Hi i am 19 yrs old going to be 20 yrs old in march and a college student as a commuter.I am a extremley shy, low key person, who prefers to mind her own business,i always try to see the best in people,and i do not like trouble.In (catholic)high school i was an average to good student so about a B-student who only socialized while in school . I did little to no socializing after school with the exception of realatives(cousins my age)and with the cross country team because i was a member at the time for 2 yrs.I was made fun of constantly in HS for being too thin, pretty much flat chested,wearing glasses,any my hair as curly so it would frizz sometimes,and anything else possible.My first bf at 17 was total disaster i got labled a whore because he told a friend after i lost my viginity to him.My issues are now that i have no real friends,have trust issues and feel i cant relate to people?I have never had a real job except for my moms small business because of this.How do i fix this?
2007-12-14 07:18:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am so unhappy even though i have started maintaining myself and have been approached by guys who think i am cute,pretty or kinda hot i still feel insecure.The few guys i have gone out with turned out to be jerks or bad boys.My parents are of no help because they are so brutally critical of everything i do!
2007-12-14 07:22:58 · update #1
ok you have to step out of your comfort zone. do some extra curricular activitys or join a gym or a club. and get out a meet people. you will find most people are really nice and easy to get along with
2007-12-14 08:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, since you will be commuting, you will not be getting the same experience as most college freshmen. Dorm life is a great way to meet new people and step outside your normal self. Consider getting involved in clubs or sports available at your campus. Spend more time at campus then at home. You will meet more people that way and learn more about yourself. College is a great way to discover yourself.
Look for an internship too, for the summer after your first year. That will be more work experience, something for your resume, and a way to meet people.
From my experience, colleges are pretty diverse (of course, that depends on where you go). No one cares what you were like in high school. You will find people similar to you & probably having similar experience in high school.
My last advice to you would be to talk to counselors at the school and take advantage of it. If you have trust issues now, I feel that they are only going to deepen unless you get help. I think you would strongly benefit from counseling.
Good luck.
2007-12-14 07:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess i'm the only one who is alittle confused by you. I guess i don't get your question but from reading your other post my guess is your really just looking for a nice guy. Someone who can help you slowly adjust to the new world your now a member of. the thing you have to realize, which is what everyone else is trying to tell you, is you can't rush into it. Alot of people are soo scared of being alone. They rush into a relationship. You should just ignore every guy who approaches you. They have an aggressive personality and that is not what you need. Get an email Pen-pal who is going through the same thing or cares. Make sure its just email tho.
2007-12-14 18:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by Street 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First embrace God as your best friend and He will show you the answers to all your concerns in the bible. Find someone who can teach you how you are a woman of worth in His eyes. Seriously after you realize how important you are to Him the rest will fall into place. You do have to force yourself to rectify a situation as well. Go to a place that is full of strangers so that if everyone ignores you at least they don't know who you are. Force yourself to converse with someone. After you do this a couple of times it will become easier. I know guys who would rather be with someone like you because you aren't teasing them or acting like a stupid little school girl. Have faith-they are out there. Don't change to become someone you think would make you popular.
2007-12-14 07:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by bfldmom3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in a college scene it won't be that hard. Fix yourself up, make up, dress nice, maybe straihten your hair or something. Go to a party and introduce yourself. Be the first to talk to someone, don't wait for them to talk to you, because believe it or not they are probably just as nervous. Let everything that happened in high school go. Don't think on it. It is of the past.
2007-12-14 07:23:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it sort of feels just like the folks you recognize are being rather imply to you, so that you have to give up paying attention to them (the only that's meant to be your pal and advised you she needs you had been useless: that is no longer a pal! eliminate her ASAP!!! give up speaking to her all in combination). The you MUST search authentic support ASAP; I cannot even pressure this ample as I must, DON'T wait round, get a psychologist RIGHT NOW, they're the one ones who can support you determine why you believe like this and tips on how to give up feeling so. I recognize what I'm telling you on account that I used to be additionally rather a depressed youngster (handiest I under no circumstances bought to the factor of taking truly motion on it given I'm an excessive amount of of a coward, however it confirmed in different approaches, equivalent to snoozing round and not using a safeguard and stuff like that), I can handiest desire you comply with my recommendation and recover from this. Right now the final factor you have to do is fear approximately institution and that kind of factor, the primary factor this is you well being (each intellectual and bodily, on account that they have an impact on eachother). I desire you quickly will discover the authentic steerage you want and get bigger as soon as and for all.
2016-09-05 16:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by siegers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not an easy task, and just know we are all laden with insecurities...everyone tells me I'm pretty, some even say beautiful this isn't from just the guys trying to get into my pants or my family and friends. But I don't see it, I see all my flaws. Its because I have low self esteem. I too went through the gawky stage and was teased. A therapist could help. You need to learn that you are beautiful. You need to rebuild your self esteem.
2007-12-14 07:34:43 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be who you are. You sound like a very interesting person. You'll fine a guy someday that really appreciates who you are and will be willing to do anything for you. Just don't try to make it happen. Things like that have to happen on their own. Keep your head up and don't let the jerks of the world get you down.
-Peace
2007-12-14 07:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by Why Do I Have To Wear Clothes... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have find out who u are first, befor u can start to date. Ask yourself, what do u really want out of life, because its more to it . U have to become a strong woman to demand want u want and not to settle for less in a man or from anybody . Figure out who u are first. Dating is not that important, alot of people just get lonely, but you must know what u do and do not want in life.
2007-12-14 09:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by lee lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get a job at the mall. This will force you to talk to people and then you may make friends. Give people your discount if they agree to be your friend.
Do you have a hobby? You need to find something you like doing and something you are good at. This will promote your confidence in yourself.
2007-12-14 07:23:05 · answer #10 · answered by SimplyMe 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋