Does spanking a child teach them violence?

Answer 1

if you do it correctly no.
My children have never been violent (hitting or anything) and they get spankings when they are punished for certain things.

(gee i see thumbs downs coming!)

Answer 2

Spanking has been done for generations and using this as an excuse for violent kids is nuts. My friend has a kid who they never spank, and he's constantly getting in trouble for hitting other kids. Spanking is a good form of discipline when used correctly. I think too many people get worked up when they find out people hit their kids. I was never hit as a child, but my brothers and sisters were but none of us were more violent than the others.

Answer 3

In my opinion, I believe it does. I feel that by spanking my child, I would be teaching her that if someone does something that you don't like, you hit them. That's me though. Time outs and taking away priviledges have been very successful im my house, so I've never had to spank. Some children may not respond to my form of discipline though.

Answer 4

For discipline? No way! All kids respond to certain things-- some can get by with just talking, others need priviledges taken away, and others DO NEED A GOOD SPANKING! My son, ONLY responds with computer removal. My daughter, responds with the threat of a spanking.

I think that if you take the time to explain WHY they are getting punished, there are no adverse effects of discipline. Just don't spank out of anger.

Answer 5

Not necessarily. Spanking a child (within reason, of course) teaching them about consequence, and introduces them to one of the harsher but common modes of discipline. Moreover, when used as along with an explanation (which children need in order to understand on a civil NON-VIOLENT level) AND as a last resort in the disciplining process, children understand that whatever acting deemed this spanking, is totally unacceptable and on the "non-negotiables" list.

Answer 6

I find it ironic that people are saying "I was spanked and I'm not violent.", but then they follow up by saying that they spank their children in order to teach & control them.

It could be argued that choosing to use physical force against someone when it is not necessary for your own protection *is* violent. So, being spanked did teach you that violence was OK in life, at least that it was OK when you were trying to teach and control children, anyway.

Answer 7

I was spanked as a child, and I am a pacifist. I do not regret any of my upbringing, rules, and responsibilities that were taught to me. Etc. I think children today are out of control and need a good spanking.

Answer 8

No -- I came from a very strict upbringing, as did both of my brothers. We are all non-violent pacifists. There is a difference between being disciplined and being beaten, though. If the spanking crosses the line into abuse, this behavior CAN be transmitted down to the children, who will often then be abusive to their mates and their own children.

Answer 9

I think so. I think it teaches children that if they are upset or don't get their way then they can hit, slap, or punch someone or something.

I usually use time outs. They seem to be effective. When one spanks it is giving attention to the child. Children look at any attention (negative and positive) as good attention. When you place a child in time out they are not getting attention. However, the spankings give the child attention.

Answer 10

my mom spanked me ,she didn't abuse me .though i do not believe that spanking taught me the proper ways to handle my own anger. in high school i got in many fights and was suspended often. when i was 13 i was sick & tired of getting spanked. i physicaly stopped my mother and if she hit me, well i hit her. I dont think spanking fosters a respectfull relationship. i think that if my mother had respected me as an inividual not seen me as her pet, she would not have depended on violence to disipline me.

Answer 11

If nothing else, when they are parents it will teach them to hit their kids rather than reason with them. If you want to start and/or perpetuate a cycle of abuse, go ahead.