Is this normal bf behavior?

Question

i just got out of a two year relationship w my ex and jumped right into new relationship with another guy. He can be very sweet, he's a smooth talker and i think he genuinely likes me. He tried to hide the large number of girls hes "been with" and the fact that he occassionally smokes pot. He thinks hes being honest and open w me when he says "sometimes i wish i were single for a moment to bang some of these hot girls i see". i was shocked he said that, but when i thought about it, it could be harmless. He teases how my butt and chest are ok, but that he's seen better. he started out so sweet, he made me feel protected and cared about, but after a month he changed. He loves to flirt with other girls, which is ok, except that he goes a lil far. he likes to "scooch" girls on their butt or tickle and hug them. I work with him and at the end of the day when were cleanin up he always hangs w the other pretty girls and ignores me, but that could b harmless in his eyes.

Answer 1

it doesn't matter whether it's harmless in his eyes - in general, people won't think this is "normal boyfriend behaviour". i don't think it's right for him to be keeping his options open like this. he doesn't really seem to be much in love, it sounds like the new excitement of the relationship wore off after a month because i think that's all he was after - a quick fix. if he flirts with girls as much as you describe, and he makes remarks like "i wish i were single so i could bang her" then i wouldn't think it to be harmless.
fact is, this guy is not ready for commitment and you were just so willing to find a new relationship once you got out of your old one that you fell in love without seeing these "flirting flaws" of his in the beginning. personally i don't think he has much respect for you. if he goes this far in flirting with girls when you're near, to the point where he starts touching them or even ignors you, then god knows what he might do once you're not around. i'm not saying he's cheating, i'm just saying that i don't think this guy will stick around for long.
confront him with this and tell him how you feel. if he doesn't understand or says he does understand but then proves the opposite by not changing, then i recommend you to seriously consider dumping him since you're only asking for a little respect here, which is nothing out of the ordinary.
good luck!

Answer 2

I am going to be honest and frank... YOU DESERVE BETTER!! Come on hun, you should not be with a guy that puts you down and ignores you to talk to other women. He may be saying stuff as a joke, but there is always a little truth in the joke in how he feels. You deserve to be with a guy that compliments you and makes sure you never feel ignored. If he is saying that sometimes he wished he were single, then maybe he is trying to drop a hit. A bf should not be telling you that. He should be happy that he isn't single and that you are the girl he chooses to be with. Move on hun... grant him his wish of single-hood and find someone who will actually treat you right.

Answer 3

Not normal behavior. Sounds like you're another trophy, just one more girl he managed to tame. If my boyfriend ever said he wished he was single so he could bang hot girls, I would cry; that's such an inconsiderate thing to say. He should be happy with you and spending time with you, not talking about having sex with other girls, telling you that your chest isn't a good enough size, and chatting with pretty girls at work.

I agree that men should be able to say they think a girl is pretty, but I don't think that they should do what your boyfriend is doing to you. That's over the top, it's disrespectful, and it's red-flag behavior to me.

Answer 4

He is a player and a user and his actions are not harmless.