dedicate also wanna to adopt some other different countries kids also too. because i always wanna to do that after i get married . but my sister and family think iam crazy to do that kind thing to have other race child that isnt my real blood .iam not a little child i am adult so its alright to have a child that isnt youre blood and but raise her or him that needed have a family also to be love too thats from other country.cuz i want to adaopt two or three children from other countries after i have mind own .
2007-12-14 06:28:49 · 17 answers · asked by statecalifornia2009 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
Nothing wrong with thinking maybe you want to do that.
But get married and have a couple kids of your own first, see how it goes. International adoption takes a tremendous commitment, well beyond that of natural parenting. It also takes a lot of time, and most of the time a lot of money. It's going to take a serious commitment by both you and your future husband to get to the place where this is something you can do. You'll have to do some planning ahead.
2007-12-14 07:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by Addie 2 · 6⤊ 3⤋
I wouldn't do it. There is nothing better than knowing your husband wants another child as much as you do. Not to mention the kind of guilt you would likely feel. And that's a level of trust you'd be breaking that you just don't want to step over. My suggestion might be to ask him if he think he'd want to try in 6 months....knowing that sometimes it takes many, many months to get pregnant, and let him know you'd like to go off the pill to 'clean your body out'. It's a good idea anyway. So then the birth control can be dumped at any moment and he knows you're not on the pill, he's responsible too if you guys 'forget' to use a condom one time.
2016-04-09 03:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by Beverly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with having biological and adopted children. You’re not crazy for wanting it. If more people had this mind frame then maybe we could get more of the children that are in foster care/ Orphanages into forever homes. Not to mention cut down on overpopulation. There is also nothing wrong with Transraical adoption though you should prepare yourself for certain things.
2007-12-15 01:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not wrong at all! my husband and i have a beautiful baby girl and we want more children. we want to adopt our other children because we feel love has no boundries. we can provide a loving and stable environment for children whose biological parents could not, yes we could have more kids together but the joy from adoption is just the same! good luck!
2007-12-14 06:46:11 · answer #4 · answered by C S 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I have 2 biological chidlren and 3 we adopted. It is silly to think there is anything wrong with that.
We love them all equally.
I agree with previous poster...there is absolutely no reason to go outside our country. My three kids who were adopted are all from our same city! We adopted 2 month old babies within 2 years of applying.
2007-12-14 08:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by Joe R 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Just because it seems cool, does not mean it is cool. Just because "all the stars" (not your words) are doing it...is NOT NOT NOT a reason to adopt. Your heart may be in the right place, but it doesn't seem like it to me. Instead of trying to collect children from "some other different countries" why don't you consider fostering children here? I am NOT saying not to adopt internationally, but maybe really look into your motives for adoption. There are many children here who need homes and they won't be of "youre blood" . There are many children in the world who need homes, I am not saying there isn't...but your motives for adopting are probably not in the right place.
2007-12-14 06:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by Morgaine 4 · 11⤊ 3⤋
you should be able to do what you want adopting is great it also helps kids that will other wise spend there whole life in a adoptoin place
2007-12-15 08:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by Glamorous S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't get the point of adopting children from other countries when there are so many children in foster care who need homes and parents to love them.
Think of that.
2007-12-14 13:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 3⤋
NO it is not wrong. I think it's great. All children deserve to be loved. I'm sure your children will have your big heart and would greet them with great warmth. I think that family is the bond that you have, not necessarily blood. I have a step father who has treated me better than my own father. Go for it and don't worry about what others say. Your family will probably fall in love with them too once they get around them.
2007-12-14 06:40:56 · answer #9 · answered by Christine M 4 · 6⤊ 5⤋
I think this is a great idea. It's not crazy or even that uncommon. I actually had a Child Psychology teacher in high school who had one biological (caucasian) daughter, one from Japan, and a son from Kenya. I think it teaches children to value racial diversity and helps redefine how people think of the "average family". Go for it.
2007-12-14 06:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by M. 2 · 6⤊ 5⤋