before i met him i used to have lots of guy friends
i used have more guy friends then girls
Now that i have been 2 yrs with him i lost contact with all my friends...i found few and i want to go out with them and hang out but i know my bf is too jealous he wont let me and i understand him..but there is lots guys here in yahoo say that they arent jealous if there gf have guy friends....I dont think its true...What do you girls think?
2007-12-14 05:21:12 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you and me and we never gonna understnad the love... he loves you so much so he don't wanna lose you by other guys... that's all///
2007-12-14 05:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Honey I had/have the same thing and I married the guy. I'm still friendsless. The girls I knew hung out with the guys, and getting them seperated for my sake was too much. When group hang outs happen they don't get why I can't go if there is a guy there. It was one of the biggest stressors on our relationship, especially when it was long distance relationship because then I didn't even have him around to be with. Now that he's here in person I haven't thought about it as much, and sense marriage he's loosened up a bit - ie: i now talk to a few guys and he doesn't go crazy. I still probably couldn't hang out with them. This guy was meant to be my husband though, but if yours isn't then I would seriously consider dumping him because this problem will last forever.
I do think this is natural for most guys though. It's the way they are. If you can look past it then stay. I know how big of a problem this can cause. You might resent him for years.
2007-12-14 05:44:09 · answer #2 · answered by Mary 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is insecure in your relationship. Guys can have friends that are girls and girls can have friends that are guys without there being a problem. The fact that you say he doesnt "let" you though is what bothers me. It makes him seem really controlling and a relationship needs to be based on trust, which obviously he doesn't have. I have guy friends and I would never think of cheating on my husband. I love him and he trusts me and knows nothing would happen. Either make him understand that or find a more trusting relationship.
2007-12-14 05:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa L 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all you made the mistake by neglecting the relationship with your friends and letting someone else dictate what you're allowed to do. If you cater to someone's insecurities now, you'll always have to. Now you want to start hanging out with these guys all of a sudden, how does that look? I think I'll run more smoothly if you hang out as a group at first so your boyfriend gets to meet everyone.
My best friend is a guy and I made it known to my bf when we started dating that we're a package deal. I pointed out to him there's no difference in hanging out with a guy or a girl because I could go out with my girlfriends and meet guys! No man will approach me if I'm out with a guy.
2007-12-14 05:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Some of your friends are EX? "only guys friends"? That's asking too much, I don't think that's being "overly jelous", I would NOT like my bf being friend to his ex. Only guy friends is cool if you are single but not if you are in a relationship. If you want to act like that then find some one that's cool with it, because this sooner or later will end in "tragedy": someone shot dead (that could be you) and someone in jail. You are just playing with fire.
2016-05-23 23:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do u mean u understand him?! if hes jealous that means hes insecure and doesnt trust you. hes is controlling u which will lead to beating ur a** when you dont do what he says. u had ur own mind and friends when u met him so keep it that way. i hate when a female let a guy dictate who in the hell her friends can and cant be. i bet he still has his friends. unless you like this treatment which is a form of abuse, tell ur bf to stop playin the daddy role.
2007-12-14 05:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by Audrean L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My bf doesn't get jealous unless I get too close with one or two of them. It's alright to be jealous but not until he stops you from losing your friends! Tell him that you guys are just friends and he has to trust you!
2007-12-14 05:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess he doesn't trust you. Or he's too concerned he could lose you. You need to tell him how you feel and say that you're not as happy as you were before. It's not him, but it's because you don't have any guy friends anymore. Tell him that you'd never cheat on him and you'll still spend time with him.
2007-12-14 05:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Somtimes i find my self in tht situation. But sseriously of you have been going out for tht long you both shuld have a big thing called trust. he shuld be able to trust u to hang out with guys n if he says i trust u not dem tell him dat dey repect u n dey wuldnt do nothin to u. tlk to him about it n tell him to chill off.
2007-12-14 05:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think if your let your boyfriend control who you talk to your in for a world of hurt. Its sounds like hes more than just jealous sounds like he has control issues and your letting it happen. Its one thing to have a boyfriend and totally different think to have a boyfriend who wants to control you. That's NOT a relationship!!
2007-12-14 05:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by C 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
How abt if your guy wud go out and hang out with many other girls,how wud it make you feel??
People always say they are not jealous of thier gf going out have u personaly met them and have seen them doing the truth as they preach.
Do what suits u rite.
And remenber what u sow u will reap.
2007-12-14 05:26:58 · answer #11 · answered by Dipi s 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋