. thats what it sounds like to me. The fact that he didnt answer her call means that he probably doesnt feel like being bothered with her. He may feel some small sort of responsibility to keep the lines of communication open because they were in a relationship. Look to see how many of those calls were returned calls, you know, he was calling her back. You can find out by looking @ the pattern of incoming calls. Also ask him about the nature of their relationship...did he break it off or did she? why did they break up? and other details like that. if you still feel that there is something going on...then tell him that you dont trust him and ask him to refrain from speaking to her. then check his call records again. good luck :-)
2007-12-14 07:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by Nickie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the ex. Ask her if anything has been going on. A man is more likely to lie to his girl than a girl to her man. If she refuses to talk to you or tell you anything, then you should know something is definitely going on between the two. If that is so, then leave him. He only has two choices: 1) To go back to his ex and live with her, or, 2) He realizes that he is nothing without you and the baby and comes crawling back to you. It is up to you for the next part. I can't help you on that, sorry. Hope that everything works out OK and there is nothing going on between them and that you live a wonderful life:) !!
2007-12-14 07:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by Tina G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few things to always keep in mind when it comes to men
#1 They will always lie no matter how clear the truth is....
#2 If he is tottally in to you he would not feel the need to maintain a friendship with an ex
#3 Married men can't handle myspace-too may whore distractions....
My ex-fiance and I had this same problem-I feel that if there is reason and you obviously have reason to be concerned then you should not ignore that. Go with your intuition and ask him to halt all contact with her-wait awhile and if it continues you need to evaluate your (marriage) because he is clearly being disrespectful-and not honoring your position as his wife... as a wife he has chosen to forsaken all others and that includes little ex's of the past...he needs to let that go along with his myspace account-men don't need all that stuff!!!
2007-12-14 07:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
All these people say CHEATING but they have no proof YOU have no proof, Ever thought maybe they are just friends?
talk to him about it DONT acuse him of cheating,
you deffinitly need to go to marriage counsilling,
if it wass happening b4 you 2 met then why wouldnt he just be with her.
get some counciling. you have to go into a marriage with a "Divorce is not an option" attitude that way you can work through problems.
All that being said if you get some cold hard proof that he is cheating on you drop him.
2007-12-14 07:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in this too.he is not living with her but does talk to her on phone.ties are strong after relationships are ended or being ended.have faith hes really trying to be a freind.if you dont trust him,then ask if you can talk to her.ask what both motives are and why they talk.my boy friends is separated from wife,says he is in love with me and shows it.does yours,if so then have faith after asking what i suggested.my man is helping his soon to be ex get help 4 bi-polar n alcohol.he took her to doctor.today.now you need to ask his motives why he has to be her friend.does she need him,or can she find someone else to be her friend as he is.hope this made sense.love and patience you should show your man.give him lots of attention.
2007-12-14 08:05:17 · answer #7 · answered by amy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have issues. One maybe your insecurity is playing a large factor. Two, you obviously are a snooping girlfriend. Maybe you need to talk to him. Maybe he isn't over her. Lots of things. However, if what you say is the truth, you two need counseling and the "writing is on the wall". Did he cheat on her with you? If he did, he's probably cheating on you too. Sounds like he isn't very loyal or moralistic. I would file for sole custody right now, and be prepared to be out on the street after the holidays. Besides I wouldn't want a boy like this. I want a mature man who is honest and responsible, not an immature sneaky person.
2007-12-14 07:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by tone 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
OMG!! I would not be able to handle that! I would for sure keep tabs on that whole situation. If he starts acting funny towards you or being away from home more than usual I would have to think something was going on. If you get that feeling there more than likely is...I would catch him in action if possible! This is just too much info found for nothing to be going on!! What would they be talking for 2 hours for?? Girl, I would keep a close eye on him...and if you have to, check her!!
2007-12-14 07:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by ♥L@dee Bee♥ 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Do they have children together? If not then there really isn't a reason why they should be talking so much. But maybe they really are just friends and like talking about the past. But I understand how you feel...I would be upset too.
2007-12-14 07:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋