why are skinny girls respected more?

Question

im pretty. but im fat. I need to lose wait but i still need the same ammount of respect as skinny girls get. I am really nice and i dont deserve to be talked about 24/7 behind my back

Answer 1

Everyone gets disrespected. You are very self conscious since you are over weight. Be happy with yourself and treat everyone the way you want to be treated. If you want to lose weight, lose it. If you don't, be over weight. It's your life, just be happy with yourself no matter what. If someone disrespects you because you are heavy, do you really want their respect. What does it say about a person that treats others poorly because of size? It says that they are a shallow individual that finds a need to put others down to cover their own insecurities.

Answer 2

Pretty, Skinny girls get talked about behind their back too. I never knew how petty little girls (and boys) could be until I have spent time listening to my 12 year old daughter and her 12-13 year old friends. GOD DAMN they ***** about nothing and think the world revolves around them...little do they know what the REAL world is like. I suspect you are in the same boat. If you think life is tough now, just wait until reality stops by. NO one has a perfect life (as you must be assuming) regardless of what they say or present...

Answer 3

Are you sure these people are talking about your weight behind your back?

Being skinny won't stop that. There will always be petty insecure people to find some reason to put you down in a vain attempt to soothe their own egos. Once you are skinny, you will find that people will become jealous of your figure and bash you for that. You can't win.

My advice: get used to it and develop a thick skin. Maintain a healthy weight and screw the petty jealous people.

Answer 4

You have to respect girls who have the willpower not to stuff their face with fatty foods and sugar treats. You're probably younger and don't have much control over your diet because your parents feed you, but avoiding junk food and fatty foods as much as possible will help tremendously. Getting involved in some sport(s) would also help.

Also, a common occurance in women wanting to lose weight is that they get all motivated to do it, they take some steps, maybe join a sports team (rare) and eat less, but after a few weeks of not being instantly thin, they give up and stuff their face in sorrow. You have to respect girls who can stick with it and not give up.

It's more than about respecting a girl just because her body isn't large - it's about respecting the discipline or lifestyle it takes to stay that way.

Answer 5

Because they fit the "mold" of perfection in our society. It's not fair, but there is not much you can do about it.

But, you CAN earn respect from others regardless of your weight. Figure out what you're good at and work on it and be the absolute best you can be at it. Walk with confidence, speak with confidence, and smile. Don't ever give the impression that you don't think you're as good as the "perfect people". Even when they are cruel, you have to see it for what it is; they are stupid, shallow, self absorbed people. Don't let 'em get to you! Show 'em!

Answer 6

Because, unfortunately, being skinny is a part of the beauty standard in this country. You should not be disrespected cause you're a big girl. But since people have their stereotypes and reservations about big people there's not much you can do about it. All I can say is be pleasant, be nice, be a great person overall. Eventually they'll have to see you and not who they think you are cause of what they think about big ppl in general.

Answer 7

I think an education and learning how to spell are much more important than worrying over a girl's weight.

If you need to lose weight, go to your doctor to structure a proper healthy diet for you to follow.

Respect -- what is respect to you? Being noticed, being talked to, being asked out for a date? That's not respect, honey. Respect is something much deeper and less shallow than that.

And sorry, but people have better things to do than talk about you 24/7. Talk to your guidance counselor on how to work on your self-esteem issues.

Answer 8

Because the skinny girls are this nation's "ideal" of how every woman should be. As someone who is overweight.. you will never have the same respect because you do not fall into the same category as they do. I do not say this to be hurtful, but to be true.

Answer 9

Don't think that they are respected more. Most skinny girls have more confidence. Bigger girls tend to have the attitude that they aren't good enough or they have to be tough to protect themselves. If more bigger girls would be more assertive and those skinny girls would be less selfish. Us middle size girls may just be okay

Answer 10

because they think they all that in a bag of chip and the guys like girls that are skinny and they don't show respect the the thick gils. i like thick girls because they got alittle meat on there bones.