my best friend hooked me up with her cousin and its been about 3 weeks now. we spent the weekend togther a week ago today. we dont go to the same school and i do stuff for him like lieing etc. anyway he says he loves me and i feel the same way to but what am i suppose to do about this? i mean its another guy who reallllly says he likes me and he goes to my school but he is older then me and im only half interested and i dont want to cheat on my boyfriend because i really think i love him. i need help to try to explain these emotions to myself??
2007-12-14 07:18:45 · 35 answers · asked by mookie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This doesn't seem that hard. If you like the cousin of your best friend more, then you tell the guy at school that you want to break up. If you like the guy at school more, than you break things off with your friend's cousin.
If neither relationship is too serious, you can sleep with both of them.
2007-12-14 07:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is always a possibility the a person can get attracted to another. It is human nature. It is not wrong. But the reason why you are in a commitment is for you to discipline yourself. One may get attracted to numerous prospects and it is okay as long as you do not nurse the feeling and won't do something about it. The borderline between cheating and faithfulness is to recognize the reality that you already have the person that can give you more than what you can get from cheap thrills of attraction.
2007-12-14 07:26:31 · answer #2 · answered by blaze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree with the first responder...its not love yet. Real love takes a long time to build, and even if you've really, really liked someone for a long time, there's still so much more to learn about them as you grow together. That's where the love will come from. Get to know each other more (and by all means, explore the lust together, safely) and maybe love will grow. Too many guys say they "love" women and don't mean it.
2007-12-14 07:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by sbzcvso1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey no man is worth your morals and self esteem. altho it seems that you arent jeprodizing these by lying for him, you are. I know its cause you would do anything for him, seeing as you think you love him. But did you ever think maybe he is telling you he loves you to get you to lie for him. But truth is if he really loved you he wouldnt ask you to lie for him. he wouldnt want you jeprodizing yourself for him.
Really its only been 3 weeks, it really is just lust. Love is so much more sublte. Lust is explosions and a rush of feelings you cant control. Love is like an orgasm you wont know you have it until you finally do. If you arent sure you are in love then you arent, because when you finally get the joy of that feeling it wont be a question.
Find someone who respects you and your boundaries,( you need to set some for yourself). Tell yourself that no matter what, no man will ever get me to do ______, (anything that goes against your morals as a good human being). The man you do fall in love with wont ever put in the position to question those morals either.
2007-12-14 07:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by crystal t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be in love. I'm not sure how old you are, but focus on making and keeping friends. Do stuff with a bunch of friends instead of with just one guy. The more time that you are alone with him, the higher the chance that you will want to start being physical with him. You sound too young to be having sex or being involved with only one guy. Play the field a little bit, date different guys to see what you like and what you want in a guy. Seeing just one person is not going to help you do that.
2007-12-14 07:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear,
You lust him....and it's obvious. As for the other bloke as you said you are already involved. Do yourself a favor and spend some alone time evaluating yourself, what you want, where you want to go and how you want to get there. Remember this is your life you are talking about.
Don't become a playground.
I'm no prude, but meeting a guy and spending a weekend with him two weeks later, lying for him and whatever else. Doesn't look like he cares about YOU to me. More like he's taking it where he can get it and his cousin helps him out with her friends...And if he's as young as you sound, his lust is his love.
Just my opinion, don't shoot the messenger, it won't change the message....
2007-12-14 07:29:24 · answer #6 · answered by MercurialMe :-) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't love him and if he makes you lie for him I doubt he loves you either. It seems more like lust and both guy's probably just want to get you out of your pants because (some) men are disgusting and think about nothing but sex.
I'd dump them both and look for someone who is really going to appreciate you. For future reference, it takes way more than three weeks to tell if you're REALLY in love with someone.
Real love lasts a lifetime, therefore it may take you half that long to find.
2007-12-14 07:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what Im picking up. you have a boyfried who loves you and you might love him. Your best griend hooked you up with your cousin, and you like , but he goes to another school, and there is an older guy at school who likes you. Well what I see, if you can't decide because your young. go with your feeling. just date don't go steady. When that right person comes along you will know
2007-12-14 07:25:56 · answer #8 · answered by napolee_nj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well #1 if you always follow your emotions you will get in Big trouble , because following them don't mean there right
#2 wait it is Way to early to say you love them
thatt is the newness of the relationship talking
#3 pray about it God has all tha answers for you and your life
Jeremiah 29
11 For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. 14 I will be found by you," declares the LORD
2007-12-14 07:26:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see....high school...cute girl...give you some sexual favors...of course the guy is going to "love" you.
He hasn't know you long enough to "love" you.
If you want to know if a guy loves you, keeps your hands (mouth, etc) to yourself. Build a friendship first. That, not sex, is the basis of love. but introducing the physical this early you have killed a change of real "love".
Forget the guy, and concentrate on building a trusting "friend" relationship with your current boyfriend instead.
2007-12-14 07:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋