heconstantly says that im just going to leave him when i finish school, accuses me of looking at other men when were in public, he also constantly critisize's me tells me how i should do EVERYTHING, we both have a son from a previous relationships, hes great with my son and his son. he isnt at all physical with me. i wish he could stop. and when i start to cry about what he does to me he just acts like what he is doing is normal and that im weird for crying! why is he like this he wasnt like this the first yr
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hes very passive aggressive, he'll accuse me of things im not doing until i blow up screaming then he acts like im the crazy one, i know hor sure he wont hit me , hes extremely relaxed he does this all while calm cool and collected, the weird thing is he always tells me im beautiful why would i choose him. that im going to leave him that if im going to leave to tell him now, im going to leave not because im to pretty but because i cant take it being accused of crap im not doing
2007-12-14 05:26:58 · 14 answers · asked by Marie S 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Unless he gets some professional help, get rid of him or be prepared to live the rest of your life that way. No one deserves that kind of treatment! Making you feel like the problem is all yours is HIGHLY abusive, but characteristic.
2007-12-14 05:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by HelpIzOnTWay 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
This type of behavior something that is commonly seen in abusive relationships. The problem is abusive relationships often end in tragedy.
Abusive people need to feel like they are in control. If you finish school he will feel that he has lost control. He probably does not let you go out with your friends as well and does not leave you alone in a crowd.
Often times abusers behavior escelates over time. He may not be hitting you now but he will if given time. After he does he will be very repentant and you will forgive him and this whole cycle WILL happen again and again until it ends in serious injury or death or you get out of this (I won't even call it a relationship it's a dysfunction).
This will be the hardest thing you can do but think about the welfare of your child.
Seek help and support from your local woman's shelter they are experts in this area and can provide you and your child a place to go to be out of danger.
2007-12-14 05:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by Joe B 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This guy is insecure. in case you like to stay with this guy, you will continually be below his administration. in case you do no longer desire him to regulate you, then get out of this dating, because of the fact in case you do no longer supply up him telling you what you could and would't do, he will purely discover further and extra issues to make you do. the fact that he thinks this is ordinary habit is a super clue to GET OUT NOW, while you nonetheless have some independence and till now he crushes your spirit thoroughly. needless to say he's "good" with the youngsters, they at the instant are not sufficiently previous to be controlled yet. He would not would desire to be actual with you, emotional abuse is purely as undesirable. Been there, achieved that, too many circumstances. unload him and run away as rapid as you could, costly!
2016-11-03 06:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marie,
This is not healthy. Whether he uses words or actions, he is a bully. He does not seem to grasp simple concepts such as respect, compromise, and understanding which are central to a healthy relationship.
By continuing with your present situation, in his mind, you are giving this bully tacit approval to carry on as usual. As you put it, he has no reason to believe what he is doing is wrong. He has no incentive to change. I doubt that he can.
Please listen to all the female posters who have preceded me. They know, they have friends and family members who have gone through it and they have seen the aftermath.
Please take care of yourself. Only you can be your own best advocate.
Sincerely,
Alan K.
2007-12-14 05:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by Alan K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's only going to get worse. Just because someone is a good father doesn't mean they can be a good bf or husband. My dad was a great father, but he treated my mother like crap for 20 years. Get out! Emotional abuse often leads to physical abuse. You local women's center can help you with support if you need it (which most women do!)
Good luck to you!
2007-12-14 05:33:25 · answer #5 · answered by Laceyd5 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
u need to get out and now. u cant go on myspace or answers. why not your parents can tell u not to go on here but not your bf he is not worth it. he is tellin u u are pretty and stuff cause he wants u to stick around. If he hasnt hit u its possible that he sure could.
2007-12-14 19:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reinstate your myspace and delete the boyfriend. HIs behaviour is HIS problem, not yours. Nothing you do or don't do will change him or his behaviour.
You deserve better. And you don't want your son to grow up with him as a role model on how to treat women.
2007-12-14 05:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by Judy B 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Nobody deserves to be treated the way you are , it looks like he has insecurities of his own , its definately NOT your fault ! get out of there as soon as you can !
2007-12-14 05:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
get out now. the boy is out of it. no one needs to be treated like that.
2007-12-14 05:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by cowboy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
His behavior is not going to get better, it will only get worse. He needs therapy, and I doubt he will admit to it. Get out, and get out quickly, don't talk to him about it, just pack your stuff, your kid, and get out now.
2007-12-14 05:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋