I met a great girl in October 2004. She was my first serious relationship, and I had just turned 27 when I met her. We both hit it off well and got engaged in March 2005. Over the next few months our relationship went south and she broke up with me in October 2005. I loved her deeply, but I don't think she felt near as strong. She never seemed to give as much as I did (she was only 21, I was 27). I have tried repeatedly to move past her, even telling her it's best if we not talk. Six months ago, she moved to a different state. Still, I think of her everyday and still want her sometimes. Most of the time I wish I could just forget about her completely. How can I be sure I am truly over her? How can I know if I'm ready to get serious again?
2007-12-14 06:25:27 · 12 answers · asked by G$ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the reason you still pine for her is because you haven't met anyone else yet. The best thing you can do is get back into the dating scene and try to meet a variety of women. Once you fall in love again, it will be easier to deal with your memories of your ex. I promise.
2007-12-14 06:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by Not so looney afterall 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to realize that you don't need to 'Get over her' you may want to feel like you did before you met, but that's impossible. Realize that you can find someone else who actually loves you back even if you still love her. also separate the things that don't make her different. IE.. don't think you love her because she's a girl other girls do exist. I guarantee that other girls will have some of her qualities, these things may remind you of her, realize the good - someone else can be this way. Not oh no I'm thinking of her again. If you wait for youself to be ready to be serious again, you'll never be. The best thing you could probably do is enjoy your good memories, learn from your mistakes and go out and have a good time, don't worry about getting her out of your head, and you'll soon realize your eyes are on another beauty you don't know how you ever lived without.
2007-12-14 06:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by tanis_0069 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is said that it takes half the time you went out with a person to get over them, so that's quite a long time, plus since you were engadged hoping to spend the rest of your life with her, it can be heartbreaking, I mean you think your going to be forever with and then DUMP but guess what, it is not the end f the world, I know, I know it feels like it, but your a strong guy, becasue you've made it this far, keep going, after all it could've been worse, she migh not've realized this until after the wedding and then it would've been a short marriage when she did realize, so that is a good thing, probably the only good thin you can see right now, but it'll get better just wait
ps since she was only 21 I can understand her not wanting to get married yer, I'm not saying that she should have done what she did the way she did it...
also you will know when you are ready again, it'll probably be quite some time, at least a few more monthes, maybe not, but you'll get there just hang on
2007-12-14 06:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, I'm sorry. I know people tell you in time you'll forget, but sometimes father time just takes his sweet *** time in helping you recover! all i can suggest is when you feel like cryng take a shower or bath and just let it out, sweety, don't know why but crying and talking things over with yourself in the shower really helps and lets you get it all out! When you feel like having a good time, don't let anything get in your way of making it the best time like going to a club or blarring the music as loud as you can and dance around your house naked and free! you may look weird to others but it's all about how you feel and expressing it to the fullest! Time will fly when your having fun and soon you won't hurt anymore and move on and hopefully still life like you feel to the fullest!
2007-12-14 06:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by Lia Marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you won't get over her until you move on and try talking to other people. Once you hit it off well with someone new is when you'll get that sense of feeling where you kinda think to yourself and say, "hey, i think i'm over her now."
It takes time man. Don't rush it, but just don't deprive yourself either.
2007-12-14 06:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by shaRT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first love is always the hardest to get over. i cant tell you when you will be over her, only you know that answer. But you need to mingle with others so you can try to open your heart for someone else, you wont open your heart until your ready because your heart wont allow you to love anyone else until you have a free one..Good Luck/
2007-12-14 06:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried dating anyone new? You don't have to find the next love of your life right away, just put yourself out there and try to have fun without thinking too much.
2007-12-14 06:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by calgarygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably it's because you still have strong feelings for her. i mean you guys got engaged and all. or its the fact that you haven't met another person who shares the same qualities like you do to replace her
2007-12-14 06:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by tai mai shu ^_^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well something like this happen to me i was 17 she 15 she luv but not as much now im 18 n she is 16 she is moving bac n she luvs as much as i luv her
2007-12-14 06:31:07 · answer #9 · answered by Puertorican 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't met anyone to replace her yet.
2007-12-14 06:28:04 · answer #10 · answered by Fufu Head 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋