Is it worth trying?
Why or why not??
2007-12-14 05:02:17 · 8 answers · asked by Asian Cutie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've seen it both ways. (I know the people involved in both situations.)
#1: They lived 1000 miles apart and met at a church camp in a completely different state. They corresponded via web cam, email, telephone - whatever medium they could. They flew cross country to visit each other several times out of the year. Things worked really well for them, and they've been married for four years.
#2: They also lived about 1000 miles apart and knew each other way back in high school. Started doing the long distance thing, got engaged, flew to visit each other frequently. She found a job a few hours north of where he lived, he moved up there and got a new job as well, and they moved in together. Things went south in a hurry. She hated her job, she hated living with him, and no matter how much they tried to make it work, they were truly miserable together. She moved back home and they tried the long distance thing again. It didn't work. They broke up for good ... and now they pretty much hate each other. The man says it was the most awful experiece and he'd never do it again, ever.
Personally, I would never do it. I need physical affection, tenderness, my man at my side. I'm not hard wired to live through communication; I need affection just as much, if not more.
I'm not sure what makes #1 work and #2 not work. I can only assume that the couple in #1 was determined to make it last, and one (or both) of the people in #2 wasn't as devoted to it or were feeling pressured to get married, I don't know.
If you think you can do it, try; you may regret it if you don't, and if it doesn't work out, at least you learned something. But you'll have a lot of things going against you, primarily trust issues.
2007-12-14 05:13:42 · answer #1 · answered by xK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A waste, they always faulter no matter how hard you try. You can't have a realtionship over the phone. Sure it works at first be as time goes on you will start to get irrated not being able to see or touch this person, not talking sex, but just to hug and kiss, and take them out have fun. It is hard and if you are going to do it keep this in mind.
2007-12-14 05:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by DT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My brother married a girl from another country so it works for some. It does take a lot of work though.
2007-12-14 05:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by Stripe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its worth trying, for sure. But I really dont think you'll get too far. Excuse the pun. :)
2007-12-14 05:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by Ash 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well depends on how long distance hey are. like me and my boyfriend live 30 minutes apart and thats hard enough what with his job and after school activities... we rarely see each other. but we make it work.
2007-12-14 05:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO
you never know when they are telling the truth
you never know if they are with who they say they are with
you never know if they are cheating
you never know what they are doing
its NOT WORTH IT. dont waste your time!
2007-12-14 05:06:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea, it stretches the lips too much.
2007-12-14 05:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by Zeera 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
same as any other but a bit more frustrating with just ocasional sex
2007-12-14 05:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by John S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋