Is suicide ever understandable?

Question

It's a permanent solution to a tempary problem, if someone did it that was that unhappy, could you ever understand it? Would you think it was selfish?

Answer 1

It's always understandable, as it comes from enormous pain.

I understand that people are hurt when their loved ones are gone, but I feel that anyone who calls it 'selfish' has never been in that kind of pain. You don't have the mental ability to distinguish something as selfish or not when you are going through that.

Answer 2

If I'm honest there are times when I think it's selfish but really I know it isn't. There is always a reason why someone would kill themselves and whether its a reason we'd agree with or not, I think most of the time it's possible to understand it. You're right, it is a permanent solution but I think it can be naive to consider the problem temporary without knowing all of the facts of each situation. For instance, if someone wants to kill themselves because they've suffered with severe, treatment resistant depression for over 20 years then that's hardly temporary. Likewise if someone has been diagnosed with a fatal illness, its hardly a temporary problem. I believe that in most situations there are other, better solutions but even when that is true it often doesn't feel that way to the person who is contemplating suicide. Like I said I sometimes think it is selfish but then I think again. I have been there and tried to do it, at the time I not only saw it as the only solution but I also honestly believed that my family etc would be better off without me. I don't think I was behaving selfishly, honestly I thought my death would have been in everyone's best interests. Also, most people thinking about suicide are not going to be in the best frame of mind, if is hard to think about other people when you aren't thinking straight.

As well as attempting it myself when I was younger I have also lost three friends this way. Never once have I blamed them or thought them selfish. I miss them, I hate that they felt this was the only way for them but mainly I hope they have finally found the peace they couldn't find in life.

Answer 3

Definitely not. And yes I think that it is selfish. And yes, few of my loved ones (including my father) have passed away and I still think suicide is selfish. It is selfish, cowardly, and irresponsible. You've been given a gift of life and by committing suicide you're pretty much wasting it all. And no matter what the reason is, suicide is never understandable. No matter what pain you are in, you can live through it. Killing yourself is like giving up, which is a big sin. Three of my friends have committed suicide and I never understood them. One of them killed himself because he lost all of his money in a casino and still owed a LOT. The way I look at it is he gave up. He didn't want to face consequences so he just ran away from the problem. People can look at it differently and even say that I'm an idiot for saying that. But the way I see it is that he didn't want to live through being homeless and work really hard for very little. No one does. But giving up is even worse. But forget that. God gave you a life. You only get one life. The least you can do is live it well (by live it well I mean try to be a good person). Killing yourself is disrespect to God. It is a sin just like murder. If you're thinking of suicide because you did something unforgivable, stop it. No matter what, your sin is always forgivable by God. One thing that probably will not be forgiven is committing suicide for obvious reasons. Also, some people have this idea that no one loves them. Not true at all. Every person has a meaning and a purpose in this life. And even if PEOPLE don't love you, God always loves you. It's the sins that he doesn't love. I'm sorry for such a long response, I've just had quite a few personal experiences on this subject and I want to get my through with my point: DO NOT THROW AWAY YOUR LIFE. It is too short anyway, so live it well. If you have a terminal illness (like cancer) don't give up. There is still chance, and if not, you're going to die anyway, so make the most out of the time you have left. Even a minute of your existence can make a word (I have another story about how one "hi" made a person change his mind about suicide, but that's a really long story).

Answer 4

In the case of assisted suicide, which I believe to be a legitimate option, it can be a permanent solution to a permanent problem. As far as I know, it is mentioned once or twicein the old testament about a warrior who was defeated. Suicide was stigmatized by humans, not by God. I still recommend exhausting every other avenue before taking this approach to what could be solvable. Stick around!See what's next!

Answer 5

I consider it the least interesting solution possible. If your life is unbearable, find a way to change it. Even running off to be a hermit in the forest is more interesting than just dying.

That said, if I had agonizing bone cancer or something fatal, I'd chuck it in in a heart beat.

But people who choose to die rather than change their job, or deal with their family, or didn't get enough love as a child... those are things that can be fixed, or dealt with, and you can go on to live an amazing, fulfilling life. Dying for those reasons is a sad waste.

Answer 6

It someone had cancer or something yes. If someone had no money and was without any recoarse. You are going to die anyway. It is not about making anyone angry it is about ending pain.

This is an answer I got 3 months ago:
Life for most is difficult and unfair from the start. But our life is our own and it's your choice. Everybody's going to die anyway. Why wait until your are old, in extreme pain, or you become physically unable to do it!

Somebody will miss you, but they will get over it with time. In fact, you are doing the world good by depopulating the planet and you will no longer be needing our precious resourses! And you might be able to checkout before global warming or a nuclear war destroys the planet anyway.

If you are determined, make sure to make the most of it beforehand with good planning. Party, travel, smoke, and have fun! But don't be too hasty and get arrested as that might wrech your plans and give you too much free time in which to to think and possibly change your mind

Answer 7

the only time i understand suicide is when you have a chronice, painful illness that is going to make you suffer. i don't understand anyone that takes the 'easy way out". i believe that people who commit suicide because they "just can't take it anymore" are cowards. the only way life gets better is if you take control of your life and make it better. don't depend on other people to make you happy. i get so sick of listenint to people whine about what's happened in the past and using it as an excuse for how they act now. Grow up and be a responsible for your own acts. and yes, i would think it's incredibly selfish--it means you have no regard for the pain you are going to cause others.

Answer 8

I've attempted it myself, and I know why I did it, but when my best friend did it, I couldn't understand it, and I still don't know why he did it. Although it is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, it isn't quite fully understood by the populous. It's still a taboo, and quite often people who attempt or commit suicide are labeled as "crazy".

Answer 9

yes, it is the most selfish act you can ever do!!!when you do commit suicide, you are thinking of only yourself and no one else. you are not thinking of what you will be putting your family and friends through. i am speaking from exp. your family and friends suffer and grieve over such a senseless and stupid act. if you are that unhappy, you should search within yourself and find the cause, and make corrections. you are the sole creator of your own unhappiness and self pity. i will pray that you find peace and happiness within your heart.

Answer 10

I think in the case of unbearable pain, such as that which comes from cancer, from which there is no relief, I would totally understand it. There are some things that one cannot just "change".