My gf and i have been living togeather for 8 yrs and she has never realy showed me the afection i would like her to its like im living with a roommate only (other than im paying for everything )and I have tried to talk to her about this and she dosent wana hear about it.when i try to b romantic and carress her when i touch her she pulls away like im contagious or something she never trys to b romantic to me i always have to start when anything romantic is to b.then she complains of being lonley.I bought her sexy laungaree and it took a yr and me complaining for her to weare it for me 1 time im always thinking of her when I go to the store by getting her something like a rose now im 40yrs and this isnt my 1st relationship somethings going on here shes never nice or smiles now im not trying to make it sound like im perfect cause im not i have my faults.Ive talked to her about this and tryed to just wait it out but now im getting lonley and i would like to have someone show me some lovein
2007-12-14 07:29:47 · 37 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are too good for her!! You deserve someone that will give you the same affection back...you are 40, how long do you want to wait for her to come around! You can do better, trust! But don't cheat, if you want to be with someone else, make sure you are single first. Good luck!
2007-12-14 07:33:00 · answer #1 · answered by Morgan J 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This may sound harsh, but you chose this person. You have been dealing with this for eight years, and finally you are tired of it. Instead of just looking at other women, it's time for you to move on from this relationship, and start dating nice girls. Apparently you decided to be the care taker, otherwise she would have been splitting the bills from the beginning. Really I think you two need to be apart for a while. Move apart, if she cries that she will be lonely, she will be okay. The next person you get into a relationship with, make sure she is self sufficient, live on their own and last but not least want to be in a relationship with a NICE guy.
2007-12-14 07:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do that while still in the relationship b/c some hateful women like to spread rumors and embarrass men if they think they are cheating. If you do look actually look dont STARE
On the other hand why stay in a bad relationship do what makes you happy get out of the relationship if needed but try to work things out by all means and in any way............try the putting yourself in the other persons shoes trick
2007-12-14 07:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hate to put it this way, but it sounds like she's repulsed by you. Why is that? Does she spend time with you at all? Cause if not, she could be cheating.
It's never okay to "look at other women" while you're in a relationship. You're looking at them because you want them, and if they want you back, you'll end up cheating. That's not a reflection of her, it's a reflection of you. But if SHE's cheating, or refuses to get relationship help and has basically rejected you, end the relationship and start fresh. Then you can look at all the women you want.
But DON'T get in the habit of looking when you're tied down!
2007-12-14 07:36:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not okay to look at another woman. As far as your overall situation you really need to make a tough decision. It sounds like their is no romance or passion in your relationship. I don't know if you all have outgrown each other or if your girlfriends is just not the touchy feely type. It may be time for you to move on all together. If your not happy and it's no sense in you beening in it. Try talking to her again to see if she will hear ya out.
2007-12-14 07:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sexysass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's okay to leave a bad relationship. It doesn't seem like this woman is giving you anything you need, if anything she's being a drain on you emotionally and financially. Dump her, then you can look at who ever you want, and find someone to give you some lovein without having to worry about it.
2007-12-14 07:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by Rhuby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This woman is not a partner she is a self centered parasite. Go immediately to the nearest door and leave. Do not waste time and do not feel sorry or sympathetic- just go. Been there done that - you will never satisfy her.
Don't feel guilty about looking, but beware that anything that you do will be used against you when it comes to dividing the communal properties. Move fast but be careful.
2007-12-14 08:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T cheat!! That's dumb! Either tell your GF that you're through, or just deal with it. It's that simple. Checking out some other chick isn't going to help your situation... it'll only make it worse.
A little advise... The only time I pull away from my hubby is if
1. he's recently offended me
2. he has bad breath
3. for some reason he thinks it's sexy to have as much spit exchage as possible (gross!)
4. I'm simply depressed
GOOD LUCK!
2007-12-14 07:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by JO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if she's not interested in you.... ya'll been together long enough not to be still acting like you'll are in high school. If sh ecan't get it together then you need to leave her alone. They always say you never miss your water til your well is dry so maybe you need to let her be. I'm pretty sure there's somebody out there who would love to be with you pamper and appreciate you.
2007-12-14 07:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by Toogood 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what are you guys doing together? Sounds like she doesn't even like you. You need to get out of that if she's making you so miserable. There's plenty of women out here that would appreciate you and love all that affection. real love is a wonderful thing man. You better leave that woman alone and go and get you some.......love that is.
good luck.
2007-12-14 07:36:46 · answer #10 · answered by kharilli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋